HOPE YOU ARE FINE AND DOING WELL .
THIS IS THE FIRST DISCUSSION TO ME HERE AND WOULD LIKE YOU ALL TO PARTICIPATE ME WITH YOUR VALUABLE COMMITS PLEASE.
Finding a spouse by parents choice means to let your parents find you the right wife by asking about the right family and girl.
Personally ,I like this way because you are looking for not only a girl but also another family.
I believe that marriage is a beginning for beautiful friendship between the wife and the husband. Most of people say that friendship ends by marriage ,but I disagree.
This relationship starts with acceptance, respect, and turning out to love living forever.
On the other hand, Romantic meetings can not generate a happy family, because both of the man and the woman pretending that they are the right for each other. The man plays a role of the perfect man who is polite , rational, and reliable . And the same goes with the woman.
As a result , After getting marriage, they realize that they are not able to face life responsibilities and difficulties.
I am waiting for your commits.
Best Wishes,
Bassam
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In English this is called an "arranged marriage".
Thank you very much Miss Tara and please share with us your opinion about arranged marriage.
are you with or against?
take care
Bassam
I have thought about this. I think love and respect for your partner are the most important thing. How you find your partner is secondary.
At first I was tempted to say I don't like arranged marriage. But that is possibly because it is part of my culture.
I think marriage should be for love. But finding a partner can be hard. I'm quite shy so talking to girls, especially ones I like. So meeting prospective partners is scary and hard for me. I think there are times when having someone help you would be good. I also think it is important that if your parents help you find a partner that they look for the right qualities, and I don't think marriage should be arranged without consent of the young couple.
When I say look for the right qualities, status is not a good quality. Wealth isn't necessarily a good quality. Caring about the wellbeing and happiness of your partner is a good quality. So thoughtfulness and kindness are good qualities.
I don't agree with your statement that romantic meetings can't create a happy marriage. I believe that a truly happy couple is only possible with romantic feelings. But you make a point that is really important - honesty. If a couple aren't honest with each other it will not work.
I hope that my future wife will make me smile just to see her. I hope that I can make her happy and that I can care for her. I hope that I will get the tingly feelings when she looks at me.
my advice for u ,do not your parents choose your wife never .your father want u choose a girl who has a good job or good salary . while your mother want u choose a girl who she is good making food and care with your children.
always view of parents for your future wife faraway passion . passion in my opinion is importance thing between two couple.
passion which do miracles between couple where husband forgive any mistake from his wife and Vice versa.
Dear Popeye5,
how are you ?
hope you are doing well.
firstly , i should thank you for sharing with me your comment.
again thank you .
Refer to what you have written to me , you are totally right but but you have the decision to agree or not.i still do not have experience like you have but i talked about what i think still an opinion could be true or wrong .
any way , please let us share your opinions next time .
take care,
Bassam
Bassam,
Religious affiliation or social status often determines our choice, even if it did not necessarily make account.
The way of finding a wife or a husband will be so different depending your country, your social status, the way you've been raised by your parents. In Europe, our approach is very different than yours.
Finding the one who will share your life is more natural or spontaneous. And this way is not as wrong as you can think. Many couples are very happy, strong, and will be forever in love.
My parents would have never chosen a wife for me. They would have never make such important choices for me. All they wanted was my happyness, for me and my familly. As you parents did, using different ways...
My way of thinking might be very light or superficial to you, but it's not also simple. What is the most important thing for a couple? Happiness, trust, friendship, and love of course.
It doesn't matter the way you will find the good Wife/Husband. If you're happy and agree with the way it will happen... If the final choice is yours.
I could not live with a woman imposed by my parents, or proprieties... My heart has to say "Yes" ...
Hello,basam your topic good which consider social topic contorversal also,for my opinion the marriage
has tow way for choice first tradition way by parents or sister,the second way choic by use relationship
between man and women,also there are new way marriage by use internet , as known most arabic ,islamic
country conservative socities, most people prefer use first choice (tradition way) there are many cases
use the seconed way (relationship between man and women) also few cases use new way bu use internet but ithink the best way first because many cases in marrige which use relationship between
man and women prove there are big gab betwwen husband,and wife,also problems so i agree with you
the choice tradition marriage