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WHY ME

Posted by jyoti on February 9, 2016
I heard some conversation between two guys. One was 35 year old and the other one was 25 year old. First one who's younger than other he was upset and was complaining about his life's issues.He was sharing his failures with that guy. He said, why I have so many problems in my life? Why am I suffering from so many issues in my life? Sometimes job issue,sometimes health and sometimes family problems? *WHY ME*?The elder guy listened him very carefully. After some time he ( elder guy ) said, in life everyone has different problems and we have to face it not to complain for it. As you said you have numbers of problems in your life, just think for a while that you don't have any type of abnormalities which stops you to do your daily works.You can walk easily, you can see this beautiful world, you can eat, you can listen etc just think about those people who face that type of abnormalities and can't do their daily works without someone’s help.You should compare yourself with these people! Why are you looking towards the ones who are greater than you? Put an eye on them who are less than you! If you are complaining about your pay that you get from your job, just think about the ones who don't even get a job, though they have many abilities! If you are wishing for new shoes and they aren't affordable, just think that there are people who don't even have feet!Now why aren't you you saying *WHY ME*? Why do you complain why me when you get pain or when you suffer why don't you ask why me when you're happy? There are many people suffering from depression! And they aren't happy, not even a bit! Why don't you ask why me when you get food to full fill your hunger? Whereas there are so many people including little children who don't get enough food to eat!There's just one rule to be happy in your life “BE HAPPY IN WHAT YOU HAVE”!!The boy was ashamed but the man told him not to! And in the end all that happened was that he adopted the way to be happy which was “NOT TO COMPLAIN WHY ME WHEN IN PROBLEM JUST TO THANK GOD FOR WHAT HE HAD PROVIDED YOU WITH”
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Trust

Posted by jyoti on January 21, 2016
Trust, faith, believe, these are just simple words but those words are very affected in one’s life. Sometimes their effects are very dangerous in our life. If someone has blindly trust on a person and suddenly he/she break the trust of that person, what would be the feeling of that person.Can I explain a broken heart in words? Can I explain that pain in words? I think no one can explain.Few days ago I met my friend. I felt that she was upset and wanted to share something, so I asked her about it. First she refused that she was upset but after that she said, I am confuse to take a decision. I asked her to share whatever is running in her mindShe started to share her confusion. She saidI have a very close friend. I blindly trust her. I never think that she will lie or hide anything to me. I felt that she's my shadow, my soul mate and my only and only one friend with whom I can open my heart but I was wrong. I'm not that much intelligent to judge a person.I listened her very carefully and tried to get that point which made her that sad. She continued, few days ago my that friend sent me a paragraph and said, I dedicate this to you. I was really happy to see this as that was really superb and I can use this for my work so I asked her, Is it your writing? Have you written this or you got it from another side? She replied very confidently, no dear it's mine I wrote this for you and it's a gift for you from my side.After that she asked me some more times, did you use my writing for your work. I said “not yet as I don't want to take anyone's credit. It was written by you so I thought it's not fair that I get the credit” but she forced me to use it at my work place. I agreed and used it at my work place. I got some appreciation because of her.One day I was using a social media site and I saw that writing which someone posted on her status. I was shocked as I used this at my work place by using my name. I called to my friend and asked her clearly about it. At starting she got angry and said you didn't believe me so why are you still talking to me. You can close this chapter and leave me alone. I said ok and left her alone at that time.Next day she called me and wanted to clear all this issue, so she said, ya it was my writing but I published this everywhere without mentioning my name. May be that person did copy paste on her status. I said ok but you should inform me that you published it everywhere so I didn't use this at my work place but she was still giving me excuses.Now I am confused to trust her again as she knows very well, that her this mistake will make a trouble or it will messy up my condition in front of my colleagues. But what to do…. People over here are really not trustworthy….”She completed her tragedy and then she started asking me about my point of view! She asked that what do I think regarding it. I told her that nowadays it's really common to deceive someone. If you'll take it seriously you will get much pain so just avoid and try to forget all that what happened.People will betray you many times, would you each and every time hurt yourself for their mistake? It's in their nature just like when we don't want to talk to someone and the same person calls. What do we do? We just lie that we aren't present at our house. We just lie on this little thing. So try to forgive the one who hurts you and never forget what it taught you!So my humble request to you is, try to forget all that issue and start your routine life normally…...
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Smart phone

