Hello all MyEC friends,
Character is brought by nature. There are good and bad in every person. Some of us could realize our BAD character, but hardly could ignore it. If this BAD was getting more critical, this could harm us or spoil our relationship with people. So, my question is..
- Can we change BAD character?
- If YES, HOW?.........If NO, WHY?
In my own opinion, there are only two steps, willingness and learning.
Note: some of BAD characters could be
- quick tempered
- panicky
- inconsistent
- revengeful
- intolerant
- careless
- difficult to motivate themselves
- less empathy
- hard to admit mistakes
- and many more.
This is NOT about HABIT, ATTITUDE or BEHAVIOR. In case of confusion, please read my blog about the definition of them.
Thank you very much for reading and joining this discussion. You could share tips and/or experiences here. I would be glad to hear from you. :)
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Have a look at this one real story:
A father, who always be angry to every family member whatever they did, right or wrong. He's not as cruel as people saw, but he's just QUICK-TEMPERED. He doesn't really like hit the things or family members body, but just talk with high tone in every situation so often. He learnt how to manage himself not to do it, but years has gone by. This CHARACTER HAS MADE HIM GET FAR FROM HER SONS AND DAUGHTERS. Fortunately he has a patient wife. All that he could do is less talking. At his age, he's a bit late to repent. But, in other way, all the family still love him.
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Mr.Bob,, now we can see Donald Trump is a president. I can guess you know him so well (about his bad character). Hope he can change it. :)
Onee-chan said:
Dear Mr. Bob,,
Just ensured that Donald Trump is a rich businessman. I'm not sure the story was, but I can get what you mean. First is to realize the mistakes. Repent is a good start to change to be better.
Many thanks for visiting this discussion, Sir. I appreciate it a lot. And welcome back!. :)
Mr. Bob said:
Dear Zahra......
Woww, you shared your view so completely and I like it so much. Sure, we have our ways in Islam. So many ways, we will find it better by remembering Allah and recite 'istighfar',I think you'll agree on that.
About choosing community, sometimes it's very hard to choose. But, at least we should try. If we can't make a change by ourselves, we could at least not to imitate the bad characters of people around us.
I completely agree with you, SPORT is physical exercise, but it really affects the characters of people. When the blood circulation and heart beat is very good, every matters seems to be just an easy task. People will much think positive more and lots ideas may come easily. That's only also my point of view.
Food, ahh... This doesn't influence too much. However, I also agree with you. It doesn't mean kinds of food affect the character, BUT I mean how much healthy / nutrients food are consumed by the people. I proved my self I got a little emotion when I lack nutrient food. :D :D
All those possibilities are started with the intention. I hope we all can manage it very well.
I'm really sorry for the very belated reply. :))) Thank you so much for your precious comment, dear Zahra. ^_^
Zahra said:
Hi Andrey,
Glad to meet you. Well, I admit that keeping silent is a concrete action which could cover our bad character. There, we will think more about how to behave well and not hurt others. That time we learn, and in the future we may change the bad character we hate. Somehow, what if our bad character is talking about useless thing too much? I guess it is very difficult to cope with it. lol....
Many thanks for your valuable comment. :)
Andrey said:
Hmm,, CAREFULNESS is a good thing somehow. C'mon...the first thought is usually innocent and honest. I bet you can, my dearest Aseven. ^_^
A738a said:
When I read my reply on Feb. 5th, I threw up in my mouth a little. I dunno. Maybe you're right. I'm not that girl anymore. More bitter and jaded and less ''optimistic''. Actually, you know what? I tried and it backfired. Now I couldn't care less about those people.
Onee-chan said:
Dear Ma'am Nadira....
So, according to you, we can be easier to change the bad character when we realize about the out come of it, right? Then, I agree with you. "That's the concrete step!".
Thank you very much for your wise answer, Ma'am... ^_^
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