1. Feed your wife with the ‘happy (H)’ vitamin as the best vitamin is 'vitamin [H]’.
I believe in the principles; a love should be daily expressed in life. So if a love which is not expressed at all for your wife by yourself as her husband, you cannot say it is the real love. Therefore, I think you should say ‘I love you’ to your wife at least once per a day. To say ‘I love you’ is the same as a restorative in keeping up a good marriage life.
2. Learn & have the certain knowledge about women as you should study your wife in life.
With your wife living together is more difficult thing to do (especially for the cross-cultural marriage) than commanding the military force in keeping step. If you are living with your wife without knowing her there is not a possibility of real happiness in living together. So you should improve your knowledge of it on your mind with a great understanding of it at least in general.
3. Think or be in hope & prayer for the better life of your family always positively, as the best leadership starts from the hope & prayer before everything else.
Instead of nagging/scolding or blaming you should hope something positively in your prayer. Hoping in prayer should get better results for the good relationship than nagging all the time. The key of hoping in prayer is to open a day for a good start and to close a day for the next good start. Hence, you should always hope for the best life of your wife and children in your prayer.
4. Be patient in anything & everything! The deepest love is to wait in perseverance, so you shouldn’t haste impatiently.
The core of love is ‘Waiting or perseverance’. Even for the jet plane to fly higher needs some time to be accelerated in power. If you can’t wait impossibly in love, then this love is not the genuine love as a love should always be in patience for whatever the reason you have.
5. Have a free conversation more frequently if possible, but especially on bed before falling in sleep! It’s because the deepest conversation for the marriage couple is to have a free talking from the bedroom.
What your wife is wanting is not the snoring in sound. You shouldn’t turn on side from your wife but you should lie down in looking at each other without turning around, as it can be the nearest company if you are lying down together on bed as looking at each other but as soon as you both turned around from each other lying on the bed, this instantaneous distance for the couple becomes the most long distance in life and it rolls up. Then once you make some distance between you & your wife, to go back nearer to each other or to meet each other again same as before will be the hardest thing to do by going around from one to the other as the earth rotates from West to East (if I remember correctly, it should be 40,350km).
6. Entrust your wife with the money matter for the house chores, as the time is money and the money became the scale of love in the house especially for the marriage couple this day.
The most disliking thing from your wife is that you might ask if you would request your wife for the house keeping book to see. Before you are attempting to see it unknowingly, you should say to her, ‘Do you need more money for the housekeeping? I just wonder if you may have had a lack of money for the housekeeping’, rather than ignoring it in indifferences.
7. Treat your wife as a woman, not just as your wife.
You might think your wife is a concept of possession but you should regard your tender & lovable wife as a concept of protection in life. You should remember she is one of women before she is your wife, and should treat her as a person. She is not your property but your life long partner.
8. Have an effective time insurance for your wife & family. The biggest insurance is a time investment for your wife & family.
You can neither buy the time which you’ve saved for your wife & family in happiness, nor get rid of it. Investing your time for your wife & family gets guaranteeing a bigger inflation & profit in happiness just like inflating a toy balloon. The family in house is the same as a characteristic castle building up by times.
9. Give in for your wife in anything & everything if possible! To be a good looser as to give in is actually to win.
The most stupid person in the whole world is to try to win against his wife with no reason. If you really want to win something, you should win against yourself first. Even if there is always a loser being remained besides or after a victor, by these people whom he loves will be in full there with those whom will be loved by him.
10. Educate your wife if necessary or possible, as to share together with the aims of yours & your wife’s as same as your lifestyle for better, and this may help you both in overcoming against any hindrances, such as the two different personalities & characters, the different house cultures as we all have (but as for me, they are totally opposite cultural for both of us), and so on.
You shouldn’t treat your wife as a housekeeper or a maid doing all sorts of chores for the house, but as your companionship in life. You should help her to be more mature in her personalities & characters for the better positive growth rather than the negative growth as to have better personal relationships. You should also treat your wife as a woman is a symbol of beauty, so you should allow adorning herself as it will be definitely for you.
Comments
Well, you said you have quite a similar culture with Koreans, such as respecting the old people as for the right attitude, then you will be respected too. I think this is the first step to have a good life in general. Hoping you will find a right person for yourself soon and then your man may comply with those 10 things I mentioned of.
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Then be sure they are satisfied with every things about you ,just wishing you have a long life to enjoy feeling your family beside yourself warmly
sarah
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Well, I am always trying or doing my best to be good & helpful, not only for my family but also for others as long as I am capable of being helpful in anything & everything. This is what I believe in principle; perhaps I don’t need somebody’s help at this moment, but one day I may be in need of a great help desperately or urgently. In case I couldn’t help others as they needed in despair, then how could I expect or ask if someone would help me?