Do you think it is ok to make jokes about girl's/woman's weight?You know boys/men like to teas us, however do you think it is funny if they start joking about something so sensitive like our weight? It is of course a question of self-confidence to be able to kill such jokes but ehmm in this modern era we are influenced by pictures of slim, skinny models and even normal looking girl can feel fat then..Can such jokes lead to eating disorders such as bulimia or anorexia or is it a problem of girl/woman, who should be able just to laugh at them instead of taking them too seriously?Thank you for your opinions ;)
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Luci, I personally do not like to make jokes of anybody, girls or boys. I do not feel easy when I hear people making others their laughing stalk. (I hope I am using the right phrase). This is against my nature. I can't do that because there are many defects in myself, physically and characteristically which I am very well aware of!
Lately I see so many video propaganda of healthy life style.sexy body, awesome make up etc. Girls have such, excuse me, asses that u think their life goal is to creat an ass that will make everyone stare with open mouth :D personally I think thats kinda sick!!! yes it's cool to be healthy and fit but, excuse me, not everyone can look like a top model and if you do have some extra weight it doesn't mean you must be mocked or people should be disgusted by you! Eventually, the biggest worry of some girls becomes her ass rather than her head, which is frankly speaking, a bit sad)))
Now talking about the jokes. If someone told me I am fat I would say "yeh and thats awesome" :D let's say I don't give a damn abt what others say or think however there might be other women who take it not so easy and might go into depression stop eatting etc. I think esp. guys should be very careful about making such jokes and make sure that it IS a joke rather than a sly way to tell a woman "wow u r so damn fat"!!!
I was careless to say some jokes to a friend about weight. Then, she didn't greet me, even hated me for days and months.... Glad that now she's still a friend of mine.
Sure, that's not funny at all. Guys, please don't make a joke of this matter to girls or women. Though they like humor, we never know when they finally hurt.
Thanks for the discussion and reminding us (especially men) about this, Luci. :)
"Tease" and "insult" are strong words. Making a joke to a best friend of, "Hey Becky, you seem to like food more than television", could be harmless. But I would never say this to a stranger, an acquaintance or somebody I knew struggled with disease, dieting or a metal disorder.
Media really does pose a truly unattainable image for women, but to recognize that and not be superficially influenced by them is a key to happiness.
Jokes can cause mental disorders, the simplest example of this is "Bullying". At the same time, if you can't enjoy a hearty laugh, that can also become debilitating.
It doesn't matter what others think of you, only what you think of yourself.
Yes, I found that being obese is not that much problematic for men like women. And, I also found women are more conscious about their weight than men ( I am talking about average people). But teasing is a different thing! It is a must No thing! Actually people should try, should get proper weight instead being obese because it is related to many diseases. So, in this matter if a girl or woman puts on more weight and being teased and starts eating less....I would take it positively ...lol. Anyway, I am always against getting more weight than desired weight as per age and height. I always try to be active to walk around to get proper weight...lol. And, on the other way, every people should be conscious and smart not to pay head what others tell about them. For example, if a girl or woman is a bit fatty genetically , she must take it easy and should see a doctor and try to control her eating tendency. And, a slim fit girl or woman should not try to loose her weight to be skinny!
But, whatever it is I am against teasing. Stay fit and be yourself ( man and woman both)! Oh..forget to mention what kind of dress we are wearing is not a matter, matter is getting a proper weight! And, so far I know covered people are also conscious about their weight.
Guys who make bad jokes about women's weight are a joke themselves.
But I doubt any joke can lead to eating disorders... Of course the social pressure plays an important role here, but I think these kind of disorders have a more 'psychological background' that has to do with depression, low self esteem, negative affect, stress...
About taking some 'jokes' to seriously, well... it depends on the circumstances. I've a childhood friend who always had overweight but she has always make jokes about it, even when she was a lil girl and she was being bullied just for that. I'm never gonna forget how mean were some kids with her just because of her weight and how she always tried to not take it 'too seriously'. But it was unfair and mean and nobody deserved that. I'll always admire the self-confidence and strength of my friend; I couldn't have been so 'strong' and neither to feel like making 'jokes of myself' in these shcool days if I had been her.
