Being a woman is not simple, it's complex. Me, as a woman I have different roles; mother, helper and teacher. I'm a mother of three children. When I'm at home, I do laundry, cook food, take care of children and clean rooms. I'm the helper of my husband. I help him to earn income and to budget expenditures. The most arduous part of my life is for being a teacher. This is my job! I allotted most of my time in school, so sometimes I neglect my kids.I don't want them to be neglected. What should I do? I cannot leave my job because this is my passion besides it is the only way to survive. That's the fact..... I can't deny it.. I help my sister to get her education through this. Please help. Which is better; Work or Family? Is work more important than family? I know, that all your answers are Family. Very idealistic! In reality, NOT!
"Which is better, work or family" ? It's a tough question and to my opinion, none is better than the other. It depends very much on your personal opinion about being a mother and the fact that you can allow yourself not to have a salary while staying at home to raise your kids. When my children were born, i quit my job twice, each times for 3 years in order to raise Andy and Joy until they would go to school (in Belgium 3 years old). At that time, i could not imagine to have babies and not to see them grow. I had to make sacrifices as I had no salary anymore and to stay home, away from the working active life was not always easy for me. It was also a decision that could have slowed down my career progresses. So it was not an easy decision. Nowadays, if i had to decide again, i believe that i would choose to work 2/3 of time, as i know now that it is not the quantity of time you give to your children that is important, but the quality. For a child, it's better to see a happy and well balanced mother for 3 hours a day than a unhappy mum all day long.
Thanks for all your advices... We have come up with a good decision and this is one of us needs to suffer. (my husband) He decided not to work to look after our children.
I guess it's not easy for a woman to keep a balance between career and family. I know so many countries, such as Canada, encourage women to have more children.
Dear Naneth, I think when someone gets married it means that he/she is ready to sacrifice. I am not syaing that you have to quit your job, however, a sacrificed mother is also ready to quit her job whenever is necessary. So, There are two options in my view. First, you can find a job that needs less hour to work. As a result, you can spend more time with your children and work at the same time. This way, you don't need to quit your job in order to take care of your family. For example, you can be a tutor or work part time. I wish you success and also bliss and healthiness for you and your family.
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Hi Naneth Panganiban Salvador
a few days ago, one of my friends asked me the same question with you 'work or family?'
Like what you've said, my answer is family because i am a traditional girl. My family is more important then anything in this world.
Right now, I still don't married yet. I don't know what will happen when I already got married and have my own family.