Hello everyone,
Let us discuss infidelity/ adultery, one of the most selfish and respectless acts a person in a relationship can commit ( That’s my opinion ).
Sometimes back a “friend” told me, that she is having a relationship with a married man, my jaws dropped, because I have very strong opinions about such behavior.
She was smiling and proudly telling about it, until she saw my face expression. I think she could very clearly read what was my opinion. If a person behaves like that, never ever tell me about it, because I am redeemed what that concerns and I will judge in a very, very harsh way.
I think this is one of the most unforgivable acts.
Some questions raised in mind;
What makes a man/husband behave like that?
Why are mostly men who are unfaithful?
What makes a woman have a relationship with a married man?
Do such people lack conscious?
I am just wondering, can not find answers.
“If you cheat on someone who is willing to do anything for you, you actually cheated yourself out of true loyalty”
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Hello Dear Svitlana,
It is a very nice outlook you have on your follow beings, I try to live by that philosophy of life as well.
Just I did/do and will judge in such particular cases, because I found the behavior of such person worrisome. I tried to find in her face expression just a little bit of guilt or remorse, but there was none.
She was completely cold and cynical, knowing he was married, had children and his wife didn’t even have a clue, despite of there were no bad conscious or anything what that concerns on her mind.
Just, I do not agree, that both parts can be guilty, the guilty one must be the one who find the excuse to be unfaithful and not trying to solve the problems as they may have.
Thank you som many times, for sharing your opinion ッ
Surely, dear Evangelina, I don't know that woman, her behavior and all that situation.
Unfortunately, sometimes we can meet heartless people who don't care of anything except caring of themselves only. Actually, I meant a situation in common. If a family is unhappy we shouldn't seek guily people outside.
Thank you, dear Evangelina, for your opinion. Your discussion is really interesting.
Hello Zzina,
Yes, I do agree with you, that humans can error, buuuut, this can not be excused as a “mistake”, because it is my believe that mistakes are often made unconsciously.
This behavior is a conscious choice, and I believe a very egotistical choice, completely selfish act.
Even you found topic hard to discuss, you gave it a try and your point is clear. Thank you so many times, for sharing your opinion ッ
Hello Mr Bob,
I feel happy and honored that you noticed my discussion and took time to leave your opinion/ comment. Thank you so many times.
The issue here is really - or properly it might be something that is difficult for me to digest - how can a woman knowing she is in relation with a married man, and just keep cheating together with him ... how can it be? I can not understand the mechanisms here, what drives a woman to do so, knowing he is married to another woman.
LoooL - I believe the Japanese men should better pull themselves together, and start paying more attention to their wifes, boredom is the root of all evil.
Mr. Bob, how I wish to see you more active here. Thank you so much ッ
Hello Onee,
I was not annoyed, I was surprised and choked because I didn’t thought of her being such person. She has two children.
I did tell my opinion and I tried to appeal to her conscious, but in her optic she was not doing anything wrong.
What I can not understand is, how can a woman being a woman destroying another womans home/life - That is what doesn’t make sense in my world.
And afterwards I can not stop thinking, why did she tell a person like me about it ...,
Sometimes people think their less flattering side/behavior will not be noticed but it does.
Thank you so many times, for sharing your opinion, Onee ッ
I can not stop thinking, why did she tell a person like me about it ...,
May she was having had some inner guilt and just want a friend to ascertain her whether she is doing RIGHT OR WRONG.
I am sure your reactive expression would have realised HER ACT WAS WRONG.
Hello Roman,
Yes, probably it might be as you expressed, and I do agree with Svitlana, you do have a rational way of pointing things out.
Just, no matter how or what may be the reasons, I do not think such behavior can be excused in any reasonable way, because such person is actually also misusing the other persons trust and self respect.
About gender discrimination and equality, I do agree, in certain parts of the world, no matter whether it is the woman who is the unfaithful part or she is the one who is pointing her husbands unfaithful behavior out, it is always the woman who has to prove and give evidence.
Thank you so many times, for sharing your opinion ッ
Roma, you are so wise at your age. I am totally agree with you.
I don't feel like wise. But thank you!
Can you believe that I have had maybe 3-4 life changing situations in EC?
What do you mean about 3-4 life changing situation in EC?
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