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This blog is dedicated to the soul of my beloved mother may Allah rest her soul. And to all great mothers that colour our life with their unconditional love and care. WE ARE GRATEFUL.

1. DO NOT EVER upset your mother. By saying or doing something rude or inappropriate. Or not obeying her.  If you did; apologize instantly even if she wasn't mad at you. I can’t forget when once I was angry and I addressed my mother in a discourteaus way. She didn't say a word and I forgot the whole thing. After she passed away. The memory of that day came to me in a flash and since then this memory has been torturing me every moment. I wish I had died before I had said it.   



2.  Don't leave a chance without telling your mother how much you love her and how much you appreciate what she has been doing for you and your family. I wish I had done that more often. I can't change this now but you can. Whar are you waiting for go hug her and tell her you love her more than anything and more than anyone. I am dying to do that only once more.

3.  Show her that you also care. Help your mother in the house works even if she doesn't ask to. Ask about her food if she ate well or not if she slept well or not; simply do few things that she always has been doing for you. That will convey how you do care about her I wouldn't say "as much as she does" because there is no care that compared to mother's.  My mother was too caring to ask me to help her except for small things. 10 years ago in my teens I was too superficial to feel the importance of helping her. It was a secondary issue for me and I admit it I was self centered. Be wiser and Learn from my mistakes.

4.     Make your mother your best friend. Tell her about your friends and what you do when you are  together. About your study, school, teachers and class mates. Even tell her your secrets. Why not?? You will never have someone as good for you as your mother. You will make her happy by this intimacy. And she will show you the right path. We were friends my mother and I. But I wish I had made more efforts to be even closer.

5.  Take a part in her interests. Even if it doesn’t enjoy you. As an example it won’t hurt you to offer to accompany her to visit a relative or a friend which you don’t enjoy their company. Those small sacrifices won’t cost you much. Instead it will brings her great joy feeling her own daughter on her side sharing her things that she enjoys doing. I miss her badly that I wish I hadn't lost any chance to be with her.

P.S. I wish from the depth of my heart that daughters from all ages take my advice. Before it’s too late. The idea of this blog may sounds cruel; honestly I don’t want anyone to live through the unbearable pain of mother loss. But in this life parting is unavoidable. So I want others to benefit from my experience make your mother happy because the only condolence then is feeling that you deserved her remission and satisfaction.

May Allah grant all mothers health and happiness. And for the departed mothers I pray may they rest in peace.

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