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WIFE has/earns MORE??

Posted by Onee-chan on July 28, 2016 in General Discussion

Has the world changed?? Still, I can't believe it. I can only take a deep breath.

A man had married years ago. He worked for the family, but he earned less than his wife. In the occasion of Ied-ul Fitr this year, I met and asked him where he works now. He said he works at home taking care of his own's children. While,, as for you to know... He has 4 children and his wife works alone. I don't know what inside their family is, but..I see something burdensome in the eyes and face of his wife.

Another story was from a friend. A husband lives at the house of his parents-in-law, doing nothing (without working).....meanwhile...his wife works in another town. What a view...! Mm. 

In my country and I guess also many other countries, there's no caste or level of society in marriage. But when it comes to the FAMILY of WIFE more capable than the FAMILY of HUSBAND ...OR.... WIFE earns more,,,,

WILL it really become a problem in their future?
If it DEPENDS on something, what is that?
Do you have any stories about such a case??

Every premise is an option. Here I just want to hear your opinion. Thank you very much. :)

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  • MA NO November 19, 2017 8:18

    I disagree with the idea that a woman should be kept at home 'to maintain tranquility and take up responsibilities of household' because working is not necessary only just for earning money but also keeping oneself healthy materially and mentally be it a woman or a man. Taking care of children and doing the same things every day are stressful, a woman needs to change environment to release from everyday stressful routine. Such 'stereotypes' about keeping women at home are the matter of cultural diversity. In my opinion balance must be kept in a family of any duty. :)

    • Onee-chan > MA NO November 19, 2017 13:36

      Hi EC member, 

      It is actually a choice. I agree with you about healthy mentally. I guess you mean communicating with people (not gossiping) which make a woman healthy mentally. Reading is also good. Woman can still use their talent as long as it is not too far since her main duty is educating children. Yeah, I can call this balance. :)

      No one should get stressed in the family. Thank you for sharing your view. ^^

  • Onee-chan November 19, 2017 1:11

    Dear Rosemary,

    That's what I mean. I think, a woman, however, is a delicate creature which hard work could spoil her body sooner, get wrinkled sooner. They may be strong, but, I think women work mostly for they have activities, unless no man anymore in the family.

    Let's hope there won't be any problems with them. Or at least, they find a good solution one day. 

    Thanks  a lot for sharing your point of view.

  • Onee-chan November 18, 2017 13:14

    Wowww, Andy...... I have to say...... I love your reply. ^^

    So sweeeeet!! Thanks for sharing your opinion. ^^

  • Onee-chan November 18, 2017 13:12

    Thanks for sharing your opinion, Edwin. It is reasonable. Let's hope no one feel burdened. :)

  • Diah November 15, 2017 8:49
    Hahaha I agree with you. A husband's duty is to feed his family. And a wife can help her husband to gain more money not to be the main worker at home.
    • Onee-chan > Diah November 18, 2017 13:09

      Yeah, Diah. I agree with Luci's comment though the last words is a little harsh. :D :D

      I mean that, the main worker shouldn't be a wife. ^^ Thanks for your comment. 

  • Edwin0123 November 15, 2017 6:27

    What a good topic Onee-Chan! I do not care who's the one that providing money to the Family and taking care of the children, I mean, whatever works for them.

  • Onee-chan April 9, 2017 14:04

    Wow!! Great solution, Sir Jeffrey.

    I really like your explanation as it is very reasonable. :)

    bob allan said:

    If there are children, I think it's up to the wife and husband to decide who stays home and who goes out to work.

    In my culture, men have been and still are the major bread-winners in the family. But more fathers are staying home and looking after the kids while the mother works. And why not! Both men and women are quite capable of raising kids and providing the family income. 

    One difficulty with this role-reversal is that men sometimes have an ego problem, as Evangelina mentioned earlier, and feel uncomfortable and less of a "man" if their wife provides for the family.

    Overcome this hurdle (after all, it requires only a change in attitude) and men have the opportunity to get closer emotionally to their children, and that can only be a good thing!

    It goes without saying that women will benefit emotionally and intellectually with this arrangement by expanding her life experience beyond the gas cooker in the kitchen.

    To me, it's a win-win situation.

    WIFE has/earns MORE??
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  • Onee-chan January 26, 2017 8:36

    Risty,

    I understand your point of view. Your last sentence is "OF COURSE the situation should not take long, or else it will be a burden for the wife" It means you agree with me. :))

    Thank you so much for your contribution in this incisive discussion. ^_^ 

    Risty Aven said:

    Onee, I support women’s rights too, but that doesn’t mean I should be unfair to the other gender, we live in real life, we will face some difficulties and hardships along the way. A working woman doesn’t mean she’s tolerating her husband to be a lazy bum, we should accept the fact that the demands now for women are incomparably high than men. We almost dominate the working class, we even penetrate men’s working field. My point of view is about helping and supporting each other, that’s why there’s a vow to say for richer and poorer, women should stop thinking that if she works for the family, the husband is taking advantage of her and dependent on her. It’s a two-way ticket, a give, and take relationship if the other person needs a hand, are we going to hide an arm to give what we suppose to give, especially if it’s due to them? Of course, the situation should not take long, or else it will be a burden for the wife.

    Better late than never, Onee :D :D



    Onee-chan said:

    Risty, 

    You can say you salute the guy. But, a working wife as his substitute is hard for me to accept. If he also worked earning money at home, I would appreciate him more. However, working out of home is tiring, moreover for a woman. If you agree that he stays home (without earning money) for short period of time, I'll support your opinion. I'm just defending women, anyway. :D

    Thank you so much for sharing your view and forgive my belated response. ^^


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