The second time I got married, my wife's aunt brought a tub and went inside with me and my wife to witness the consummation of our marriage. I turned to my wife and whispered in her ear, "Why is she here? what is that big plate for?" My wife answered me that she was going to be with us to wash our feet together and then witness the first sexual intercourse between us. Of course, I disagreed at once and told her to tell her aunt to get out of the room. Then my wife brought a white scarf and put it under her. I didn't care about it and we finished our first night with screams and that red fluid came from her into that white cloth. Then my wife happily and proudly took that piece of cloth to her mother which she showed it to her neighbors and friends and relatives. I was shy when I knew about it. Basically, traditions, habits, and religions differ from one society to the other. In our communities, the chastity or virginity of the bride depends on her hymen. Her husband is the man who opens that membrane. Do you agree to have other people present on your first night of marriage? Does it mean absolute masculinity and feminity for both sides? What do you think? Is witnessing a consummation of marriage considered a strange tradition?
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It's weird to have someone witnessing the intimate moments with your better half. This tradition was practiced during the medieval times and I've seen some clips in English TV programs with old themes. I agree with Valentina, though.
henrique roberto said:
henrique roberto said:
Armida congratulations , you are faithful to your beliefs and way of thinking. I only dont agree with your thinking that once you marry a man you should surrender to him . Men and Women are equal with same rights .
dara gino said:
Rogerio and Dara Gino, we all have our beliefs , our creeds, our way of thinking and behave . We must respect the other people opinion, but we dont need to be a chameleon do adapt to other's people way of thinking or acting. After all being a chameleon means not having respect for yourself and your culture.
dara gino said:
De nada meu amigo Rogerio Segantin! Eu estou feliz! It seems that you are a very flexible person and I really like that. It's true that when you go to another place try to respect and watch out for their habits and traditions, but if they are weird or not according to the good manners or the straight behavior, I guess no one will accept it. Thanks, Rog for your nice comment!
Rogerio Segantin said:
I Believe that all culture must be respected, to me is a new culture, very diferent from mine.
When you dicide to visit or move to another country, this points need to be considered.
About the questions...
REally is strange to have another person during ...., but when you decide to get marriage you probably is ready for that and all things arround that.
Good Article for discussion !
Muchas gracias mi amigo Abraham! Thanks for pressing the like button. Can you tell your point of view? Thanks again!
Maraming salamat Armida! Correct, it's a private life between the wife and her husband. I really agree with that. It's the first night which leaves meaningful memories for both couples. Thanks for your comment! Armida, can I be one of your friends?
Armida said:
When we say marriage wife should surrender her self to his husband.
You will be having a private life together.
I don't agree with this tradition, your first day being a husband and wife it should be your time together a "quality time".
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