Can we change BAD character?

Hello all MyEC friends,

Character is brought by nature. There are good and bad in every person. Some of us could realize our BAD character, but hardly could ignore it. If this BAD was getting more critical, this could harm us or spoil our relationship with people. So, my question is..

Can we change BAD character?
If YES, HOW?.........If NO, WHY?

In my own opinion, there are only two steps, willingness and learning.

Note: some of BAD characters could be

quick tempered
panicky
inconsistent
revengeful
intolerant
careless
difficult to motivate themselves
less empathy
hard to admit mistakes
and many more.

This is NOT about HABIT, ATTITUDE or BEHAVIOR. In case of confusion, please read my blog about the definition of them.

Thank you very much for reading and joining this discussion. You could share tips and/or experiences here. I would be glad to hear from you. :)

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Have a look at this one real story:

A father, who always be angry to every family member whatever they did, right or wrong. He's not as cruel as people saw, but he's just QUICK-TEMPERED. He doesn't really like hit the things or family members body, but just talk with high tone in every situation so often. He learnt how to manage himself not to do it, but years has gone by. This CHARACTER HAS MADE HIM GET FAR FROM HER SONS AND DAUGHTERS. Fortunately he has a patient wife. All that he could do is less talking. At his age, he's a bit late to repent. But, in other way, all the family still love him.

My dearest neighbor Noaslpls, :)

I want to tell you and maybe others want to hear ONE REAL story here, from the one who has BAD-TEMPERED character. Though you're a bit doubt to understand habit and character, your answer is right. YES, IT'S REALLY HARD.

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A father, who always be angry to every family member whatever they did, right or wrong. He is not as cruel as people saw, but he's just QUICK-TEMPERED. He doesn't really like hit the things or family members, but just talk with high tone in every situation so often. He learnt how to manage himself not to do it, but years has gone by. This CHARACTER HAS MADE HIM GET FAR FROM HER SONS AND DAUGHTERS. Fortunately he has a patient wife. All that he could do is less talking. At his age, he is a bit late to repent. But, in other way, all the family still love him.

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It's CLEAR IT IS SO HARD.

Aha, yes. GOOD DEEDS can also help people to change their BAD character since they actually have a good heart. When we help others, actually others will pray for us or definitely Allah would lead us to be a good person by pressing bad character with PATIENCE, right?

One point I like from your notes, "When those bad characters did not HARM anyone, it's the safest zone for us to keep our relationship with people in our life.

To fulfill your curiosity about habit and character, you could read this blog... CLICK! Thank you a lot, my dear Noaslpls. You made me pleased with your view here. :)

Dear all, I’ll try to make a brief explanation about those in the title regarding to my discussion “Can we change BAD character?”. Please remember th…

Replies

daffodil1393 November 4, 2015 8:51

I think everyone's character has 2aspects.A bad one and a good one.I think a bad character can change by the time.But there is aslo another mather.A changed character can return to the former one,too.
ELF-Noor November 3, 2015 18:23

I think yes.. If you are serious about changing your bad habits.. Then you can.. Other it will be difficult to change.. !!
Onee-chan November 3, 2015 4:47

My dearest neighbor Noaslpls, :)

I want to tell you and maybe others want to hear ONE REAL story here, from the one who has BAD-TEMPERED character. Though you're a bit doubt to understand habit and character, your answer is right. YES, IT'S REALLY HARD.

==========================

A father, who always be angry to every family member whatever they did, right or wrong. He is not as cruel as people saw, but he's just QUICK-TEMPERED. He doesn't really like hit the things or family members, but just talk with high tone in every situation so often. He learnt how to manage himself not to do it, but years has gone by. This CHARACTER HAS MADE HIM GET FAR FROM HER SONS AND DAUGHTERS. Fortunately he has a patient wife. All that he could do is less talking. At his age, he is a bit late to repent. But, in other way, all the family still love him.

==========================

It's CLEAR IT IS SO HARD.

Aha, yes. GOOD DEEDS can also help people to change their BAD character since they actually have a good heart. When we help others, actually others will pray for us or definitely Allah would lead us to be a good person by pressing bad character with PATIENCE, right?

One point I like from your notes, "When those bad characters did not HARM anyone, it's the safest zone for us to keep our relationship with people in our life.

To fulfill your curiosity about habit and character, you could read this blog... CLICK! Thank you a lot, my dear Noaslpls. You made me pleased with your view here. :)

ATTITUDE, BEHAVIOR, HABIT, and CHARACTER

Dear all, I’ll try to make a brief explanation about those in the title regarding to my discussion “Can we change BAD character?”. Please remember th…
Onee-chan November 3, 2015 3:59

Hello Dipesh, thank you very much for agreeing and giving such encouraging words.

"With the utmost effort, NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE". I love it.

So glad you joined my discussion. :)
Onee-chan November 2, 2015 5:23

Dear bethoven,

Calling a name is a HOMAGE. If you changed the name with the bad ones, it would be a problem. I hope not. You could start with a bit silent. :))

The SENSITIVE and/or RUDE character are here. Maybe we should try to do introspection all the time. We could change our bad habit with our awareness anyway.

Thanks a lot for joining my discussion. :)
Onee-chan November 2, 2015 4:36

Hello Ana, so glad to have your view here.

In other words, it needs lots of patience. Thank you very much for participating. :)
Onee-chan November 1, 2015 11:31

Batuhan, I would like to make a bit correction for my last reply to you.

Your example is a CONSEQUENCE of being "LAZY", one of which I mean BAD character. This "lazy" MOSTLY makes people failed or less result in many things and it really bothers our personality. To change it, we're hard to just say discipline as discipline itself is the opposite of lazy. If they have a strong character of "lazy", change could be started with willingness and spirit. Time surely play a big role here.

Thank you very much for sharing your thought here. I'm glad you joined my discussion. :)
Onee-chan October 31, 2015 10:55

So true, Elen. It's QUITE DIFFICULT, but NOT IMPOSSIBLE. Thanks again for your reply. :)
Onee-chan October 31, 2015 10:24

Mishaikh, those are BAD ACTIONS. Please read my blog. Thank you. Hmmm..

ATTITUDE, BEHAVIOR, HABIT, and CHARACTER

Dear all, I’ll try to make a brief explanation about those in the title regarding to my discussion “Can we change BAD character?”. Please remember th…
- Mishaikh > Onee-chan October 31, 2015 10:42
  
  First you define what is really a BAD CHARACTER, A BAD PERSON is. Then it will be decided can a bad character be changed in a good character.My answer is that that yes it can be changed but with firm will not to repeat and feel shame for the ones done already.

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