I didn't remember in my childhood if I have been so obsessed about listening to stories whether from my mom or dad. however, I did listen to them a lot both from my parents and my grandmother, but the stories that I listen to them from my grandmother still haven't faded away yet from my memories, as I still remember how she had been told us these stories. For instance, the style she used, the tones of her voice when sometimes went up and other times low, the sudden appearance of her forehead’s wrinkles when there were moments of disappointment she wanted to show us how badly those situations were.

My grandmother never told us unreal stories, all she said was real, as I am writing now, but although there were horror stories” I used to describe them that way”, and I was really frightening while she was telling the stories, yet I found myself on those stories.

I always love listening to my grandmother’s stories. Honestly, she lived a totally depressive life, and her parents were separated early after her and her brother got born. One day, she and her little brother had been kidnapped by someone, while their mother was off home, but lately they discovered that the one who kidnapped them was their father, he took them to live with his new wife, and his wife, on the other hand, was the worst and wicked women, my grandmother, ever knew, now you know how kind of life of this person could be.

All the adventures she told us about were 100% real, but she always won in the end. Sometimes she would tell us about her adventures in Chad where she was looking for her only little brother, and the most dramatic situations she got herself into. Other times she would tell us about her adventures with her stepmother and how she often escapes from her traps.

Stories are the stories, whether if they are our mind products or from reality, they still have a taste of being interesting, and entertaining, although sometimes make us terrified, frightened from what could be possible to happen. But we still love listening to them; perhaps reading them also gives us another way of entertaining ourselves.

  No matter what, stories can teach us a lot, and if we could see it from the past until now, we could probably found out that the stories make 70% of our current life or maybe could form our personalities, not the experiences, or dangers on them are do that, but the wisdom that someone could find while reading or listening to them.

I can't deny the power of the wisdom on our lives, and why we need it to continue living through the hardship that may or may not happen in the stories.

Are you believe in stories? Tell us what you think?

I always think that way.... people who love the outdoors, traveling, going out lots, they are who feel caged, discomfort, they wanna get out as quickly as possible, run away from what seems constant for them, and on the other hand, people who love staying home, being at home, and enjoying the indoors, they are definitely those who don't afraid of being  alone, they feel free from anything to an extent where they reach the point changing places, or traveling doesn't matter to them. So when I am in a place where I could feel comfortable and enjoying my time, whether home, country, or an open place, I'll just stick to that place, and not moving to the other or seeking change. clearly, we can call it "comfort zone" but I don't believe  in that much though, since I am in control of what I see it right at the moment for me. I never feel caged, and trapped, this is totally freedom of choice!

Lately, I fell into the trap of being judgy.

I judged someone, so harshly that, he started to feel pain. I didn't know that I was causing that pain and it's my responsibility to ask for forgiveness.

I shared the story with my family, probably intended to view myself as free-from defects- human, free of deficiencies and all that stuff cause a human to be shamed, and afraid to speak out about it in public, I told them “ proudly and victoriously, that person……” is a bad person”.

However, it did not last long that instantaneous victory until my sister faced me with a question; which set the whole story to be told, she said “Rayan is that person really that bad, or this is just your reflection and your reaction of some attitudes or behaviors you don't like him to have.

honestly, the question came to me as a shock, it waked me up...I shocked as if I am completely unaware of my saying, what's more, I felt all of sudden, an electricity with 500v touched me, forced me to be awaken.

Knowing that you are Judgy person is a kick start to improve yourself.

Before I went to sleep while I was lying on the bed, thinking about the question for a quite long time, I've tried to close my eyes, and fall into a long-deep-sleep, apparently to run away from that inner voice, repeatedly saying to me…..” obviously the person who is a bad person, is not him, it is you!”

I've tried - helplessly to shut that voice up but I couldn't, which went on saying “who you are at this point to judge people? A prophet maybe? Are you sure God is satisfied from you now? “Do you know any background about that person and what he’s facing right now?”…… lots of questions, I reach the point where I felt panic, it was the worst unpleasant feeling I've ever experienced.

And God! It took me an hour to sleep. Apparently, the influence of that voice teased me to the point where I unconsciously sent a nice-apologizing text so quick, to an extent I didn't know I did it. Until I saw my finger pressed Enter to the text to be delivered.

Now the funny part here is, after I sent the text, I blocked the person. "So nice move"

However, the voice started to talk again saying: do you wanna escape from the fact you are a judgy person?, do you wanna escape from being rejected by that person In case he didn't accept your nice- apology text. I got back again and unblock him. To my surprise, right after I sent the text, I fell into deep-long-sleep,

Now, here’s the kicker! When the morning came, there was a text from him popped up on my mobile screen saying, " hahaha, please forget about yesterday, I don't feel you did something bad for me. Plus, I don't totally count that as a judgment, its okay, we are friends, what the heck! There’s no problem from the first place, why you did send that text, you weirdo!”.

