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It is hard to change his mind

A roommate of mine, who has been living with me for about half year, is nice and humor, but looks extremely thin. 

There is a problem with him that he is really crazy about computer games, and he can spend all his free time involing himself with them. And sometimes he stays up late untill the next morning just in order to get the levels. I can say that he fouces on the video games more than anyone in his life. I just cannot understand why he has such energy in doing this and do not feel guilty or shame of wasting his cherishing youth.

As a friend, I have talked so much to him about how the games influcened his health and even maybe do harm to his future, but he just smiled and still went on what he did. I am feel depressed because my words cannot work to him at all. He is deeply adicted to the virtual life, and I hate the computer games that ruin a youth' life.

I find that he is kind of stubborn especially involing the topics about belife, health and games. I am so surpised that he is just at the begainning of twentysomething, but his values has become so solide that cannot easilly be changed or accept others' opinion. I doubt that whether or not it is the consequence of continually playing computer games.

I really want to help him because the games have made him give out exercise and he can stay in bed all day long except go to bathroom. I really do not know how to do with him, and hope someday he would return to the normal life. 

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A lonely man

Man is lonely most of the time, which i just know now.

I liked to share my stories with others before and be nice to them, which I know I was lonely that time.

I used to think that i could find a man who knew me and could give me comfort when i was low, but nothing had i got though i paid a lot.

Now, I will count on myself, live with my mind, and accompany my friends and families. I dont want to expect anything from people but I will offer my help and love to them, because I know loneliness for most of people is hard to deal with.

Man is a lonely animal, they seek the bay all the time, but how many people can really feel firmed inside their heart, I want to do something I have less done before, that is to seek the shelter from the bottom of my heart.

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Once upont a time, a fish who lived in a little pool where nobody know and he had a huge dream that was to fly in the sky, so he made friends with a bird. However, the bird hated to be wet so they just talked and shared their life experience between the natural barrier of the water.

At first, the fish was so excited because the bird always talked something that the fish never experienced, which made the fish more eager to have a flying experience. And the bird also liked the life of the fish, so they quickly became good friends.

But finally the fish found that the bird just talked and talked without any help to his dream.And he thought that the bird wasn't willing to help him and began to blamed the bird.The bird was sad and made promise to made his dream come true.

However, the bird had no place to carry the fish out of the water because his tiny body was smaller than the size of the fish, finally he found out a way, that was to ask a big bird who had a huge beak to help, so the fish could stay inside the beak. The poor fish never thought he was in danger. Then,we know that the fish's sad ending.

This story is to tell us something:If you're a fish, then do what a fish can do, an unpractical dream maybe do more harm than good.

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Please Be Nice To Her.

The universe is always attrative to me, I cannot remember how many times I lay down at night under the dome counting the stars. I used to thought that one of the most beautiful objects in our world belongs to stars, however, like most residents, excluding our home--the Earth. 

I think, one of the tragedies of human beings is that most of us cannot relish the beauty and charm of the Earth just like the way we see the moon, which we have expressed abundant praise to it but actually it looks so poor and colorless when seen in a closer way. Even the stars, blinking in the sky, are extremely hot and lifeless and no one would survive when close to them, and just the remote distance gives them charm and causes our curiosities to it. 

The Earth,so far the  only home to us,supporting, feeding  and warming us in this extremely vast universe, has been ignored and spoiled by many people. I am really worried about our sick mother will be worse because the awreness of protecting our planet has not been fully established. And we are pouring wastes and toxic products to her and diminshing the biodiversity. 

I hope more and more people will join together to protect our shared home, because we are now in danger but most of us do not recognise this truth. I love my home-the Earth, and hope you so.

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No need to live like the other one

I am so appreciated that my parents gave me the chance to come to the world, though what the gift god gave me just like most of you.

When I was fifteen years old,  I realized that I NEED TO FIGHT FOR MY FUTURE, because what my parents offered to me were, like the vast mojarity of people, just a healthy body and a well brain, plus a relatively comfortable place for me to grow up, but I never complain about that. From then on, I was aware that if I wanted to go to a better school, and led a higher level of life, I must be excellent.

Since then, I imitated the "successful  students" who had went to my dreaming school and I followed their pace so that I could own the successful outcomes just like them. I did become an so-called good student in scores after that, which made me, under my consciousness, think that if I wanted to succeed I should live like the "successful person". With time going by, one day when I sat down alone and reconsidered what I had got in my life, I found that my so-called fighting life was almost empty except going for the other ones' life. Though I went to a not bad university, I still felt I am averay and nothing special in my life. 

I was so glad that I met a teacher in my optional course of information colleting. "If you lead a life like everybody and don't know how to cultivate yourself, you will always be everybody," he said in a class. All of a sudden, I knew I had been moving into a wrong direction, I just did what others had done and tried my best to become the one who I thought was successful. 

I collected the past mode of my life, I began to consider what I was interseted and what kind of life I wanted to have.Now, though depressed sometimes, I am going for my life with glory because I am deeply aware that I am creating a special life in this colorful world. The interest of life is to design, plan and manage it,  and add something special to it. There is no need to be an anyone, in a other word, live the way you are eager to have and most importantly, you are the leader of your life. 

Thanks for reading.

