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I am leaving for my hometown and my parents. I had planned to stay here for almost one month and then go home with my parents for one or two weeks. But two days ago, I changed my plan, I suddenly realized that I made a mistake, which I thought that away from my parents was a symbol of grown-up.

Is it true that away from your parents means you are mature? I have to say it is kind of right in specific period of our life, especially when we never actually away from our parents. In this case, staying somewhere that your parents can't get you easily can enhance our maturity. For most people, university is a great opportunity to offer this experience. This kind of independence, in my opinion, is rooted in the enthusiasm of pursuing freedom and constructing our private world. However, it is still far from enough to be total maturity, because if we see independence as away from somebody, we will be always immature.

We easily regard independence as maturity in mind, because all the time before our total independence we live under the protection of them and leaving them is already an incredible thing in our life. We want to prove to our parents that we can live without them and we have grown up, and want to keep them from our business. Dramatically, though we and our parents have stay in separated places, we need them in emotion, such as the encouragement, recognition and so on; however, we less talk to them that we want that emotions from them because of our self-esteem.

Now, I realize that I need them in feelings and they need me, too. So maybe this change of my mind is another step toward maturity for me. And I hope it will be helpful for you and make you get more time to stay with your family, especially your parents. Thanks for reading.