Dear EC friends and for other members that are willing to share,
Could you please help me guys, how can I make people follow me? I didn't ask for such role but I don't know they thought I'm trustworthy (believe it or not, I don't think so), but since they thought so, I would like to give them what they deserve. I would like to show them at least a quarter of their expectation from me.
Now, how to become a good leader, given the fact that I will make people who are older than me, more professional than me, and more experience than me to follow/listen to me?
How? @.@
Scary.
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If you wanna 'become' anything but you don't know 'how', "Fake it till you make it"! ;)
Hello, Bet! Thanks a lot for such effort! :)
bet said:
http://www.myenglishclub.com/profiles/blogs/when-if-you-want-somebo..., thanks, sis!
Wow, David! I like all ideas you've given me specifically that not all of them knows everything. The positive spirit that I should never let to die is undeniably helpful, but how to do that? that's the question for me now, and I think only me can answer that.
Regarding your questions, here are my answers;
We have so many things in common. We are meeting twice a week.
Yes, we have a deadline to achieve and finish.
Some members go and some are new.
They can participate and can't participate if they want.
That's the reason why I'm asking my question about following because they should follow/listen to me without force, coercion, anxiety, or any negative feeling. I want them to do so willingly. How to do that? Motivate them? Convince them? How?
Another problem, I'm not a good speaker...I tend to go direct to the point and sometimes people misinterpret that as rudeness or impoliteness.
Anyway, thanks a lot, David! You are a helping hand.
David said:
Hi again Risty,
This is fascinating. I hope you don't mind more questions, then I can offer more specific suggestions. Will your clients come from all different backgrounds or will they have some/many things in common? You mentioned full-time; maybe my question was confusing -- but do you mean like eight hours / day, five days / week or more? Or did you mean you will meet regularly over a long period of time, like a year or more. Will you have deadlines -- like absolute benchmarks that must be met by certain times? Will the first members always be in the group or will they drop out as new people join? Finally, is the group compulsory in any way -- or can anyone come or not come as they please?
For now, it appears like this could be like a counselling, self-help or life-coaching group. Here are some general ideas:
Relax; take ten minutes and write down all the positives (for yourself AND the group) that everyone can experience. Try to avoid generalities and be specific.
Understand and admit that no one knows everything about the topic or skill(s) you’re working on – especially yourself. Reflect on all the positives you bring to the group and focus on them.
Plan carefully but stay flexible. Consider messaging or emailing everyone a dot-point plan of what you want to do for the meeting – with the understanding that that it’s only a guide. Some activities may become more engaging than planned and claim more time.
It’s OK to let the group know you are nervous – but emphasise that you are excited about the opportunities and positive outcomes that can result from group support.
Emphasise the spirit of teamwork with the whole group. Even if members separate for different tasks, pull the whole group back together so that everyone knows what is happening and reinforce all of the positive aspects.
You will have a good idea how formal or informal the group will be … or it could be dynamic – moving between both. In any event, you might want to establish group expectations. Try hard to keep everything in the positive. eg. “We will attend group meetings on time” not “Don’t be late”. This can be challenging, but keeping everything positive sets a positive environment.
Good luck Risty; message me if I can help further.
David.
Risty said:
Hello, Mish!
Actually, I didn't wish for that...it's just happened. My dilemma is how to perform it well and just. I'm also a follower too.
Mishaikh said:
Why in the first place you wish people will follow you. Why don't you follow some selected and ideal ones?
Risty said:
Silly Musky! hahaha!
I can't do that thru violence and fear. I need to make them follow and listen to me with all sincerity, by their hearts.
Muskan said:
Step 1 identify audience
step 2 identify place where you can get them all along and on what day
Step 3 Get a gun ...
You know where I am going with this receipe xD
On the serious note: I would be repeating be natural + if you know how to keep positive vocabulary even talking about hot issue people will listen , sure lazy ones will just pretend to be listening xD
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