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How many friends are enough in life

Yesterday my best friend said that he was so proud of himself that he had way more friends than me; it is true that I just have a few friends, five or six or so. I am not good at maintaining a relationship with men, I acknowledge that even my best friends which I own less connect with me than other people, I guess. However, I am so glad that they are still remember me and it seems that our relationship are strong enough to pass the time, maybe you will ask why I am so confident with myself. The reason of that is like mind.

I have met a lot of people in my life, classmates, schoolmates or others. Some of them we share a precious experience, however, it doesn't mean that something you guys have in common would bring you a good friend. We are changing all the time, our body grow mature or old, our mind become more socialized, even the value of judging a friend changes, too. So it is hard to have a person who can company with you in the next of your life, which I regard as a gift from god. I don't expect to have many friends in my life and spend most of my time maintaining that relationship, I just want the relationship between us follows the step of time and allow them to change, keeping or going. And I still believe that a true friendship can stand any challenge.

How many friends are enough in life? It is a tough question. Maybe one, maybe hundreds; that depend upon what you want from them and how you feel when you stay with them. Some people, like me, when they are alone they don't feel lonely, even they can find something fun of life which they don't have when they have friends around them; but for some people, staying alone would be a tormented time.

In my opinion, there is no limitation to have friends, but I think, to find out why you want to make friends with them and how they influence you should be considered seriously in your life; because a good friend will give you the positive energy and some supports or consolation in the face of life's hardships.

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People come and pass

I have seen so many people coming, staying and passing on my journey of life, and just small part of them we still sort of keep in touch and just several become my best friends.

There was a time when I was totally confused that whether I should spend so much time dealing with the people you meet and trying to know them so that I could possibly make them become my friends, for most of the people you meet in your life, such as classmates, schoolmates or colleagues and all, once you two are separated for different goals or other, will seldom be encountered again. To be honest, making friends especially the kind that you can share with them something private is a tough work for me, because I just that guy easily influenced by their feelings especially someone I want to make friends with.

Just after a few years, something dramatic happened to my mind, and I realized that: oh, this is the real life itself. Life is something about change, and people coming and passing in our life is just a reflection of it. Life would be pale if all the stuff stay in the same state, and we should be glad that it is never going to take place.

Life changes all the time just like the Earth spins; once you acknowledge this truth, you will be more courageous to cope with your life. Now I am interested in communicating with different people appearing in my life and making friends with them. I don’t complain anymore that people step into my life suddenly and then disappear in some way, because that is the reality that I can’t change and what I can do is just to accept and memorize the time we have ever shared.

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I am leaving for my hometown and my parents. I had planned to stay here for almost one month and then go home with my parents for one or two weeks. But two days ago, I changed my plan, I suddenly realized that I made a mistake, which I thought that away from my parents was a symbol of grown-up.

Is it true that away from your parents means you are mature? I have to say it is kind of right in specific period of our life, especially when we never actually away from our parents. In this case, staying somewhere that your parents can't get you easily can enhance our maturity. For most people, university is a great opportunity to offer this experience. This kind of independence, in my opinion, is rooted in the enthusiasm of pursuing freedom and constructing our private world. However, it is still far from enough to be total maturity, because if we see independence as away from somebody, we will be always immature.

We easily regard independence as maturity in mind, because all the time before our total independence we live under the protection of them and leaving them is already an incredible thing in our life. We want to prove to our parents that we can live without them and we have grown up, and want to keep them from our business. Dramatically, though we and our parents have stay in separated places, we need them in emotion, such as the encouragement, recognition and so on; however, we less talk to them that we want that emotions from them because of our self-esteem.

Now, I realize that I need them in feelings and they need me, too. So maybe this change of my mind is another step toward maturity for me. And I hope it will be helpful for you and make you get more time to stay with your family, especially your parents. Thanks for reading.

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Running, not just run

I kind of disliked running before. When I was at the high school, I kept running everyday just because of the only desire to keep health and enter to the university; and running is a convenient and easy way to excise. I never gave it too much other meaning so what I felt after the running was tired and out of breath. In the university, every time when I felt my body was not strong enough, and I thought of the running. However, after several times of running, I quit; then I would start it again when I felt something wrong with my body.

During the time I studied in the hospital, I saw so many people in bad state, even some were fighting against the cancer. From their talk and expression, I could feel the strong desire of them to recover health. Except some patients get sick because of the old age or physical trauma, many of the patients in hospital result from their bad habits such as smoking, hard-drinking, lake of excise and so on. I gradually realized how important to have a strong body, though I have that before, not as deep-going as this time. Another reason to keep me running is a girl in my class who almost runs everyday and she is very bright and has something special that I can tell from other girls who less excise. And I wanted to figure it out.

Nowadays, I am crazy about running. I have changed the way I ran before, which was just to finish 1000 meters as soon as I could. Now I run because I want to, and my mind is no more focusing on the final; I don’t know where the ending is and if I want to stop to have a breath then I stop, otherwise keep going. During the running time, I watch the people passing me by, hear the birds singing and enjoy the view, in the meantime, think something happen to me or just run. After one month or so, something incredible happened to me, my endurance was longer and the efficiency of my study was higher than before, even under the pressure of medical examinations. Therefore, even though my time of review was extremely limited, I still got around to running.

 I am so glad that my legs function well and I can depend on them to run more and explore the outside; they give me more freedom and the feeling of being alive. Moreover, running offers me a time to clear my mind and think of my life. So I will continue to do it and I hope the people who are reading this blog can benefit from it. 

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