Next month will mark my parents 50th anniversary. They got married in September, 1968. From the time I knew them up until now, I have never seen my parents fight. I never even knew that couples fight until I started seeing that in movies when I was old enough to understand. I grew up with my siblings in a loving atmosphere so much so that I used to feel I had enough love to share with everybody! As they grow older, the bond seems to get tighter than ever. I don't know how my parents were able to achieve this with fifteen kids but I feel really lucky to have them. They're my super heroes and super role models!
Nowadays, marriages in my community don't last that long. Our elders always say that our generation is highly impatient that's why couples find it difficult to tolerate each other and marriages break up easily. Some spend years in courtship, exchanging love vows and promises, but when they finally get married, it barely lasts a year! From the time I could remember until now, whenever someone is getting married, the main advice given to them by elders is "you have to be patient", "be patient", "be patient". For generations it has being the same advice.
Do you think patience is all it takes to live with someone for half a century or more and not get tired of them?
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Thank you for stopping by and liking Vijay!
Thank you very much Onee! I guess the elders are right then. I used to say that our elders need to upgrade their advice because the world has changed but their advice hasn't, it's "patience" all the time:D
And yes! My mum is indeed ageless! People find it difficult to believe that she gave birth to all of us.:) I appreciate your comment.
May Allah give us the ability to be patient!
I think YES, Salma. Because 'no body is perfect'. When one decided to live with someone for the whole life, they should be prepared of whatever will come to them. Life is a struggle...whatever their condition.
You're so blessed to have parents who never fight in front of you. Everything can be discussed. And......Salma...I'd like to say.....They are lovely couple. Really. I don't believe they like to fight with anyone. Good heart formed lovely and shiny faces! 50 years of marriage?? Your mother looks ageless...^^
Thank you so much for sharing... Great discussion!!
Thank you Roman! It's nice to have you here:)
Hardwork indeed! I'll add it to my recipe:)
Thanks so much and take care!
Thank you Mr Dara Sir! I've been expecting you here so you can share your years of experience with us:)
You're indeed been patient with your wife and I'm happy with that. Women need pampering or else they'll break. Thank you once again!
Happy your parents' 50th anniversary!
No, I think, it is a hard everyday work on relationship. Of course, sometimes it is patience, but everything should be proportional and mutual.
Asante sana Salma Ibrahim! We have a saying, let try to quote it as easy as I could, (I will be patient until patience is helpless against my patience0 Wherever you go unless you are patient, you cannot make it. Our marriage life, our children, at work. Look at my recent discussion about jewelry. If I have not been patient with my family, one of my balloons might have blown up. Teacher Salma, you are a humble person and your brain is full of ideas. Thanks, Salma for sharing.
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Thank you for commenting Fahim! I'll keep those other ingredients in mind to make a good soup:)
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