“Dad, may I hang out with my friend?” begged Rasha.
“No, you can’t!” her father answered.
She asked, “Why?”
“You stay home!”, said her Dad firmly without any explanations.
This 16 years old girl still wanted to persuade her parents “Mom, please let me hang out with my friend!”
“No, dear, you’d better stay home!” her beautiful mom replied.
“C’mon, Dad….! It will not be long”
She started to feel annoyed and argue with her parents. “I will just go for a while, why should I just stay home? It’s not fair. My friends often hang out everywhere every day, but why I may not. I do nothing at home, it’s boring”
Suddenly, a sharp knife flew passing beside her left hand. It was from her father. She was shocked and cried.
After an hour, she was still full of anger. She grabbed the key, took the motorbike, and left home without any permission from parents. This smart girl was supposed to have a course at 18.00. But that time, she was hanging out with her ….. boyfriend, whom her parents never agree with.
Feeling stressed under the pressure of parents, she drank liquor or kind of (actually I don’t know what the name is, lol) and consumed drugs. It was her boyfriend who made her like that. She came home at night without any words and slept. None of people in her house knows.
Well, don’t say it is in Islamic country. I think in all countries, liquor is banned for use under 17 years old or students. Drugs, is banned everywhere for sure.
Now, could you tell me why you think this could happen? I think parents need a time for their children. It’s not only time, but also closeness between children and parents. If NOT, could you think what happen will in her future? What about another possibility in doing the next bad action due to the addiction? It is liable that there are many other children in the world who are in the same situation. Devil always want to destroy people through the weakest and the most innocent,,, children.
I’m sad to see this right before my eyes.
Thank you for reading and comment.
Best wishes,
Onee
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Teacher Danny,,
Forgive me for my very belated reply. ^^
Your comment made me speechless. : | I don't know for sure about the detail rule on ages in my country. But, for students (not college students), it is surely not permitted to consume cigarettes or beer. In case it happen at school, I'll blame the teachers. -_-
Yes, Teacher. Actually, I would say parents is the first to blame. However, friends, teachers or people around them can also help kids to be good.
This is just a complicated problem. All the parties must support the change if they want to repair their generation. Understanding. Yes, that's the answer for this. It is the duty of people around to make them understand.
Teacher, thank you so much for your correction. It is inversion in the first sentence. But I thought If there are words after subject, I cannot use inversion. What if I want plural answer? Is it wrong to say..."Who are to blame?"
Thank you once again. :)
You are welcome dear.
I feel pity for the kids who have their personal gadgets. This is the sign of big neglection I guess. I'm 21 and I still don't have my personal gadget except for PC which I use only in day time when everyone is around me and not at the night when everyone at home is sleeping. I thank my mother for creating some rules for the family.
Parent's responsibilities are very high. They can make their kids or destroy, it's totally in their hands!
Dear Setareh,
So glad to see you again. I do understand your opinion. "Thinking as we are they" is very important to learn. Parents also should give some freedom, especially for teens. However, it should be managed very well since they are kids.
Thank you so much for leaving such a precious comment. I'm glad this colorful blog could cheer you up. I think it also cheers me up. ^_^
Dear Onee, time has changed but if we stick to past and how things were in the past, we will face a lot of problems. We should try to understand our kids ; even to think like them sometimes. We should give them advice but make them feel that it's ok if they make mistakes. The point is we should be able to tolerate their opinions. They must know that we will always help them and support them. If parents insist that things should be done only their way, then they will face a lot of problems.
By the way, what a colorful post! Colors cheer me up.:)
Dear ELF Noor,
I will be waiting for your comment for sure. Just relax and take your time. ^_^
Dear Coral,
Many thanks for visiting my blog. Wow! You have another view, which we may forget. Yess. What if they don't have parents? It's society who are to blame, and finally we find government mistakes.
Why drugs are easily available?? I also wonder why. But, I think people who really want to destroy the world will think about it very well, about technique and efficient peering. While technology is developing, crime is also increasing. It is we who want to save the world should work together to fight it.
Thank you for your valuable comment once again, Coral. :)
Dear Serene,
Thanks for your attention, dear. Happy to see you, too. ^_^
I like these words "Bad company corrupts their good hearts" It's true, but a half I don't agree. If they are taught with a very well 'upbringing' by parents, they could manage it well. But, it is unlikely to happen, since they are kids and labile.
"A good parental upbringing can help their children blossom" Yesss, I absolutely agree with your statement. Who is prouder than a child who has a great parent as they guide her/him well. It is both children and parents will achieve the good yield of what parents did. Being sensible is also the result of how good parents did in parenting.
Many thanks for sharing your view point, dear Serene. :)
Dear Anah,
Somehow, I think so. Gadgets really took time of both parents and kids. You know, in my country, a kid in grade 3 is having their own android. What is this? :(( There are advantages,, gadgets is good for communication, especially in family. But somehow, they often forget the main function and forget the closeness in the family.
If no good communication between them, of course kids will follow what their heart say, their own labile will. And if parents really don't guide them well. We never know what could happen.
Parent's attention, excessive use of internet gadgets and wrong company......these are very reasonable to think of. Thank you so much for sharing your view point, Anah. :)
Dearest brother Arif,
I agree with you. In child's age, maybe before 12 years old, parents should play a big role to control their sentiment and knowing anything happen to their children. I read some good ideas (at least for me) in an article that in adolescence (I forget in what age exactly), labile time (maybe between 13-17), daughters should be close to father, and sons should be close to mother. Those ages, adolescents starts to know about love. That's why parents should guide them well.
However, experience should be the best teacher. If she/ other adolescents in the world don't have a will to do so. Someone must be able to remind them. It's not too late to mend it, anyway.
Thank you so much for leaving your precious comment. :)
Hello Estanis,
I was also shocked. :o that's why I don't blame her at all. But, somehow, someone should remind her.
Adolescence, I think yes. It's very complicated. But, please, c'mon..haha...I was, I am an obedient girl. I'm too innocent. :D. I even never knew about something like this. Why? Because I was not in a big city. While now I live in a big city. So, I'm just shocked. :D
It's good for your children, Estanis. You should do so. I think you're a great father. :)
Thanks a lot for your comment.
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