Most of us are afraid to disclosed our own insecurities to everyone. I think I should start this discussion and have a bit guts to say it in here. I just noticed one of my insecurities. I have a need for attention (not from everyone but only from the man i love the most) and i get hurt when I don't get it as I cared too much. Whenever I didn't get any messages or an instant reply, i automatically get irritated and then insecurities comes next. When the person I cared for doesn't treat me in a different manner than others, I get annoyed as I don't feel special to that certain person. I always seek for a special attention from someone as I wanted to feel cared and loved every time. So when he failed to do that, it contributes to my trust issues, which lead to think negatively and getting a bit paranoid sometimes. I get hurt easily as i'm a sentimental person. So I'm trying to overcome my insecurities as it could eat me alive.
At first I was hesitant to open this discussion as it's exposing others negativity, but if I don't start then who else will?
So what's your own insecurities?
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@setareh: you said it right sis. insecurities often makes our behavior out of control, it takes out the devil inside of us. we can't think the same way as when we are calm and that will make others aloof from us as it makes them uncomfortable when we are around. Thanks for the nice comment!
Hello Maya, first of all if your lover doesn´t reply back quickly, it doesn´t mean he´s not interested in you, probably he´s busy. Maya if someone is with you, it´s because he loves you, sometimes there will be difficults, but you must have trust in a relationship,,, don´t forget it.
About me, I feel insecure about my capacity to make money... Maya, I´ve failed many times, currently I´m bankrupt, but I carry on, because if I don't believe in myself, I won't have a life...
Thanks for your time.
@Gerardo: As I have said, every one has their own insecurities, yours is about making money. And I'm amazed that your still kicking after those failures you got. Keep in believing in yourself is the key to progress.
And about your comment about my lover, yeah you're right, he's so busy nowadays managing their business, it's just that i'm not used not talking to him 24/7 as we usually do before, but i'm still thankful that he takes out time for me when he's available and we still sleep together after our busy schedules. He also said the same thing as you have said, "if someone is with you, it´s because he loves you." (he said: "Don't you ever think after all these years why I'm still with you? It's because I love you.")
Thanks for the comment!
@Tanveer: We should take bitterness as stepping stone to be a much better person, we should have to take it in a positive way and to learn from it. All of us have insecurities, but too much of it will break us down so we should know how to deal with it and handle every negative situation. Thanks for participating on my discussion.
Even so, surely the biggest I still endure nowadays is the trust in my coworkers when I,m on holidays and worse still in myself regarding to my job. Anyway i,m working on it.
Btw, promise me not to get angry with me with this tip :D we men like to be loved but not keeping a close watch on us haha... Well, I say it for my own experience, not everyone is the same :)
Thanks Maya for your nice discussion.
@Estanis: I hope I'll overcome this insecurities as i get older too. And don't worry there is no offense on what you have said and I'll always remember your tip :D By the way, you like to be loved but not too much right? So i'm thinking a silly thing....a guy who wanted to be free but don't want to be freed. (If you get what i mean..heheheh!) And the guy I'm talking about wanted to be loved and liked to be watched every time :P