When I joyned here as a member, I was thinking that I found a community where people have the opportunity to exchange experiences, to speak about different habits and traditions. About everything what makes us to understand each other better. Also to speak about religions and politics without any prejudices would be possible ... at least I thought so because I myself I am able to do that with respect and acceptance. My conviction is ... even if we don't agree or don't understand others in terms of how they live and think ... so we should respect, that not everyone has to live and to think as we do. We should take differences as an enrichment and not as a lack or mistake.
I thought that the common will to learn English and to use this great opportunity of a common language is a good way for constructive discussions. A good discussion needs a conflict culture where people argue about facts, thoughts, beliefs, traditions and habits.... without to offend others. Unfortunately I can't find it here at all.... at least the most of the time we have to notice that always the same persons occupy the main room for their fights, provocations and insults against each other. The main room here became a propaganda room and also a place where people start to offend each other in terms of religion, politics or relationship. Or they use the room to chat about the relation between men and women ...very often very private and in bad manner. Why they do that in the main room? Why do they poison the general mood of everyone? They should use the privat chat if they want to fight with each other.
Often they complain about an empty main room... nobody is there to talk. Maybe is the reason the bad mood in the main room... think about it once!!!
Nevertheless I'll remain as a member of EC because although I don't like the manner of some members here, but I met also good members ... with them I can discuss and chat on a good way, with respect and pleasure... in private room.
It's just very pity because in general the main room would offer a good opportunity to discuss with more than only one single person at the same time. Maybe the bad mood will change soon again ... the hope dies last.
Rose Iris
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Feelin danke Rose! Thanks to the good guys. They always make EC a good and interesting place. Don't worry about the bad guys, and do not pay any attention to them. I really hope you add me to the list of your friends. Thank you!
Thanks for your point of view, Risty Aven, Mary. Only learner.
Mary, you are right, we can use the function "IGNORE" people which one we don't like to talk, but it doesn't change their bad behaviour in main room and the result of their behaviour that others don't participate on discussions there.
Risty Aven, why do you assume that I don't find you interesting? I'm always interested on talking with everyone who wants to talk with me. Only, sometimes ... if I'm already in a chat with someone, then I excuse myself when someone else wants to chat too with me. Sometimes are there more persons which ask for a chat. Then I keep talking with the current chatting partner and tell others that I can't talk right now. My reason for that is very simple: my opinion is: it's not polite to jump from one chat to the next chats. If I chat with someone then he deserves all my attention. So if I tell you once I can't chat right now, then please excuse and understand me in this manner, please.
Hello Rose,
I know what are you talkin' about and it's true that sometimes the chatroom is:
1) "empty" or nobody talking or making any small 'effort' to start a conversation.
2) There is a member who happens to be a "pain in the neck" and ruins everybody's mood.
So, yes... That's how the chatroom is going on very often. It's really sad because I wouldn't like EC quitting the Chatroom 'cause of that (I've seen that happening in other similar site) I joined Ec because of the chat (even if now I just go there from time to time) and I find it a very necessary tool for learning english, since you've to use the language in actual time. It's a real-time conversation and that's the ultimate aim of learning a language.
So, this is how I see this problem is gonna keep growing:
Cause: The good/cool people who goes there just for improving english, have a nice convo and maybe meet other nice/cool people, but they find instead very bad vibes and they decide not to go there anymore.
Symptom: The good/cool people who could make the EC chat a nice place to be, decide that it doesn't worth and they leave from there, so the troublemakers/bad manners people take the place. And the problem becomes a vicious circle.
If we really care about fixing this problem, we should find solutions. Fortunatelly, EC has an option that I haven't seen in other sites and I think it could solve the problem if we all use it:
Prescription: Use the "Ignore" option.
"When there is a will, there is a way." I think this is the way. Instead of leaving the chat, be part of the solution and stay there, ignore all those who make the chat a 'problem' and eventually other nice people will show up. Ask those newbies to use the "ignore" option everytime they need it and finally the chat will end up just with nice/cool people around. It's as easy as it seems... Now we just need nice talkative people to come in and determination to solve this :P
Rose, thanks for bringing up this topic.
Dear Ms. Rose, you are so right, when I first joined EC, I’m really active in main room because I thought members are friendly, as I was greeted by friendly people that time, but as time goes by I realized how annoying other people in main room, of course not all of them, but there are so many people who are arrogant even if I’m not saying something wrong towards them, they’ll open up a provoking topic to make people fight, like you I want to converse so I could learn from them, but I can’t learn from a negative thoughts some are trying to insinuate, most of the time. I don’t know how they could learn from such way, some said that the English language has its own evil words, it’s a part of it, and I should learn that also, I would just say, really? What for? I’m not going to use those anyway…Most of the time I’m in reading mode, trying to remember how they construct their sentences and trying to voice it out alone, if the topic is not interesting and people are just babbling around, I will eventually shun away and stay at reading mode. It’s a good thing that we can ignore some chatter if they aren’t decent and if they are rude. As a principle, I will stay there to learn, that’s my main purpose, but still joining blog post/writing challenges, etc. etc... I pledged to utilize this site, for my growth. Though sometimes, I will not deny that I can’t help to defend myself, my homeland…to give some bias opinions, as for me I’m willing to hear them out on their own biases…by all means, they can speak their minds, but you know, some people are too much… to the extent, that will push you to your limits. Oh boy! And people are wondering why some chatter doesn’t want to join the room? How shameful.
I chatted with you before, but I think you don’t find me interesting, still I’m willing to chat with those who are willing to correct me and learn with me. All in all, respect is our cornerstone.
Thanks for sharing this, I should second the motion.
I am relieved now because so is it not just my personal impression what I wrote about chatting in mainroom. I've decided to hide the main room ... from now on, so I must not see what happens there.
I never visited main room since I joined EC. Sometimes (very occasionally) I watched staying outside even then I had bad experiences.
I used to love chatting in the main room too. But like most people in here had said, some members just want to provoke others, instead of trying to learn from each other. Nowadays, I seldom log into the chat room, even if I logged into MyEC.
Thanks Luci and Evangelina for your comments.