Just because someone can 'joke' about it him/herself doesn't mean it's a 'no matter' thing... My friend never told me this, but I could feel many times that the 'joking about herself' thing was a pure 'survival tool' on those school days.
Areal,
m glad to see you here and ehmmm... I am as heavy as the rock near your hut ;) watch out because when you are coming home, it is like earthquake and then... I might one day fall down :D
AReality said:
Luci, How many stones you weigh?
Do you think it is ok to make jokes about girl's/woman's weight?
Do you think it is ok to make jokes about girl's/woman's weight?
You know boys/men like to teas us, however do you think it is funny if they start j…
Haha Batu...you seem to be kinda experienced because thats what I also say...make fun of everything but not my age and body :D Women are just weirdos... I know and I wonder your colleague didn't slap you :D I would kill you!
Batuhan said:
Well making jokes about a woman's age and weight always gives rise to the occurrence of over-reactions in most of countries.It was last year when I impulsively and recklessly blurted something about weight out while speaking with a colleague from my division.I abruptly told her that he had seemed overweight than before but when i turned her and looked at her face,I noticed the grim reality ."never say something about weight and age of a woman".She was almost slaping me lol
Do you think it is ok to make jokes about girl's/woman's weight?
Do you think it is ok to make jokes about girl's/woman's weight?
You know boys/men like to teas us, however do you think it is funny if they start j…
I think that women are more sensitive and hardly accept such jokes, their thinking differ and yeah I believe that if you tease a guy who is fat and doesn't care about it - logically he is able to laugh as he is careless...I believe that living covered is easier and doesn't lead to eating disorders but on the other hand I simplx will go outside in the summer in skirt no matter if I am 50 or 80kg because it is also about feeling comfortable. However, I can see here lately more obese teenagers - girls - wearing tight clothes without any complex etc. Anywayyyy... ehm I consider myself average woman and hard to say how some beauty queens take this all.. but logically maybe demands on them are higher...thanx for participating in this discussion..
Reginald Mercer said:
Well I find it odd that men don't get bothered by these jokes but women do. Most fat guys I know don't care that they're fat or that people notice it, but women get all worried over it!
I agree that people are given unrealistic images about what is attractive, but I would say that men and women are both affected by it. For example, the ideal woman is thinner than is really normal, but the ideal man is also taller and more attractive than the average man. It's because sex sells!
As far as teasing and jokes go, it is a male thing. We tend to take the piss out of each other (british term meaning tease or make fun of) as a sort of male bonding ritual. It's not hostile, but it's how we relate to each other. Women are the complete opposite, and whenever I forget that and tease them I get into trouble.
But I think the eating disorder epidemic is related to vanity. For example, in Muslim countries where women have a strict dress code, you don't have these self image problems because there are less opportunities to develop a sense of vanity. In fact, there's a girl in EC who comes from the UAE, and she went to Australia for a semester where she dressed like the other girls. She developed anorexia as a result and all sorts of OCD symptoms that didn't exist before when she followed the dress code in the UAE.
I also noticed that the more beautiful a woman is, the more insecure she is. We have a girl here in my town who is from Poland and (much like you) quite gorgeous, but she has all these insecurities about her appearance, and I think it's because when someone (a man or a woman) is very physically attractive, they have this remarked on throughout their lives, and therefore they consider it a large part of their sense of self. As a result, the idea that they might not be attractive is a huge blow to their sense of self and therefore it creates those insecurities.
Just food for thought, mostly leftovers in the fridge!
Do you think it is ok to make jokes about girl's/woman's weight?
Do you think it is ok to make jokes about girl's/woman's weight?
You know boys/men like to teas us, however do you think it is funny if they start j…
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Defininitely not ok.
Luci, I personally do not like to make jokes of anybody, girls or boys. I do not feel easy when I hear people making others their laughing stalk. (I hope I am using the right phrase). This is against my nature. I can't do that because there are many defects in myself, physically and characteristically which I am very well aware of!
