Love........
only 4 digits but it can hurt someone, it can make someone happy, it can make a strong man become very weak. It can make a man crying... If you have experience with this magic word, pls tell to us how to control so we can be happy...........
success for you all !
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I'd like to tell you my story. Now I'm 17 and have a boyfriend, he is my first love. I met him in December 2009, when i studied at school, now i'm at university, as freshman. When i first met him I liked him, he is so handsome. He asked me to be his girlfriend, I thought that it could bother my studying, but I couldn't refuse him. So we met after lessons everyday, I didn't tell anything to my parents. In April he went to the army and I promised to wait for him. I'm still waiting for him, he'll come in two months, I hope so. Of course, my parents have known about him and my mom said that I don't need relations with him because he didn't study at university and he might not give me that I will need in my future(maybe his parents don't have enough money to pay for studying at university and after army he don't want to study anymore, I don't know what I should do). Also I want to go abroad to study, it may last about 4 years. And I don't know what may happen with us. Will he wait for me? And will he be able to provide me good living? What do you think?
I have one nice story. Some day I met a girl. She was my friend at yunior high school. But we didn't meet her about 10 years. I met her because of my working. We often met her and I looked her way of talking, seeing and acting, it looked different. Finally she said "I like you not as friend". Mmmmm....I could feel happy but it was too late. But I could not say "no". I said "we follow this life like water flow, rilex...and we can see what will happen". She knew that I could not. And she still pushed to try it hardly. She said "love need to be struggled it, what we feel then just follow and do it". I thought that this girl could not control her love. Finally, she was gone without saying goodbye. She was not happy to meet me anymore. I hope someday she can understand and finally she can be happy with her family.
do you have stories ?
this topic become more interesting, live and useful. It is caused of you all. Your comments, your stories, your replies are heart of this topic. we can express in english about our love, falling in love and 1st love, etc.
i hope you still have some stories or comments so please don't be hesitate to add here. besides for improving our english knowledge, it can be for entertainment.
even your comment is short but it has deep meaning. 100percent agreed.
everything depend on us, beside luck and bad luck.
if we want to control love then our effort has to go there. Because always 2 sides, if we don't control love than love will control us. in controlling love, it is not easy, especially on the 1st love (also can happen on the 2nd, etc). on the 1st love, feeling (heart) is normally number 1 than thinking (brain/logical). in the reality also, a man mostly use brain/logical and he can be easy to forget it. because he doesn't save 100percent in the heart. but woman mostly use heart/feeling to keep loyal or save someone in the heart very deep. so many of women become "hurting or broken heart". what i say is common or basic. but some men can not control love also, like me, but now i am trying to control love and i feel i can do it. i don't know later on if i still can control love or not.....
for all, please follow this discussion to improve our writing, express our feeling/thinking with this topic...
part of our life is luck and bad luck. the rest is our effort.
the success man is who can handle the situation, even it is the worse part of our life.
sometimes hoping is not as reality.
love is like the wave of sea.
hurting is also part of love.
now we go to "instincs", forgive and forget.
man and woman has different instincs, right ?
man use logical-brain.
woman use feeling-heart.
man like playing fire of love.
woman keep loyal.
man will say "pls forgive me !" when he makes big mistakes (affair).
woman will say "forget it", step by step woman will forgive him.
but if woman make big mistakes (affair) then man will say "i will forget you".
instincs is the basic of the man, in the reality will not always like above theory. It sometimes becomes opposite. If you read completely of this topic then i ever mentioned that some girls also sometimes hurt a boy. But mostly, boy hurt girl. hurting is not always negative. It can make us become strong. the longer we hurt the stronger we are.
Thanks for your very useful comment. So for everyone can define a love (falling in love to someone).
My opinion : a love is a feeling from insight of deep heart which can come gradually or suddenly. We can feel exactly what we feel when we love to someone. Our body also feel different on the movement of heart, feeling happy on the mind and expressively on the face.
Now we go to what is the reason or why we love to someone. The reason has to be very strong why we love to someone. Not trying or playing with love, don't play a fire if we don't want to be burnt. but serious love is to avoid hurt each other. Not only men but some girls sometimes also play fire of love. I have experience 2 times on the 1st love and on the forth love, she/they had other boyfriend, yeah...poor me. But it was OK. This part of life which i had to pass. it makes me strong and strong because of love. In very deep meaning : I have to be happy with who had broken my heart. Because of she/them make me knowing/understand what is a love. Love has to understand each other. Love has to be able to accept more and less from her/him.
Please anyone can say anything about love, story love which can be used for motivating our life. Success for you all and thanks for joining to this topic.
Ha ha ha....very nice from Pham Trang. Partly I agree with you. We have to make strong reason than emotion. If this theory can be applied to the field (in love process) then it is nice. But take a note, we don't have any formula like number : 1+1 is 2. In here, Vladimir is also true. We get difficult to control love. But the difficulty doesn't mean we can't.
So we need patient value when we face him or her. We have to understand each other, almost impossible to merger 2H+2H (2 heads and 2 hearts). Remember, even head and heart is in body, sometimes it's also different.
So the key is to respect each other.
Hi all, please write, tell us about your experience. Experience can become a good teacher.
love is for spiritual and physical, i think.
If we love someone the we feel happy in our life (spiritual), in very detail, our heart is happy.
But also we want to have someone as physical, not only heart. Heart is important but physical is also same important. Both must be balance. For example, if we love someone then we will not allow him/her to close with somebody else.
Hi Nguyen Trang,
Tks for your 1st love story. We can see that love come gradually. Step by step. But sometimes love can come suddenly.
For all, discussions are still opened, please write more about your story.
Super thanks.
I want to share about my first love, when I was 17. I took part in a Taekwondo club in my hometown, he was my teacher. The first time, i dont care anything about him but I knew him like to talk with me. After 2 months, He told to his friend that he fell in love with me, and the his friend spoke to many people. All of my class knew this event, I felt very ambarrass and quiet angry. I hate him, I refused to talk with him. My group like him and encouraged me to come with him. He was a handsome boy, very kind and funny, at that time he only was 18. I told him that I had to study hard, I didn't want to have any relationship. However, he still beside me in silent but downhearted. On his birthday, I came to his house. He had known that I like rose so much, he decorated his house with 2 roses - it was so wonderful, he also prepared every sweet that I like, every color in his room. I met his mother, I knew she was very friendly, good-natural and so beautiful. I like her, so gradually I loved him that I didn't know. That year, he failed an important examination. I was so sad and I supposed that because of me. I want to share with him but I didn't have enough brave, I just remembered him deeply. Then a long time I didn't meet him, I thought about him in my dream, I wish I would express my feeling to him, I wish I could hold his hand any manythings ...
I don't meet him anymore...
Now, I have a family, my family was very happy but sometimes, some seconds I remember him and my first love. It is so sweet in regret, longingly remember.
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