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I start with a question: Have you ever had the experience of a grouply life? What about for a short time? I don't know what your answer will be but I’m already experiencing it. I’m student in another city for 1/5 years and
still 2/5 years left, but I guess these years are going to be among my happiest
memories of life and I wish to be able to manage my time and mood properly so
that these years become the golden years and end up to happiness and success:)

You know, living far from my family and friends has some difficulties beside its adventures .I had to find new friends, to know new people and new places, to live on my own without any help and to manage everything by
myself. The most impressive thing was that I had to live with those
people who I’ve never met them before, didn't have any idea about their habits
and temper, and had to spend most of my time with them in the same place. It
was looking like making a new family somehow and living with them for years. Just
at the first time I realized that I had to cope. I had to learn to know
personalities and make friendship with them. it was very stressful and I never
forget my first roommate’s tears when she cried after her mom;-)and made
me calm her down.(of course it’s not fair if I don’t confess I cried after some
days too;-) ).But we learnt everything soon. I confess I learnt much more than
my expectations. I dare say I’d underestimated my skills. Any way we learnt how
to live with each other finally.

I guess might some of my EC friends are experiencing such life or maybe will experience in future. So I decided to share my learnt with them in the form of seven secrets maybe helpful.

Secret 1- Don’t force yourself to tolerate. It will tire you in future unless you intend to stay for a short time. First know each other very well. If you feel you can’t stand some special behaviors or can’t solve
them by discussion then decide whether u want to change your roommate. So choose
people to live with who are similar to you or at least are not annoying for you.
One important thing is that: Be careful. Maybe annoying person is you. So care
about your behavior and change your habits if necessary. So don’t blame your
roommates only and listen to their complaints too.

Secret 2-  Joint ownership. Specify each other’s share of everything and don’t make furniture private. One of the argues in this field is mostly about refrigerator :D(at least
between us was so). I think in this matter you’d better buy most of food stuffs
jointly because you have only one refrigerator! So be resilient and don’t fill
the refrigerator with your own stuffs. Limit time or place about other things
as well.

Secret3 - Money. It is very important. If one of you be a tightfisted person it definitely will cause a deep fight. But after all I think there is no need to list spent money by each of members. Just be careful when your turn to buy
is.

Secter4 - Voice and light.                                    

a.       Voice: Never listen to music loudly when your roommates are busy with their personal works or studying. Or don’t
watch movies on TV or your laptop loudly. Unless they be going to join you. If
you live in the same room I think you even had better take long last talks on
the phone out of the room and use headphone while listening and watching movie.

b.      Light: Sometimes your roommate might be going to stay awake until late at night (of course he or she had better do
his/her best to finish works until bed time or at least do them in another
place, but supposing is unable this time).In such my cases experiences say
that:” Don’t complain, It absolutely will happen to you too”. So be patient and
try to sleep somehow. But you certainly have right of complaining if it
happens every night or most of the nights. And please never forget such favors
of your roommatesJ

Secret 5- Keeping the house clean. All of you have to do your best about it. Otherwise it will become a fight after a while. You can specify the days of cleaning the room. There are also two ways to do that: 1- Share all tasks and
do all of them jointly.2- Specify what to do each time and remember your turn
and what is assigned to you that day. Anyway, again this time I think
resilience will help you solve may problems by changing your turns if you think
you can’t do them in your own turn. Don’t forget, help each other always. You
are looking like a family now and need each other.

Secret 6 - Discussion. Always have a logic and practical discussion with each other about your problems and needs. But discuss about them certainly in order to avoid it to change into an unsolvable complex. Don’t forget mentioned
point in “secret 1”.

Secret 7- Have fun. Even If you are not that closed to share your weekends or holidays, still there are many ways to have fun with each other. For example agree to watch movie together in one special night or make a big meal together
or go for shopping together or celebrate each other’s birthday and invite some
friends and dance. These make you more closer, help you feel each other much
better, discuss more freely and will reduce your argues.

After all I think a sincere and peaceful communication with our roommates makes calm and happy days, and happy days will make a happy person with happy memories and surely happy friends for today and futureJ

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