Posted by jyoti on January 6, 2016
Sad but trueA teacher after the dinner she started checking homework done by the students. Her husband is strolling around with a smart phone playing his favourite game ‘Candy Crush Saga’.When reading the last note, the wife starts crying with silent tears.Her husband saw this and asked, ‘Why are you crying dear? What happened?’Wife: ‘Yesterday I gave homework to my 1st Standard students, to write something on topic -My Wish-.’Husband: ‘OK, but why are you crying?’Wife: ‘Today while checking the last note, it makes me crying.’Husband curiously: ‘What’s written in the note that makes you crying?’Wife: ‘Listen’My wish is to become a smart phone.My parents love smart phone very much.They care smart phone so much that sometimes they forget to care me.When my father comes from office tired, he has time for smart phone but not for me.When my parents are doing some important work and smart phone is ringing, within single ring they attend the phone, but not me even...even if I am crying.They play games on their smart phones not with me.When they are talking to someone on their smart phone, they never listen to me even if I am telling something important.So, My wish is to become a smart phone.After listening the note husband got emotional and asked the wife, ‘who wrote this?’.Wife: ‘Our son’.Gadgets are beneficial, but they are for our ease not to cease the love amongst family and loved ones.Children see and feel everything what happens with & around them. Things get imprinted on their mind with an everlasting effect. Let’s take due care, so that they do not grow with any false impressions.
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Addiction

Posted by jyoti on December 31, 2015
ADDICTION…. What it is? Is it only a word or a disease? Are people only addicted to smoking, taking pills, alcohol, drugs etc? I think most of the people, including children, are addicted to technology!I want to share my views on this topic. How much this addiction effects our daily routine life? So let me start from the ladies either they're working woman or a housewife.Nowadays it's very common to have an account on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc. Most of the ladies like to upload their daily status and their profile pics and due to that sometimes they burn their food and sometimes they ignore their daily house chores which are actually necessary.This addiction causes the house atmosphere to change and because of it these types of mothers are getting distance from their children. The horrible fact is this, these ladies are unknown to this distance. Sometimes it's not enough to do only your house chores your family needs your attention more.Let's move to men. Like women, men are also interested in technology. This interest causes addiction. The men at work face a lot of problems caused by this addiction. Whenever they get free time, they just rush towards their phones and computers, they can utilize this time to complete their remaining work. Not only this, they sleep late using their WhatsApp, Facebook and other social networks, and then they wake up early in the morning for their offices which affects their health, or else they lag behind on their work.Not only adults, children are also terribly addicted to technology! Today's generation, no matter if it's a 6 year old child or a 13 year old child they need a smartphone in their hand. Is it good for their health? The mobile phone's radiations are very strong that they may affect a human brain. They're harmful for adults also but because of sensitive brains it's most harmful for the children. The problem that occurs is that the parents think that their child grows more by this technology, whereas it's not true at all.This addiction, nowadays lives like a family member in one's house. It's not bad to use this technology, but as long as it's in limited amount....
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SO MANY ARE IN LOVE BUT NOT TOGETHER

Posted by jyoti on December 26, 2015
*SO MANY ARE IN LOVE BUT NOT TOGETHER… SO MANY ARE TOGETHER BUT NOT IN LOVE*A few days ago I read those lines. For a while I was frozen ‘cause It was really very deep cut and it truly touched me. I couldn't sit-in myself from writing something about it. As I members, with sometimes some people facing that type of the strong feeling that we are living with a person without love.Mostly it happens when some people don't know the proper meaning of care, understanding, respect and values of togetherness etc. if someone is in any relationship but don't care of the other person’s thoughts, at that time it's very difficult to make a strong relationship between them.sometimes we just live our life with sacrifices. why so? ‘cause of some fears, or ‘cause of some other reasons. if anyone want to make a true relation they need to understand each other. There's no need to judge that other is wrong and we are perfect. You don't have any right to judge others.Someone said, “ don't hold your relation so tight that it can't take a breath and don't hold your relation so loose that it can run away easily”. Here we have to manage a good balance level in our life.If you need a better life with your loved one you should make a proper way, decide it that what is priority in your life? Prove them that they have a very valuable place in your life. Don't give them a chance to think that they can live without you. Don't give them a chance to choose other priorities than your presence.If someone wants to hold a relationship so first give the proper time on it. Spend some more time with each other and try to understand each other's sentiments. Love, care, understanding, trust, happiness etc one just needs to learn the absolute values of these emotions.At starting of any interconnection, the strong key is * mutual understanding.* If you aren't able to recognize your loved one’s pain from their eyes so it's difficult for them to bare that type of relation,as it's not for some minutes or some hours it's for whole life.I've observed one more thing in human nature if you will follow all instructions, advices, rules of a person, after a little time they change their mind and start to think like they are superior and the better one in the relationship.They always put you down in front others. It’s very devastating.When you feel like this for your dear one, at that time you think, why are we together without any love and respect? But sometimes for our culture and sometimes for our other family members we can't take any decision just coercion to live that life
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Parental responsibilities

