The second time I got married, my wife's aunt brought a tub and went inside with me and my wife to witness the consummation of our marriage. I turned to my wife and whispered in her ear, "Why is she here? what is that big plate for?" My wife answered me that she was going to be with us to wash our feet together and then witness the first sexual intercourse between us. Of course, I disagreed at once and told her to tell her aunt to get out of the room. Then my wife brought a white scarf and put it under her. I didn't care about it and we finished our first night with screams and that red fluid came from her into that white cloth. Then my wife happily and proudly took that piece of cloth to her mother which she showed it to her neighbors and friends and relatives. I was shy when I knew about it. Basically, traditions, habits, and religions differ from one society to the other. In our communities, the chastity or virginity of the bride depends on her hymen. Her husband is the man who opens that membrane. Do you agree to have other people present on your first night of marriage? Does it mean absolute masculinity and feminity for both sides? What do you think? Is witnessing a consummation of marriage considered a strange tradition?
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Tumara merhbani Aamish Sohail. I agree with that. We are educated people and we should behave like that. Thanks for your kind feelings. The lesson is for us all. I gave my example so that not to let other people fall in the same hole. Thanks again for your comment.
I know there are many strange and old traditions that we get from our ancestors. Some of them are good and most of them are baseless and have no reason to live. As an educated man we should try to eliminate this and try to focus on something innovative. The tradition that you discussed above is very sensitive and this information should remain between only husband and wife. As a muslim if your wife asked you to do something like that then you should help her understand what is right and what is wrong.
Muito obrigado James Nungo! If you live long, you will see more. It's a good thing to be good and clean. some people exaggerate too much, don't they?
Terima kasih banyak erin! Saya harap akan menjadi teman kamu. Some traditions are good and some traditions are bad. Humiliation is not good. Those people used to express their dignity and purity in a strange way. Thanks, Erin, I hope to be one of your friends.
erin said:
Absolutly strange , i mean , for Godsake, its really humiliation thing to watch or become public consumption, the same with in some place in my country, in villages especially, when a couple caught in act when the do amoral thing , people in that village will make them object of humiliation parade without any cloth at all
Kadertop07 said:
Yes Dara, you're right, i agree with you 100%. Here in my country , some towns do what did you say especially in rural areas. Neither Islam nor other religions acknowledge this traditions, all it wrong. I give you an exemple, in a small town here in Algeria, the friend of the groom must be keep standing in front of Bride and groom's door and waits about 10-15 minutes then knocking it to got the piece of cloth.Its the shame do like this.Thank you for your honesty and your strengthy to put this topic. Your brother Kader
Tamimu said:
I do not agree to have other people present in my first night of marriage, apart from feeling shy, I don't think if it is a good I deal and it is beyond my religious beliefs I think.
So I prefer the use of white cloth as a bead sheet to witness if she's virgin or not instead of those primitive beliefs
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