Hi all,
Sometimes, I feel so sad to see brotherhood start cracking just because of inheritance. When parents are successful. It means they had learnt how precious a struggle is. But, (1) how do they/you teach their children about that?? Did/Do they/you forget??
What about pride?? I mean...as children, (2) are you proud of your own earnings OR inheritance??
Of course, inheritance will be our property right. But, (3) do we need to be jealous and greedy upon our needy siblings/relatives?? Meanwhile, you see yourself are very well in life.
"Brotherhood starts cracking due to a simple matter....money."
I'm so eager to know what do you people think about this matter. Do you think (4) it is normal? I WOULD SAY NO.
Thank you so much for participating. Wish you a healthy and prosperous life. :)
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Dear Eva and Mishaikh,,
I'm so glad to read your elaboration, your point of view here. I will reply again later.
Thank you... ^_^
Dear Mishaikh,
Thank you so much for sharing your valuable view. Yeah, some people do not care about the other's wealth. I'm really proud of them.
I know that we (Muslim) have a law about this. However, quarreling sometimes doesn't stop until someone hang out the white flag.
Distribution in his lifetime is somehow not difficult, and it is good idea. But it is a rare thing to do as human never know when s/he will die. ....and I think again.... Love from parents also play a big role for this, not about the money.
Thanks for this explanation, Mishaikh.
Mishaikh said:
We all should be proud of our own earning like you, dear Serene.
Thanks a lot for dropping by and liking the discussion. I would be glad to read your further comment. :)
Serene said:
Hello, Peppo. ^^
Oh, I've been leaving this serious discussion for a bit long. :D That's why.... Because it's serious. :D
Now let me reply as I can think serious and clear now.... :p
I like your analysis... :))) heads don't contain the same things. So true. ^^
Sure it's normal if parents talk about inheritance. What I mean is when people sacrifice brotherhood to satisfy themselves. :( Whereas,, they had lived together since childhood. I can say that "-in law" is a matter......*psst, it's the secret between us,ok. :D
You know what I mean greedy above...actually,, there's a story behind. In short, someone demand just a little share while she have all above his niece, a needy one. Seeing this in front of me makes me really wonder....... :/ :((
Thank you so much for participating in this discussion, Peppo. I really appreciate it.
Peppo said:
To understand further please visit this link to have elaboration.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Islamic_inheritance_jurisprudence
1) When there is no justice heirs become upset of being deprived. These feelings are normal. But parents should realize their responsibilities and fulfill them justifiably. This is their obligatory responsibility. Besides, they must teach their children all the moralities.
2) Self-pride is also a moral quality, which again is the responsibility to make in their kids, but be aware that wanting and having any inheritance is a right of an individual, and this is not a bad thing.
3) Suppose a kid is very well set in life in all respect, still, he/she has all rights to have any inheritance from their parents, this is at their discretion that they withdraw their right in favor of any sibling whom the consider needing their help.
4) Yes, as I explained above, it is NORMAL.
My friends,,
I'm so glad to read your reply. I will comment again later.... ^^
Jealousy and greed to get what is in the inheritance (wealth whatsoever) are in human nature. But it is more when there is a big monetary (financial) gap between brothers and sisters. But with the contented people, who mostly trust on their destined and hard earn money do not have much care about others' wealth. But there is an Islamic point of view in this too. And that is the parents (father) should not delay the distribution of inheritance among his children and it is better if he does in his lifetime. This saves the children to quarrel over the inheritance after his death.
Dear Onee! I am proud of my own earning. you bring up a nice discussion here.
I will leave my comments later.
What a serious discussion, lol xD
I would like to participate but this is secret between us, ok? Hahaha, just kidding!!!
First, parents only think about their children happiness. It's logical if they seek for money and so on and later inherit those to them. Nothing wrong, it's normal.
Second, if parents have only one kid, it doesn't matter. But if there are many of them, like it or not, problem must arise. Why? Conflict theory in social life, two or more people together will cause a conflict because their heads not contain the same things. There is nothing can we do to stop conflict but we can control it. So if you see people are life peacefully, they are not free from fighting but they only control it well, the same with children when dividing inheritances.
Third, as children we must thank our parents from what they did -regardless they left inheritance or not- just think about it and feel grateful, needless to say we will take care of their goods. Unfortunately some people failed to do this and caused problems you mentioned above.
Thank you^^
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