Posted by jyoti on December 22, 2015
A few days ago, my younger daughter came to me and told me that she wanted to hear any story so I searched on google and found a story there, which gave me so many questions. Firstly, I want to share that story with you after that I will try to express my thoughts about this topic.“ PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITIES.”In that story a 9 year old son asked his father about his income.Son: Dad, how much you earn in one hour?Dad: It's not a good question to ask son!Son: Please reply dad!Dad: I told you, you're not allowed to ask this question.Son: I'm requesting you, please reply to my query.Dad: It's almost $100.Son kept quiet for a while and after that asked him, “can you give me $50?”Dad: So are you asking my income just because you need money? If you need to buy anything so you can tell me openly.Why were you asking like this?Son: No dad, I don't want to buy anything I just need $50.Now the father was getting angry and said you may go now. The boy was upset, but he didn't argue with his dad.After a few hours the father realized that he was too harsh with his son and it wasn't good, so he went to his room and called him. Hey, I will give you $50 but first you will tell me the reason that why do you need that money?The son opened his closed palm and showed him $50 and said, Dad it is my saving. I need more $50 because I want to spend one hour with you as you told me that your one hour’s worth is $100. His father was speechless. He didn't have a single word to say. He just hugged him and said all my time is yours son .After reading this story I was speechless too, as in my surroundings, I see so many kids like this, who want to spend time with their father but they can't.So what are parental responsibilities? Just to earn money for the kids? Is money enough for them? Or they need something more? Just for a moment imagine that you're a kid, so what would you want more?Every child in this world needs guidance.. And the best guidance they can get is from their parents, but what if their own parents have no time for them? What if their parents are too busy to earn that they forget to spend time with their kids? Children need most attention among all. They need love more than money….I am not saying that parents should stay with them all day long and should stop their businesses and earnings, but I want to say that every child needs time, not the whole day but a few moments. They need to spend a few moments with their parents, in those moments they learn to get attached to their parents. They learn the things that aren't taught in schools. They learn to love, they learn to tolerate, they learn to give time when they SPEND TIME with their parents.Some people think that if they give them money so they complete their responsibilities, isn't it? I don't agree with this thinking. If you want to see your kid with a strong and bold personality then don't focus on learning only. You have to understand the mentality of your children.Here I want to compare two kinds of children. Ones with good manners , patient, kind and sweet whereas the other ones are ill mannered, impatient and hot tempered kids... why is this so?Maintaining peace in the house and behaving well in front of your children is also included in parental responsibilities! Your children learn what they see you doing, if you fight in front of them or you scold them, it affects them! As shown above, the two kids belonged to two different areas and that was the reason behind their behaviors. They weren't responsible for that, their parents were or the people with whom they lived.Children need to be treated with love and affection.. they need motivation... they need someone to take proper care of them and no other person can do that better except for their parents. And those parents have to do it carefully, not for themselves but for their child to grow more & prosper! ♡
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Words without love

