Why do you think parents now blame the teacher, not the child?

Dear L_oli,

It's a fact that I personally feel under great pressure while teaching. It's not only because I may be criticized but also if I teach something wrong or even an attitude I show in the class may lead my students learn something unfavorable and I feel like I can't do my job as it is required. As for the parents they expect us show much more tolerance to their kids because they themselves can't deal with their kid's demands even irrational ones and they give in easily. The kid gets used to such behavior from others but in the future the society in which this kid will live as an adult won't be a bed of roses unfortunately...As for the solution, I talk to the parents about their kid's possible future life if they go on covering his/her mistakes. Personally, none of the parents held me responsible for low grades because I usually give feedbacks about kids' learning process periodically and give advice and show them some ways how to overcome studying unwillingly but I ensure you that's really hard to do this for every kid in the class but this is my beloved job which I chose when I was just a kid..

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- Zhi Winter > L_oli May 8, 2024 16:06
  
  Dear L_oli,
  
  It's a fact that I personally feel under great pressure while teaching. It's not only because I may be criticized but also if I teach something wrong or even an attitude I show in the class may lead my students learn something unfavorable and I feel like I can't do my job as it is required. As for the parents they expect us show much more tolerance to their kids because they themselves can't deal with their kid's demands even irrational ones and they give in easily. The kid gets used to such behavior from others but in the future the society in which this kid will live as an adult won't be a bed of roses unfortunately...As for the solution, I talk to the parents about their kid's possible future life if they go on covering his/her mistakes. Personally, none of the parents held me responsible for low grades because I usually give feedbacks about kids' learning process periodically and give advice and show them some ways how to overcome studying unwillingly but I ensure you that's really hard to do this for every kid in the class but this is my beloved job which I chose when I was just a kid..
- L_oli > Zhi Winter May 20, 2024 1:16
  
  Thank you so much for taking part in the discussion, dear Zhi Winter . You must be a very good teacher if you can manage not only the students in the classroom but also their parents. Your solution sounds really effective, though I have seen many cases where parents are just "bulletproof"—no matter how many times and how hard you give them feedback, they still blame teachers for every single sin in this world. Thus, one has the only option: to listen to them, to "put oneself in their shoes", and to continue working with their kids the best way one can. Have you had such parents in your practice?

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