I smiled, and cried at the same time, from the fact that we are human, kind creatures, we just need to accept each other without being judgy, and without noticing others people faults. According to the story of Adam and  Ave and what happened, I realized that If God want to create us, as pure-free of sins human,  he wouldn't take the efforts to do that, as he already created angles" those creatures without sins". However, we are human and we are totally different from those angles, In fact, the differences can be recognized from the moment, God created Adam. "Remember that story?"

Points I figured out after this great experience

1.   I realized that judgment is a reflection of what we don't want to see in a person, and ironically it is already on us. “Now you see!"
2.      I realized that I was holding some stuff on my shoulders for quietly a very long time, eventually, the time has come to put it down.
3.     Actually it's time to free myself from those idealistic conceptions,  and instead of blocking that person, I have to block those stuff, in fact, I jailed myself and it's time to un-jailed her, and I have to free her from thinking that “without sins, we are good, but with it, we are in real danger” However, I noticed, what’s dangerous here, is to restrict yourself to this theory, to lock yourself inside this realm forever, when, it’s totally right to be incomplete, to feel the ease if you did something wrong, and pat yourself saying “it’s okay, we are human, let’s try not to harm whom around us, and try again to make it right”.

You are Human means you are incomplete…..enjoy it! And learn from it

    The freedom here means to be who you are without taking the efforts to improve or adjust other people to suit you, and conditioning them to be right. Plus you have to know that this is totally not your job. In fact, your job is to look at yourself and unlock the inner power you have inside to embrace your defects and embrace” rather than tolerate” other’s people defects or deficiencies. Because if you don’t do that, you’ll find someone lurks you, just as you do to other people, and remember it’s a reflection of what we don’t wanna see on other people and already has being manifest on their attitude or behavior.

    One last thing, who knows maybe, after all, the position of that person in God ‘eyes is higher than yours.

We sometimes get bored,

I understand that, as human, we prone to that, quite frequently, So, when that mood kicks in, we feel a strong argue to leave, whether to leave  a person, a country, a home, even the whole world and at that point, we just wanna do it, so we do it right away.

I love change because change is a must to survive, to start a new journey.

I find myself a lot when I change, from time to time, when I feel the need to track my direction to another route, a new one probably, not the usual ones.
If you've got a car, and the engine looks so old to get you where you want, replace the engine, however, if the engine doesn't seem fit and adapt to the car, look for the new car to continue with you to the new route, obviously the old one doesn't afford the requirements of the new route, so new one is the right solution!

I recently started to realize the difference between both of these terms, and obviously, they both work to either cheer you up or put you down, I would like to highlight the main difference between them, in order to know how they work and how you can avoid falling into the unknown trap of one of them, particularly in our work.

Generally, Inner Peace means or refers to being at peace or getting into a state of calmness, contentment, and satisfaction with yourself, basically, you can achieve that spiritually or doing any specific practice keeps you in the state of peace. Clearly some people viewed it that way, “ no matter what you do, what you’ve been through, what your accomplishments, you are fully satisfied with it, some included that taking actions out of your comfort zone, pretty much like challenging yourself to do stuff you afraid of, and the results would be the last thing that you’re looking after, so that means, you are completely content with what you did, you are looking for more, not for the outcomes but for changing your state of mind! and at the same time, you are happy about stepping outside your usual spin, On the other hand

Inner perfectionist is the voice inside us telling us to do the things we intend to do perfect, with 100% free-error, clearly enough this term work on the reverse of the inner peace, we find ourselves became:

- Afraid of achieving something as long as we are after 100% perfect outcomes.

- An excellent procrastinator: "we think a lot of the tasks and how it can be done, and wait? What if I fail? Do I need to do it right now? This moment? Because y’know one hour is not enough for doing it perfectly, I probably would be screwed up, so I’ll find some time tackle the task?" You see, it’ll happen a lot.

- Not accepting challenges: We’ll tend to turn down every opportunity that shows up on our way because we are not ready enough and it is still not very yet.

What should you do to avoid your Inner perfectionist?

- simply tune off the inner perfectionist, and do the exact same opposite of the points mentioned above

A little dirty spot on the floor,

It’s daunting, right?

You managed to sweep the dirt from all over the floor, except that little spot, despite the fact that it’s just a little one plus sometimes it takes much less time to clean it, so why don’t you complete your job and clean that one too? It’s easy to say but hard to perform, I will tell you why.

Once you realized that you’ve done 99.9% of your task whether it’s accurate or not you tend to turn away from completing the little 0.1% why?

Because, actually, I’ve been working on the huge chunk why can’t have a rest? After all, I deserve it.

Actually, no one could argue you about that but, when you get the large portion of your work done, just continue to complete that little 0.1% of the task, even if it’ll take more time than the large portion. And here is why:

- When you left that 0.1% undone, that means you didn’t complete your task, why? Obviously, that little 0.1% turns out to represent the whole task.

- You will feel lazy to go back and finish out your task because you always look at that large portion, however, when you compare it to the little 0.1% you’ll find yourself you didn’t do anything except procrastinate the task.

My advice:

Always complete your task, even if you feel tired and you can’t continue just do it, you will be pleased with the outcomes.