When couples get married, they only think of raising a family, living a happy common life, getting older together... but, sadly not all of them get their aims so, I'd like to read some opinions from you.Do you think they're getting so demanding or tough with the partner? maybe they are turning into selfish? or, by other hand, do you think they should look for their happiness with or without their mate?Please feel free to answer what you really think :)
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I think I get your point, well not all men are like that but in some societies women are in a clear disadvantage, I can only imagine living in such situations. I wish human rights could reach every corner of the world and I strongly disagree with this behaviour towards women but societies can't be changed by force from outside, every country has its own evolution. Btw, I don't believe women are weak by nature.
well for me if you are not happy with a relation or your mate also need free from this relation than i think its good to be separate ..because you cant hold a relation without love or without support of your soul mate. " it breaks your heart to see the one you love is happy with someone else.....but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you....
For me it's so important to respect our own freedom in the marriage, I mean not to give required explanations every time you go or do something, obviously confidence and trust is essential.
Some may say that's not love or taking care of your partner but as you well say, I just need her support and feeling you make her happy.
Thanks Mahi for your honesty.
Nowadays, divorce is a normal thing in life . In my country, everyone always opposes dirvoce because They think that divorce will have negative effects on their children. So, they have to try to stand. My relative is a example. Although, my aunt is not happy with her marrige, my grandparents still do not allow her to get dirvoced. Everyday, she have to cry because of her husband's punches. Moreover, He has another woman.
According to me, life like that is hell. When we can not solve our prolems and have in common in life, we should find a new way to ourselves. Because happiness or not is due to us, nobody can help and solve everything for us. Besides, children live in an unhappyfamily and their parents usually argue or they have to see their father hitting their mother, these things are more terrible than their parents's divorce. So, divorce not only liberate ourselves but also liberate our children.
I can't believe my eyes! I can't understand why her parents don't protect her. It's about her daughter! In any case, isn't there any office or management to deal with this cases?Will government turn a blind eye to these cases if she ask for help?
As you say, what's the benefit for the children on this environment? Obviously they are also suffering, so extreme cases like this it's clear (to me) to be the best solution.
Hope your aunt will finally find happiness anyway. Wish you and your family the best.
Thanks a lot Lê Vân for sharing.
Thank you so much!. In fact, in my country, divorce is a very terrible thing. They are afraid that when they get divorced, they will bring disrepute to their family and relatives and assessed by society.
Yeah, same was here years ago. Obviously, nowadays it's considered like a failure but, should men or women to pay for the rest of their lifes that mistake they did? Everyone has right to be happy whenever doesn't hurt anyone.
When a couple comes to the decision of getting divorced, that means there no hope and expectation in this marriage. Mostly it's neither about love and nor adultery but for unresolvable problems and conflicts between them for a long time. Of course divorce is never been encouraged in any society or culture, but it's the final ending for all those problems and with that conception it might be the best solution.
In my country, for older generation, people mostly try to maintain their relationship and marriage despite of how big or complicated the problems are, in order to keep their families's honour and in many other cases, for their parents and kids. But I don't think kids are brought up normally and happily in such families. They, more than any one else, know so clearly about unrest in their families and might have a wrong perception about happiness and family. But a sad reality that nowadays plenty of young couples come to marry and divorce so fast and easily...
So in my own opinion, when we see no way to keep on it, let it end.
As you say, maintaining the marriage because of honour, kids or parents it's something little by little disappearing in my country since I think couples give up so easily, maybe we're loosing the traditional concept of familiy, that's why I accept criticism from outside. I don't know too many couples around me who hasn't had any crisis or at least problems, the important thing is to be wise enough to get an agreement or accept each other as he/she is, mostly oneself.
In addiction when crisis are solved both feel like released or starting another phase and have something 'meaningful' ;)
Summing up, I think we should enjoy of our children and ourselves regardless our status, the point is trying to be happy.
'Love yourself as much as you want to be loved' R.B.
I should learn some lessons from you, such as how to face with crisis and solve them little by little, enjoy the life as what we have, especially about such "meaningful' stuffs :PP
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Wish you the best of happiness Lala :)
well for me if you are not happy with a relation or your mate also need free from this relation than i think its good to be separate ..because you cant hold a relation without love or without support of your soul mate. " it breaks your heart to see the one you love is happy with someone else.....but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you....
Some may say that's not love or taking care of your partner but as you well say, I just need her support and feeling you make her happy.
Thanks Mahi for your honesty.
Nowadays, divorce is a normal thing in life . In my country, everyone always opposes dirvoce because They think that divorce will have negative effects on their children. So, they have to try to stand. My relative is a example. Although, my aunt is not happy with her marrige, my grandparents still do not allow her to get dirvoced. Everyday, she have to cry because of her husband's punches. Moreover, He has another woman.
According to me, life like that is hell. When we can not solve our prolems and have in common in life, we should find a new way to ourselves. Because happiness or not is due to us, nobody can help and solve everything for us. Besides, children live in an unhappyfamily and their parents usually argue or they have to see their father hitting their mother, these things are more terrible than their parents's divorce. So, divorce not only liberate ourselves but also liberate our children.
As you say, what's the benefit for the children on this environment? Obviously they are also suffering, so extreme cases like this it's clear (to me) to be the best solution.
Hope your aunt will finally find happiness anyway. Wish you and your family the best.
Thanks a lot Lê Vân for sharing.
Thank you so much!. In fact, in my country, divorce is a very terrible thing. They are afraid that when they get divorced, they will bring disrepute to their family and relatives and assessed by society.
When a couple comes to the decision of getting divorced, that means there no hope and expectation in this marriage. Mostly it's neither about love and nor adultery but for unresolvable problems and conflicts between them for a long time. Of course divorce is never been encouraged in any society or culture, but it's the final ending for all those problems and with that conception it might be the best solution.
In my country, for older generation, people mostly try to maintain their relationship and marriage despite of how big or complicated the problems are, in order to keep their families's honour and in many other cases, for their parents and kids. But I don't think kids are brought up normally and happily in such families. They, more than any one else, know so clearly about unrest in their families and might have a wrong perception about happiness and family. But a sad reality that nowadays plenty of young couples come to marry and divorce so fast and easily...
So in my own opinion, when we see no way to keep on it, let it end.
As you say, maintaining the marriage because of honour, kids or parents it's something little by little disappearing in my country since I think couples give up so easily, maybe we're loosing the traditional concept of familiy, that's why I accept criticism from outside. I don't know too many couples around me who hasn't had any crisis or at least problems, the important thing is to be wise enough to get an agreement or accept each other as he/she is, mostly oneself.
In addiction when crisis are solved both feel like released or starting another phase and have something 'meaningful' ;)
Summing up, I think we should enjoy of our children and ourselves regardless our status, the point is trying to be happy.
'Love yourself as much as you want to be loved' R.B.
I should learn some lessons from you, such as how to face with crisis and solve them little by little, enjoy the life as what we have, especially about such "meaningful' stuffs :PP
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