The marriage of minors or underage is growing rapidly on these days. Because of poverty or any other lack of substantial matters, people marry their children, they are girls of age between seven, eight or up to twelve or thirteen. If you go to refugee camps, the matter is bigger than you can imagine. For the lack of food, shelter or education, people marry their girls. Some of these girls do not know what marriage is. Greedy ones are taking the advantage of the situations. Those who are rich offer their money for a nine-year-old girl. To add more petrol to the fire, there are some people who arrange these marriages, taking the need of the family and the demand of the other side who wants to satisfy his desire.
Is it because of poverty, the absence of conscience or the wars?
Is there any remedy for this matter?
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My brain works so hard at your discussion . The outcome hasn't come out yet since three days passed .
Rose, my point of view it is a structural issue, the poverty is the cause or effect of many problems, and the poor people have many needs, generally they don't get education, by example in my country El Salvador, girls of age twelve got pregnant so she must marry and forget of the studies this make a poverty cycle, if wouldn't exist the money accumulation the world would be different
Rose said:
Joseph, I am sorry but I don't get your comment, so I ask you directly: what have those rich men to do with stupid men who marry children? That was that topic what we discussing about. Such kind of men exist for much longer than those rich men.
Joseph said:
This is a complicated matter, the human being never is satisfied with things as they have, always wants more, read this analysis "eight richest men worth more than half of the world's population"
http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/world-news/top-eight-richest-men-worth...
in other side, the overpopulation is other cause
Zdravo Marija, What a lovely comment? I really like your ideas and your points for this intervention. the word normal is too strong for that act. because we cannot marry a girl of our granddaughter's age and consider that normal. It needs a lot of tactics. I can marry a child of, say, ten or thirteen years of age, but I have to wait for her till she becomes a real woman. Then, she will be ready to sleep with her husband. Regarding the relatives, it's better to marry outside that area. Medically, they say, it avoids you a lot of chronical diseases. Thanks, Marija for your nice and useful comment!
Marija said:
Di sini, itu tidak seperti itu. Aku menikah dengan orang gadis tiga belas tahun. I married a thirteen-year-old girl when I was about thirty or thirty-five. Here, the matter depends on the court, the acceptance of the child and the consent of her parents. Of course, rules differ from one country to the other. By the way, that is not a justification for us, men to behave like that against those poor creatures. Mr. Mishaikh, mashaa Allah is always right. If the man is a real man and he considers this girl is his wife, he will never harm her or hurt her. He will treat her nicely, he will wait for her till she is a grown woman and then, he can sleep with her as his beloved wife. The matter needs further studies. Thanks, Fatimah!
Fatimah said:
for me, that's really terrible..but that's normal for some cultures and religions, i guess this is a problem of education more than poverty..this is happening at the enviroment where are people less educated..i understand that in some countries people don't have an opportunity to educate yourself. Also is not normal to marry your relative..but this is very common in some countries. What do you think about marriage between relatives?
Ake baar phir danyawaad Chitra! Here, we can marry a woman once it reaches the age of puberty, even before she reaches ten years. That depends on her acceptance and her parent's approval as well. This child is going to become your wife and the woman who raises your children for you. We leave her until she reaches the age of maturity and then she will be ready for the sexual intercourse with her husband. Chitra, I am trying to give you some idea about how it goes in certain circumstances, here. Some girls at ten look like grown women. I hope that people don't misinterpret my intention. Thanks, Chitra!
Chitra said:
Vanakkam Kal! Neer nalavar. Look Kal, don't tell the members about this. I married a thirteen-year-old girl about twenty years ago. I was about thirty or thirty-five. She was not yet a grown woman. of course, that happened according to her acceptance and the approval of her parents and the rest of the family. If you tell this story to the members of the club, they will attack me fiercely. In our societies, once the girl reaches puberty, you can marry her. We do not have to go to the old ages. The matter does not relate to Religion or justice by any mean. It's our dirty minds that create it. Thanks Kal!
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