My lovely friend, Zahra asked a question: “How do you detect that someone is telling the lie or telling the truth? My answer to her question was that you can fool some people some time but you can’t fool all the people all the time. Again, my dear friend, Zahra, stated that what if the person being played with himself/herself is a fool?There are some clues with which we can detect a liar while chatting. The fake speaker is the best person in the world physically and mentally. He is the smartest, tallest, most handsome, strongest and most athletic person in the world. He has the best job in the best area of the country. His home also is in the best neighborhood of the country. He has graduated with the high average in the best university in the country or in a foreign country. He is the descendant of a great –great rich family you have ever seen. Briefly, He is perfect in every aspect of life.During the chat, he usually asks you personal questions like how old you are, you are married or not, what color your hair has, what color your eyes are, how tall you are, where you live, how your home is and etc.Then, he fell in love with you from the first moment of chatting calling you sweetheart, darling, honey and etc. Moreover, he uses every lovable and romantic word that you can imagine to make his point and to prove his love. He tells you some romantic sentences such as “I will sacrifice my life for you”, “I love you”, “you mean the whole world to me”,”you are great” and so on. The next day, you will receive a lot of nice cards or comments on your profile page in English club saying that he is missing you and he is counting down to see you again.I think no one can be so perfect even the perfect person is not perfect. So, when someone claims that he is the best, we should know this is a lie. You can be great in some skills. You can be a great musician or a painter but you cannot be great in everything. They are neither smart nor a good English speaker. They can hardly write a correct English sentence.I could not find any relationship between my age and learning English. What is the purpose behind this question: "How old are you?" Do they think I cannot learn English because of my age? Do they think my age prevent me to speak English very well? Do they think because of my age, I should go and learn something else? Do they want to know if I am married or not? I wonder what the point is in this question.In my opinion, the fake speaker is the one who asks you a lot of personal questions, looks for your phone number, falls in love with you from the very first moment and If you take a look at his profile page, he has only girlfriends in his friend list. In the end, I remember a quote from Nietzsche who said: “I am not upset that you lied to me, I am upset that from now on I can’t believe you.”
The Psychology Of The Fake Speaker; How To Recognize A Cheating Speaker While Chatting?
In my opinion, if someone asks you something beyond with your purpose in MyEC, such as; Personal material, Bank account number, Credit Card number and money itself, that’s a signed of fake speaker.
We could not detect the people who have intention for personal gain, unless, they directly asking a favor with you.
Let’s try to analyze, how do we establish a good chat mate and friend if we do not know something about his/her self? I believe, we do not just here to talk something in a nowhere. And we can not relate to others, if we do not know his/her background or something about his/her self.
If we just talk & talk & talk, is there excitement that you have felt? Its may be tend in boring situation.
If somebody asking you money or anything with value, just stop to communicate with; let’s face the reality that aside from learning in English, we have something desire to establish friendship. If this is not true, let’s stop to be hypocrisy.
Thanks a lot for the connection and I am so glad to see you here. I totally agree with you. There are some dishonest people but we have a lot of good, positive and honest people. Exactly! Thanks for your kind comment.
Thank you so much for taking your time and writing this useful comment despite the fact that it was late at night. Your clues are so useful and helpful and very precise. Thank you so much. Hope you always bump into good people for the chat and get rid of the fake speakers.
Even if it's too late 2 comment on this blog , i really would like 2 do so
Actually m a university student "English language major" so I joined this club keeping in mind that I only wanna improve my speaking skill precisely, so chatting is the best way. After almost one month or 40 days "I don remember when exactly" I figured out that there r many ppl who r part and partial of my life..In other words, I do chat a lot so m really suffering from those "fake speakers" and I wanna share some of their strategies that i noticed during my journey on this Lovely Club..
1>>they don give the another chatter a chance 2 express their feelings cuz they r concentrating on showing off their fake personalities "their imaginary personalities"
2>>they give waw comment's on whatever the another chatters said..so even if someone is saying silly things they keep saying "waw that's great etc..
3>>they forgot alot as mimi said to be honest I forget a lot but cuz of my horrible memory .. heheheh
And now I will tell u my secret solution to discover those fake speakers…In my case I tend to laugh a lot " I swear m not silly heheh" in both lives real and chatting..the point is unfortunately fake speakers tend to talk with such ppl cuz their only aim is having fun so >>IF U doubt a person start talking in the most boooooring topics and answer with looong answers that carries ahuge amount of info>>u will notice that they will immediaely lose their patient and leave u in peace . Also I ve an advice 4 females whenever u talk with a male call him brother and keep repeating this word so that u remind them that u r doing nothing but practicing English and having good real friends..
Yeah I forgot to say something..u r right that some questions r not needed to be asked "the personal ones" ,but to be honest i do ask ppl about their age favorites interests job and nationality cuz I believe that I should ask such question so I can find something to talk about so I can practice English as much as I can since it's the only skill that I lack practicing it since m surrounded by Arabic ppl*_*
Further more, I ask my close friends such Questions to know more and more about them cuz I like to know every single thing about them just like knowing every thing about my real sisters and brothers .