Lately I see so many video propaganda of healthy life style.sexy body, awesome make up etc. Girls have such, excuse me, asses that u think their life goal is to creat an ass that will make everyone stare with open mouth :D personally I think thats kinda sick!!! yes it's cool to be healthy and fit but, excuse me, not everyone can look like a top model and if you do have some extra weight it doesn't mean you must be mocked or people should be disgusted by you! Eventually, the biggest worry of some girls becomes her ass rather than her head, which is frankly speaking, a bit sad)))
Now talking about the jokes. If someone told me I am fat I would say "yeh and thats awesome" :D let's say I don't give a damn abt what others say or think however there might be other women who take it not so easy and might go into depression stop eatting etc. I think esp. guys should be very careful about making such jokes and make sure that it IS a joke rather than a sly way to tell a woman "wow u r so damn fat"!!!
I was careless to say some jokes to a friend about weight. Then, she didn't greet me, even hated me for days and months.... Glad that now she's still a friend of mine.
Sure, that's not funny at all. Guys, please don't make a joke of this matter to girls or women. Though they like humor, we never know when they finally hurt.
Thanks for the discussion and reminding us (especially men) about this, Luci. :)
The simplest answer is "It depends".
"Tease" and "insult" are strong words. Making a joke to a best friend of, "Hey Becky, you seem to like food more than television", could be harmless. But I would never say this to a stranger, an acquaintance or somebody I knew struggled with disease, dieting or a metal disorder.
Media really does pose a truly unattainable image for women, but to recognize that and not be superficially influenced by them is a key to happiness.
Jokes can cause mental disorders, the simplest example of this is "Bullying". At the same time, if you can't enjoy a hearty laugh, that can also become debilitating.
It doesn't matter what others think of you, only what you think of yourself.
Yes, I found that being obese is not that much problematic for men like women. And, I also found women are more conscious about their weight than men ( I am talking about average people). But teasing is a different thing! It is a must No thing! Actually people should try, should get proper weight instead being obese because it is related to many diseases. So, in this matter if a girl or woman puts on more weight and being teased and starts eating less....I would take it positively ...lol. Anyway, I am always against getting more weight than desired weight as per age and height. I always try to be active to walk around to get proper weight...lol. And, on the other way, every people should be conscious and smart not to pay head what others tell about them. For example, if a girl or woman is a bit fatty genetically , she must take it easy and should see a doctor and try to control her eating tendency. And, a slim fit girl or woman should not try to loose her weight to be skinny!
But, whatever it is I am against teasing. Stay fit and be yourself ( man and woman both)! Oh..forget to mention what kind of dress we are wearing is not a matter, matter is getting a proper weight! And, so far I know covered people are also conscious about their weight.
Guys who make bad jokes about women's weight are a joke themselves.
But I doubt any joke can lead to eating disorders... Of course the social pressure plays an important role here, but I think these kind of disorders have a more 'psychological background' that has to do with depression, low self esteem, negative affect, stress...
About taking some 'jokes' to seriously, well... it depends on the circumstances. I've a childhood friend who always had overweight but she has always make jokes about it, even when she was a lil girl and she was being bullied just for that. I'm never gonna forget how mean were some kids with her just because of her weight and how she always tried to not take it 'too seriously'. But it was unfair and mean and nobody deserved that. I'll always admire the self-confidence and strength of my friend; I couldn't have been so 'strong' and neither to feel like making 'jokes of myself' in these shcool days if I had been her.
Just because someone can 'joke' about it him/herself doesn't mean it's a 'no matter' thing... My friend never told me this, but I could feel many times that the 'joking about herself' thing was a pure 'survival tool' on those school days.
m glad to see you here and ehmmm... I am as heavy as the rock near your hut ;) watch out because when you are coming home, it is like earthquake and then... I might one day fall down :D
AReality said:
Batuhan said:
I think that women are more sensitive and hardly accept such jokes, their thinking differ and yeah I believe that if you tease a guy who is fat and doesn't care about it - logically he is able to laugh as he is careless...I believe that living covered is easier and doesn't lead to eating disorders but on the other hand I simplx will go outside in the summer in skirt no matter if I am 50 or 80kg because it is also about feeling comfortable. However, I can see here lately more obese teenagers - girls - wearing tight clothes without any complex etc. Anywayyyy... ehm I consider myself average woman and hard to say how some beauty queens take this all.. but logically maybe demands on them are higher...thanx for participating in this discussion..
Reginald Mercer said: