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 Promise

P R O M I S E, Yeah these are only six letters. , but have you ever thought how powerful is this single word? I want to ask some questions from you. How many times did you say this sentence in your life”I promise you”? Maybe you told that more than 30 times for your parents, for your siblings, for your friends or for your beloved and perhaps sometimes you didn't care about what you said.  However, do you know that you give so many hopes with your promise when you make a promise something to someone? If you think this is only word and there’s no value, you're wrong.

Don't make promises, if you can't fulfill it.

 Another question, have you ever broken a promise? Well, It’s very easy to make promises and sometimes it's very hard to fulfill but don't forget that if you make a promise to somebody, that person who takes your promise is relying on your words. She/he trusts you. So if you break your promises that meant you disappoint them.  Maybe they will never go to trust you again. Before you make a promise consider about that more than twice, think what you actually can do. If you’re sure that you will be able to fulfill your promise without any doubt that's a certain time to make your promise.

Don't say when

Imagine your kid ask from you “'would you please bring a doll for me” (or imagine your loving someone asks something from you) you think you can it, and you said 'OK I promise you I'll bring it tomorrow'. At that time, you don't think about that. Nevertheless, perchance, you would be failed to fulfill your promise in that certain date or time that’s enough to break your loved one's heart.So never say when but don't take a long time to fulfill your promise. 

Don't be afraid to say "No"

If someone asks you something and you think or sure you can't possibly do that. Say, "No, I can't do that." Don't worry. It’s better than break your promise but don’t forget to explain that why do you can’t fulfill.

Promise me

Have you ever taken a promise from someone? You must also think before you take a promise from someone. Ask questions from yourself. Is that unfair? Can he/she fulfill that? And think about his or her situation. Otherwise he/she will become destitute between you and his/her situation. So think more than twice before you ask something.

Finally, I just want to say, please don’t make a promise if you can’t fulfill it because it’s very valuable word more than you can think. 

Thank you :)  Hope this blog is not boring for you.

P.S.  Actually, I have a bad experience with a promise which I made. Before 7 or 8 months ago I promised to my friend to do something, but I didn't say when and that time, I didn't think about my promise seriously.  However, I couldn't fulfill my promise because I became destitute with my situation, then my friend said I hurt him very much and it’s an insult. Can you imagine about my feeling?  Still I worry about that more than I can say. Another day (after that incident) my sister broke her promise which she made for me and that day, I could understand how hurtful that someone broke his or her promise and I could understand my friend’s feeling who I hurt very much. That’s why I had chosen that topic for my first blog, and I based my experience to write this blog.