Hi friendYou are now young person,strong ,dependable,imbitious,optimistic..etc.So,have you ever thought what you would do when you become an old,lonely,helpless,ignored....person and what are the recommended steps that you can follow since then ?
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Hi Salem. I'm not a young person anymore, I'm a retiree but I'm still strong, ambitious, optimistic...as you are. I've sometimes thought about what I will do when I become much more older. What does an elderly person want? Of course he/she wants to be healthy, independent and have some good friends... What would he/she do to try to make these things happen? For me, about healthy, I do exercise every morning trying to have a strong constitution, I eat healthy food instead of food which is harmful, I learn English and France every day to keep a good memory. To be independent at old age? You have to prepare for it when you was young. I used to work very hard so that I can manage to have an independent income for the rest of my life, and I'm sincere, decent and give care to my friends so my friends are good to me too. In the meantime I'm please with my life, but about the future, Who knows? But I'm not worried about things that I can't control. If you are strong enough, you can deal with everything. After all, to live is to struggle and life is not all roses. Hope you will have a happy ending just like me :-) Am I optimistic?
To Tanya, please correct my mistakes for me, thank you very much.
Dear Meissa! I agree! You are right. We live through our lives without thinking about our old ages and it is OK. Until we are alive we should think about the future. There is a saying:"If I dream, I am young, but if I start recalling my past it means I am getting old". I believe, you know what it means. Of course, when we do something good, we don't expect the same in return. What I ment is our mental state. When we are young we don't care, but later on, we start asking ourselves:"Have I done anything good and useful in this life?". And if you can't find an answer to this question when you are 50 or more you start getting nervouos. I believe that the following saying is well-known in other cultures: " A man (woman) should plant a tree, build a house and give a birth to a child". Of course, it is abstraction. Our life is just a moment but during it we should try to make this world better.
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Meissa said:
Hi salem,
Honestly, I have thought about it a few times but in contrary situation. When I saw old couples still walking around together, holding their hand, smiling each other, it really could make me pray to God that someday in my growing old I could feel the same as they do.
But then I have to face the fact that there are many old couples who are abandoned by their family and forced to live in old folk’s home or sometimes it just because of their own decision. Some say that they are live in happiness but the rest live in sadness. However, it’s better for the old couples to be gathered with their family.
I agree with the statement what you give, you get back. Thus now we have to prepare for our future. Raising our children with loving and caring, helping the others, having positive activities and giving and spreading love to others, are some of things that perhaps could help us when we are in the old age but of course it doesn’t mean we do those things to get something in return. Wouldn’t be nice to start doing something good earlier and just wait what we will get in the next.
Dear friends! I hope you don't mind my replying to this discussion. I've read everything you said and I agree with it. But let me explain my mind, too. I am not old yet but I am not young. However, I am quite experienced and I would like to tell you what I think about it. One of the main postulates of any religion is showing respect to old people and it is a very good idea. But showing doesn't mean feeling. Unfortunately, many young people think they will live forever and, to make it softer, don't notice old people at all. I believe that understanding of this matter comes when you feel you are getting older and it is unevitable. Honestly, there is nothing bad in it because there are many attractive things in any age if you take your age for granted. I want to say that you are all right: "What you give, you get back". I am really surprised by Alex's comment. What country can abandone pensions? Whatever people have done during their lives they should be respected in their old ages unless they are criminals or killers or.... But even it this case... I doubt what to say. At least, all old people have to be supported because they can't provide for themselves. In many developed countries there are no problems with the social security and that is right. I wish my country were among them!
Salem! It is a very good discussion. I like it and thank you!
hi salem i'm sorry for this confusion but my comment was apart of a big discussion i thought that you are opening for all members ,i deemed that i can open the circle of the discussion between us.i didn't mean to forward the speech to ballerina on your page but only to share you on your topic. nevertheless im sorry again & hope you got my point
I'll be a bit religious. Acoording to Islam, people have to pay attention to their young ages. Since, you will face what you did when you were young. Good or bad. It's upto you. So we have to behave carefully. If I am an old,lonely,helpless,ignored....person, I will absolutely be sorry for my behaviours. Am I wrong?
That is a very important question. The questions of the reality help us to pause, think, and evaluate our actions, plans, and life.
In fact, I think sometimes about being old, sometimes it hits me when I drive and get to slow down because some old man or woman are driving ahead of me. sometimes I get mad and I just want to cut them off, and sometimes I ask myself, when I will be their age would I be able to drive and serve myself by myself? I hope so.
On the other hand, I know that one of the reasons makes old people's life so boring, lonely, and meaning less is losing the purpose of being a life. In other word, usually we sit up a temporary goals in our life, like graduation, raising kids, getting marred, and have a nice job. these are very good and important goals but they are very limited in their life time.
however, if we sit up some long term goals, goals that might take our life time to be done or maybe more than that; like serving your religion, country, poor people, orphans, devastated people, or any other cause that benefit others, that can add more value to our life, gives us a different aspect to our life.
Lamentably, most people sit a very simple and limited goals in there lives, and their lives somehow end when that goals end.
I advice everyone to put a short term goals, medium rang goals, and long term goals to their lives.
Happy retirement for everybody.
i think that person should be helpful & cooporate with the around people to make his good & strong society in his youngester age ,this will be his support in his old age & he has to invoke god prevent him falling in this unusefull weak stage
Hi Salem,
Why do you ask that question? Are you affraid becoming an old man? Sometimes i 'm affraid too. But i thing it is useless to worry about it. We can not refuse to getting old. So i will make the best use of my youth. Doing what ever i can do. And of course enjoy my life.
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To Tanya, please correct my mistakes for me, thank you very much.
Thanks for being with me! Go on explaining your ideas, please!
Meissa said:
Salem! It is a very good discussion. I like it and thank you!
I'll be a bit religious. Acoording to Islam, people have to pay attention to their young ages. Since, you will face what you did when you were young. Good or bad. It's upto you. So we have to behave carefully. If I am an old,lonely,helpless,ignored....person, I will absolutely be sorry for my behaviours. Am I wrong?
That is a very important question. The questions of the reality help us to pause, think, and evaluate our actions, plans, and life.
In fact, I think sometimes about being old, sometimes it hits me when I drive and get to slow down because some old man or woman are driving ahead of me. sometimes I get mad and I just want to cut them off, and sometimes I ask myself, when I will be their age would I be able to drive and serve myself by myself? I hope so.
On the other hand, I know that one of the reasons makes old people's life so boring, lonely, and meaning less is losing the purpose of being a life. In other word, usually we sit up a temporary goals in our life, like graduation, raising kids, getting marred, and have a nice job. these are very good and important goals but they are very limited in their life time.
however, if we sit up some long term goals, goals that might take our life time to be done or maybe more than that; like serving your religion, country, poor people, orphans, devastated people, or any other cause that benefit others, that can add more value to our life, gives us a different aspect to our life.
Lamentably, most people sit a very simple and limited goals in there lives, and their lives somehow end when that goals end.
I advice everyone to put a short term goals, medium rang goals, and long term goals to their lives.
Happy retirement for everybody.
Why do you ask that question? Are you affraid becoming an old man? Sometimes i 'm affraid too. But i thing it is useless to worry about it. We can not refuse to getting old. So i will make the best use of my youth. Doing what ever i can do. And of course enjoy my life.