I usually do, but I started to doubt the wisdom of my behavior. The reason is that some of my friends here left and deleted their pages few of them i lost contact with them totally and they didn't even tell me why they left. It hurts so much when you miss them and wonder if you did something wrong? Sometimes they keep in touch via other social websites or e-mails. Still l wonder if it is safer to just think of online friends as temporary acquaintances, Is it even possible to control our feelings this way?
What do you think??
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@Bev, TK, vvquang and Babi
Thanks for sharing your thoughtful opinions.. I appreciate it A LOT.
Listen to your heart in each case you face. Even an offline friend may leave you without a word and make you hurt. No matter where, online or offline, there will also be the reliable men or not. Each person who has ever passed through your life would leave you some memories and experience. And, although these are happy or sad, I believe they all will make you more mature.
So, no need to put any barrier to a new friend. We may not trust several men on this world, but we have to believe in human being, my friend, because there are many kind people still out there, around you..
Please do not be emotional but rational to all your friends online or in reality. I had experienced what you have been through. =) My best advice is love your online friends without a passion. I know it is gonna be a challenge for you.
Sincerely,
EC member
Interesting topic, Rabab! For myself, I truly miss contacts that “disappear” and am happy when they reappear again! For example Arif Saeed has been in and out of EC a few times now, and currently, as best I can tell, still “out”, and I miss his thoughtful blogs! And Dreamer_Man has moved on to his job search and has become quite busy with that. But lately I too have been too busy with activities with my local nonprofit organization to spend very much time with my online friends, and I feel badly for it and miss them, but find I am unable to “fix” it just now. So, I guess it happens! But I do feel I have made some deep friendships online, both at EC and on Skype, and I am convinced some will be life-long friendships. There might be gaps in time when we aren’t able to communicate much, but I feel confident communication will continue at a later date. And usually, with these friends, there are several methods of communication, such as EC, Skype, email, and so on, so unless all these options disappear, there will still be a way to connect with them! I hope….
I am in favor of your suggestion for modes of communication.
Snail mail was what i used to do back in the 90s. Heh.
Ec member,
TK
Salam Rahab,
I agree and believe our friends here have given you good and constructive advices. There are almost 80,000 friends in here and there are many new friends joining everyday. And some might have also withdrawn for some reasons we might not know. Don’t ever think it’s your fault that they deleted their accounts. It's not your fault unless you are aware and very sure of what you did or said really ofended that person. Of all you know, she or he might be avoiding some other stalkers.
Online acquaintances can also be permenant friends. So, I don’t see a reason we can’t get emotionally attached to any of them. However, I strongly suggest that we build a barrier. Such as an ‘engravement’ in our heart and mind saying we are all just friends afterall. If this friendship develops to a relationship, then it’s a bonus. But I must say don’t take it too seriously into this relationship until you meet him or her in person. Indeed, there are a lot of difference between online and offline (real life) friends.
Dear VsaDarwisa,
Thanks a bunch for your precious advice.
You are right online and offline friends are not the same. Still we feel that some of our online friends would have been our best offline friends if we had the chance to be in the same place.
Keep well my friend:))
How perceptive.. I truly enjoyed reading your comment and the underlying experience you shared through it. We have a similar saying in Arabic to yours "Live and learn" It says the longer you live the more you see and learn.
Thanks a lot for passing by I appreciate it.
IT is natural Rebab to get attached to people get to know them...weather be it online or in real life we are interacting with them , thus getting to know them better than just a virtual contact. I too felt the same as you when I am not in contact with my close inner circle of friends . now I just let it go they are not forgotten but they have moved on due t o work so forth .....
Dear Nadira, You are right we can't help it it just happened that we feel more connected to people when we get to know them more. I hope that we will hear from them soon :)
Thanks for passing by.. It means a lot to me..
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