Posted by jyoti on December 20, 2015
Anatole France was right when he said until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened. Animals bring you instant happiness.Isn't it true? Let me tell you one story. This story is about the relation between a human being and a bird.Rozi likes birds a lot, she always likes to feed them. At her home she fixed a place where she placed 2 pots for birds, 1 for water and 1 for food. One day she went outside with her family. Her car stopped in a traffic jam she was getting bored so she looked in the surrounding, suddenly she heard a parrot’s whistle she wanted to know that from where that voice came?After few min she saw a parrot in the car which was behind her car. That parrot was so attractive. Her kids pointed it out and wanted to touch it, but she didn't allow to touch as she didn't know the people who were sitting in the carWhen the traffic moved and both cars were going on the way her hubby saw the other car’s driver and told Rozi that he's my old friend! Now her kids shouted that we know them, so we want to touch that parrot.Rozi's husband gave a stop sign to that driver. They stopped the car on the roadside. The father moved out and met his friend. Both were happy for this incident. They gathered for some time. After that he requested him that his children wanted to touch the parrot. His friend allowed them to touch it.When his friend asked for permission, his younger daughter was starting to cry that I want to play with it more so his friend offered him to get the parrot. The father refused his offer, but his friend forced him to take it. So he took the parrot.Now that parrot was a new member of their home. At the beginning Rozi didn't feel comfortable with the parrot. She didn't like his presence in her life. All the time she felt irritated by its presence. She didn't take care of him. She liked birds, but she didn't like to put them in the cage so she fought so many times with her kids for that. Kids didn't hear her and wanted to do what they want. They checked its food and water daily, but one day they forgot.Rozi was little upset on that day so when she heard parrot’s whistle, she shouted at him, but parrot didn't stop whistling so she went near its cage and saw the empty bowls. She got hurt, she took off bowls and filled them with water and food.When she put bowls in the cage, parrot started to lick her hand. She felt softer in her heart. She liked that touch. She felt a change in her mood. She sat near to the cage and saw how it was eating food and drinking water.She forgot to do her house chores. When the doorbell rang, she woke up like she was sleeping with open eyes. Her kids were at the door. They asked about the lunch. Rozi replied them that she forgot to make lunch as she sat with the parrot and time passed very quickly.She said, just wait for half an hour I will make something for you. You may go and take a bath, and then you may play with the parrot. Kids obeyed her advice.After one hour they had their lunch and again wanted to play with the parrot, but now Rozi says, it's my turn to play with it. The kids were surprised. They asked “Are you serious mom? Do you want to play with the parrot?" She replied, "yes, I want to sit with it." Kids were happy to see this.Now day by day Rozi was attached with the parrot. She took care of him like her kids. She started to give him food on time. The parrot also got too much attached to her. Parrot recognized her presence. When she came, the parrot literally talked to her. She felt good where as her kids, they got angry, they used to say, "mom, we brought this parrot, why is it attached to you?" But she didn't answer..The parrot, by listening her foot steps, came and sat on her shoulder, it bit her earrings and ears and she felt amazing. Day by day Rozi started to recognize its whistle, its needs. She started to identify that what it wanted.That shows that animals also need attention and love...Animals also feel, they feel good when someone cares.. That's why it's said, "THERE IS NO FUNDAMENTAL DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MAN AND ANIMALS IN THEIR ABILITY TO FEEL PLEASURE AND PAIN, HAPPINESS AND MISERY!
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THOUGHTS BY HEART

Posted by jyoti on December 17, 2015

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Why do some people give pain to others?

Why are some  jealous of others?

Why don't they have fear of God?

Why do they  think if they do something wrong to others, they give them pain and make them cry and after that God will give them happiness? Is it possible?

If someone is crying for you, do you think in this situation will god be happy with you? If a person thinks he/she offers their prayers daily and they read religious books daily they would get nearer to God. Isn't it true?  But because of you, tears come into someone's eyes so no need to read religious book and offer prayers.

First, you shouldn't hurt people by your behavior, then focus on your prayers. God lives in a human's heart. When you pinch  someone's heart, then the tears will come out of their eyes. Someone said, there are  99% emotions in the tears.

If you give pain to others, how can you live without pain? Just because of their little happiness some people make others lives like hell.

We all are here for some purpose but that purpose is not to intentionally hurt someone. If we cannot give happiness to anyone, so we have no right to give pain.

If someone has some power they should use their power in a positive way.
But what do people do? They misuse their power.

 Who is the real winner?  

Who pushes the people down or pulls the people up?

I have a question and I want to know the answer. Why are some people sad to see others happy?

If we want to please God, we  must rejoice in his servants. If you live your life with this principle “live and let people live" so all could be happier..

                                                          ( jyoti )

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online friendship

Posted by jyoti on December 14, 2015

Nowadays most people prefer online friends. Let's discuss about the advantages and disadvantages of it.

First of all I want to clear this point that why most people need online friendship? These type of people who often like online friendship have very shy nature and they don't have enough confidence to do face to face conversation. These kind of people always like to hide themselves in their real life.

Now i am going to share some other aspects of online friendship. It's my opinion, maybe not yours as everyone has different opinions.

In online friendship you can share your every feeling as you don't know the person personally. You can exchange things in your native language. You can learn different cultures, different mentality and different living style. You can extend your knowledge. Simply you can discuss your every problem with your online friend without any hesitation.

But there are some safety issues which you can't ignore. Like we can never be sure if the other person is lying to us or not. At that time, it can put us in any trouble.

For example, at this moment most people use Skype for some reasons like learning any new language, making some friends or for group chats, etc. it's a very useful platform for us but some people use it very wrongly.

Like they get some personal information and use them in erroneous ways. Sometimes they misuse your photos too. Here, I’ll like to share one more thing, it's about today’s youngsters, their main problem is that they don't want to take anything seriously. A few days ago I heard a news about it, that one girl committed suicide for the reason of bullying. When I got that news I was shocked. why did she do this? what was her parents’ fault?

it shows everything has two sides, good and bad. it's bad for them who are not aware of cyber crime and take it so emotionally and it's good for them who can't go outside as they have some health issues. so they can get some good effects of online friendship. They have only one choice to talk to different people and gain some experience.

One more thing, in every stage of our life we people learn from other person either we meet them in real life or online….

(-Jyoti Sunil)

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