I came here to meet people, to communicate with people I might not see physically but can learn together with. It's a learning site and I really really like it that way. I meet some who are just like me eager to learn and eager to teach as well. It's a perfect site but I just notice one thing that I am not really comfortable with. Maybe it's just my personality or something about me that I am not really sharing PRIVATE information .
I got a lot of chat messages, it starts with the normal hi and hello and how are you, I'm fine thank you. It's a normal conversation starter. What I don't get is after exchange of greetings people would ask me if I am married, if I have kids, what do I do for a living, where are my sisters, what does my parents do for a living. what does my husband do for a living, where is he right now, I'm not really sure if it's something pretty normal to most but it's not to me. I prefer my first chat with people to be all about something in general, the weather, the time zone, the culture before really asking people about personal things. I don't mind giving information but to people I am comfortable giving it to. I'm really sorry, you may call me an ass for being so picky with people I should give information to but I'm not just comfortable with it.
I hope people would understand and please don't call me names just because I ask you not to ask questions that are too private to answer to a stranger...
thank you
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@tetyana - sure its normal but there are information that are too private to even ask..
Great post, yna. I sure do have the same sentiments with you. When the typical greetings end, the next queries I hope to come up to is about culture, languages, how it must link to each other, to name a few. Those questions that you can learn a lot and not to give this an aim to find someone who can be your partner. No offense, but to LEARN ENGLISH must be the greatest GOAL here.
thanks guys for the comment.. I sure have a lot to learn in this site.. and I thought i was the only one... thanks for all the advice...
very wonderful blog!
We shared the same feeling about this matter... I was surprised when I was asked, "what do I do?" I asked the other person to make his question clear, and he meant my work. :-O... on the first chat this was asked to me. Well, I really think that members here have different purpose of joining MyEC and this is uncontrollable I know so be extra cautious you will see more... people joining this club learn a lot of things not only the English language so it is really up to the members to catch the right thing to learn. Just stay on your goal, and that is to learn English and you will see good results to your favour in the end.
Good luck!
a friend.
if you don't want to answer such questions, don't do it...try to explain everything...but as for me I can't see anything bad that people want to find out some info about you...it's normal!
Might this kind of things had happened on other people too,but just take it easy man,for some members they know less vocabularies and can talk no more topics and communications,like noasples has mentioned what you need to do is that ignore them and choose to offer the question which you love to answer.i think it will be fine for you and for others
Dear yna,
You've posted a nice blog, so thank you :)
Well, those things happen a lot. You are right, and I agree with you. we are not oblige to say everything to anyone ask us a private question. So just ignore them.
yeah I kinda see that now.. i was just a bit surprise they exist hehe.. kidding...
Well, once they failed to harass you in the private, they will harass you in the main and start to call you names. I know it's hard to ignore it, but try not to response. These people love the attention that they will get if you started to response to their name calling. Once you ignore them, hopefully they will stop and then you may have a good chat with other good members. Good luck.
@noaslpls - yeah sometimes it works but I don't like being called names just because i ignore them hehe.. but yeah that works.. :) thanks
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