Yesterday night we attended a wedding party. It is of one of my family 's dear friend. So we were exciting and eager to join.My mother, I, my sister and her little daughter came to the party. We made up, wore beautiful dresses. So we all looked beautiful.In the party we met many acquaintances. It was pleasure to say "Hi", "Hello" and asked them "How is it going on?". We had a joyful dinner.At the end of the party, at the room 's door, my mother met her old second husband. They said nothing, neither glanced.I felt uncomfortable too.We had been happy in the past (better than our first family). Later conflicts appeared. We did no longer stay in one home. From husband and wife now the became neighbors or strangers.......Life sometime changes by the way that we can't image. What we can do is just learn how to accept it.
Yes, life seems strange sometimes. Once whom we adore, later they become most unwanted persons. sometimes it is harder to see or make any conversation. But, I do believe, most of the time, they cherish the memories which they spent or enjoyed together. Sometimes want to get back. It also maybe true that they feel envy to see them involved in another relationship, who knows! I think, a relationship whatever it is, never dies! Always there are some remains.
Yes setareh, but it also depends on thought of each person. As me, I and my ex-boyfriend have no connection now. I don't know why, I want to be a friend too but maybe he don't agree with some of my behavior or it is easier for us without connection or we don't have anything to keep in touch. And as my mother 's second husband, in the past he didn't want I and my sister to visit our birth father 's family. Than I must persuade and he agreed later. So who knows it depends on each people 's decision. And my mother doesn't want to face with my step father any more. So do my step father (not now, my mother 's old husband...)
Oh dear Ann, I always wonder if couples find out that they could no longer live together, is it possible to part in peace? It would be maturity. I agree with dear Danny, because if there is hatred between couples they wouldn't be able to enjoy their life. Forgiveness brings peace.
To Danny: You totally understand what I mean Danny :).
I think the difference between the behavior after divorce of my and your situation might cause from different tradition between Asia and America or Europe. But as Estanis said some people in his state has the same action as my mother. And he is from Europe too. So maybe each person has his own action.
And maybe Tanya and her old husbands situations is less complicated than my mother 's with her two kids and her husband 's two kids.
Anyway luckily after all I think my mother now happy with her daughters. I hope she will too in future.
So you have you own conclusion too: Life some time chances by the way that we can't image and life sometime changes by the way we decide it to!
P.s: i'm sorry for Dave 's accident. I don't know why nowadays there are many plan crash.
To Anad Sid: thank you for you wishing Anad. We are lucky that our family is happy now. My mother is an optimistic person and I admire her that she still find happiness in her life now.
To Estanis: yes, we always have good or bad decision then we will learn about that situation. And as you say, I found that in your country we have same actions after divorce.
Dear Anny! You always choose such burning issues to discuss that I can't help taking part. And you are so spontaneous and frank! It makes me feel like being the same way.
Well, I don't have my own experience in divorces as my wife is the only one woman I had a long-term relationship with and married to. It may sound strange, but all others were of no importance and were gone without leaving any track. My parents had lived together until my dad passed away although I am unsure they were so very faithful. There was something that kept them together: common ideas, poins of view, understanding, friendship. On the other hand, my wife had been married a few times before we started living together and I knew her late American husband and know her Ukrainian ex. So, what I want to say is when any couple breaks up, it is always unpleasant and problematic, but it doesn't mean the ex-spouses always become enemies or strangers. It is possible to part as friends. Both my wife and I are still friends with her Ukrainian ex, Sergey, although she divorced him about 30 years ago, same was Dave, her late husband, he was friendly to Sergey and to me. Although Tanya left him they had been friends until he died in the plane crash and I was sincerely sorry for such a senseless death as Dave was a great man. Just one day, they felt they couldn't live together any more and decided that problem in a very peaceful way without taking an official divorce.
So, as Ann said, life is full of surprises. The best friends sometimes become the mortal enemies while those who are supposed to be enemies, become good friends. Everything depends on your personal attitude to the problem.
Subhana Allah, anti gultiha ya Miro, ( yajib alaina al gubul bil amr alwagii ). Nasalu Allaha an takoon ayamakum kuluha zaffaf wa saada ya Miro. The answer was given at the last line of your blog. ( we learn how to accept it ). By the way, Wedding Party reminded me of The Wedding.
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Yes, life seems strange sometimes. Once whom we adore, later they become most unwanted persons. sometimes it is harder to see or make any conversation. But, I do believe, most of the time, they cherish the memories which they spent or enjoyed together. Sometimes want to get back. It also maybe true that they feel envy to see them involved in another relationship, who knows! I think, a relationship whatever it is, never dies! Always there are some remains.
Oh dear Ann, I always wonder if couples find out that they could no longer live together, is it possible to part in peace? It would be maturity. I agree with dear Danny, because if there is hatred between couples they wouldn't be able to enjoy their life. Forgiveness brings peace.
I think the difference between the behavior after divorce of my and your situation might cause from different tradition between Asia and America or Europe. But as Estanis said some people in his state has the same action as my mother. And he is from Europe too. So maybe each person has his own action.
And maybe Tanya and her old husbands situations is less complicated than my mother 's with her two kids and her husband 's two kids.
Anyway luckily after all I think my mother now happy with her daughters. I hope she will too in future.
So you have you own conclusion too: Life some time chances by the way that we can't image and life sometime changes by the way we decide it to!
P.s: i'm sorry for Dave 's accident. I don't know why nowadays there are many plan crash.
To Dara Gino: thank you for reading my blog Dara!
To Estanis: yes, we always have good or bad decision then we will learn about that situation. And as you say, I found that in your country we have same actions after divorce.
Dear Anny! You always choose such burning issues to discuss that I can't help taking part. And you are so spontaneous and frank! It makes me feel like being the same way.
Well, I don't have my own experience in divorces as my wife is the only one woman I had a long-term relationship with and married to. It may sound strange, but all others were of no importance and were gone without leaving any track. My parents had lived together until my dad passed away although I am unsure they were so very faithful. There was something that kept them together: common ideas, poins of view, understanding, friendship. On the other hand, my wife had been married a few times before we started living together and I knew her late American husband and know her Ukrainian ex. So, what I want to say is when any couple breaks up, it is always unpleasant and problematic, but it doesn't mean the ex-spouses always become enemies or strangers. It is possible to part as friends. Both my wife and I are still friends with her Ukrainian ex, Sergey, although she divorced him about 30 years ago, same was Dave, her late husband, he was friendly to Sergey and to me. Although Tanya left him they had been friends until he died in the plane crash and I was sincerely sorry for such a senseless death as Dave was a great man. Just one day, they felt they couldn't live together any more and decided that problem in a very peaceful way without taking an official divorce.
So, as Ann said, life is full of surprises. The best friends sometimes become the mortal enemies while those who are supposed to be enemies, become good friends. Everything depends on your personal attitude to the problem.
Subhana Allah, anti gultiha ya Miro, ( yajib alaina al gubul bil amr alwagii ). Nasalu Allaha an takoon ayamakum kuluha zaffaf wa saada ya Miro. The answer was given at the last line of your blog. ( we learn how to accept it ). By the way, Wedding Party reminded me of The Wedding.
This is life 'full of happening'. Let's face them!
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