Oh oh I forgot another thing" I told u I ve a horrible memory I do use words like "sweety ,dear" but only with females cuz some males may interpret such words into"LOVE"
I talked a lot u must have a headache ..i will bring u Panadol next time *_*
hi nafis
i think that the unknown still unknown .but persones have to be more honest and sincere with each other to avoid misunderstanding .let us be humans !!
Exactly!Unofrtunately, in digital world, we have these kinds of problem. But, in chat, we can discover a little bit better since I think bad actions can always be realized easily. As you said, these people are very uneducated and only want to fill the hole in their soul. Thanks a lot to Zahra for raising this question. Hope this helps a little.
Thank you so much for reading the blog.
Wishing you well,
Nafis
Exactly. They forget easily what they said and since they are very dumb, they cannot understand that we realize their lie but we only do not tell them that we understood. But, as we have a proverb in Persian, Sun will not be hidden behind clouds all the time and one day, it will appear.
Thank you so much my dear mimi for reading the blog.
Take great care,
Nafis
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In my opinion, if someone asks you something beyond with your purpose in MyEC, such as; Personal material, Bank account number, Credit Card number and money itself, that’s a signed of fake speaker.
We could not detect the people who have intention for personal gain, unless, they directly asking a favor with you.
Let’s try to analyze, how do we establish a good chat mate and friend if we do not know something about his/her self? I believe, we do not just here to talk something in a nowhere. And we can not relate to others, if we do not know his/her background or something about his/her self.
If we just talk & talk & talk, is there excitement that you have felt? Its may be tend in boring situation.
If somebody asking you money or anything with value, just stop to communicate with; let’s face the reality that aside from learning in English, we have something desire to establish friendship. If this is not true, let’s stop to be hypocrisy.
Best regards,
Joey Verano
Makati City, Philippines
what about me, i have never ask any question you mentioned in your blog. aam i a serious speaker?
Thanks a lot for the connection and I am so glad to see you here. I totally agree with you. There are some dishonest people but we have a lot of good, positive and honest people. Exactly! Thanks for your kind comment.
Have a wonderful time,
Nafis
I am so glad that your sister is safe now. This was definitly a scam. Thank you so much for sharing your experience.
With the best wishes,
Nafis
Thank you so much for taking your time and writing this useful comment despite the fact that it was late at night. Your clues are so useful and helpful and very precise. Thank you so much. Hope you always bump into good people for the chat and get rid of the fake speakers.
Best wishes,
Nafis
Even if it's too late 2 comment on this blog , i really would like 2 do so
Actually m a university student "English language major" so I joined this club keeping in mind that I only wanna improve my speaking skill precisely, so chatting is the best way. After almost one month or 40 days "I don remember when exactly" I figured out that there r many ppl who r part and partial of my life..In other words, I do chat a lot so m really suffering from those "fake speakers" and I wanna share some of their strategies that i noticed during my journey on this Lovely Club..
1>>they don give the another chatter a chance 2 express their feelings cuz they r concentrating on showing off their fake personalities "their imaginary personalities"
2>>they give waw comment's on whatever the another chatters said..so even if someone is saying silly things they keep saying "waw that's great etc..
3>>they forgot alot as mimi said to be honest I forget a lot but cuz of my horrible memory .. heheheh
And now I will tell u my secret solution to discover those fake speakers…In my case I tend to laugh a lot " I swear m not silly heheh" in both lives real and chatting..the point is unfortunately fake speakers tend to talk with such ppl cuz their only aim is having fun so >>IF U doubt a person start talking in the most boooooring topics and answer with looong answers that carries ahuge amount of info>>u will notice that they will immediaely lose their patient and leave u in peace . Also I ve an advice 4 females whenever u talk with a male call him brother and keep repeating this word so that u remind them that u r doing nothing but practicing English and having good real friends..
Yeah I forgot to say something..u r right that some questions r not needed to be asked "the personal ones" ,but to be honest i do ask ppl about their age favorites interests job and nationality cuz I believe that I should ask such question so I can find something to talk about so I can practice English as much as I can since it's the only skill that I lack practicing it since m surrounded by Arabic ppl*_*
Further more, I ask my close friends such Questions to know more and more about them cuz I like to know every single thing about them just like knowing every thing about my real sisters and brothers .
Oh oh I forgot another thing" I told u I ve a horrible memory I do use words like "sweety ,dear" but only with females cuz some males may interpret such words into"LOVE"
I talked a lot u must have a headache ..i will bring u Panadol next time *_*
Ur sis Timeout...
i think that the unknown still unknown .but persones have to be more honest and sincere with each other to avoid misunderstanding .let us be humans !!
Exactly!Unofrtunately, in digital world, we have these kinds of problem. But, in chat, we can discover a little bit better since I think bad actions can always be realized easily. As you said, these people are very uneducated and only want to fill the hole in their soul. Thanks a lot to Zahra for raising this question. Hope this helps a little.
Thank you so much for reading the blog.
Wishing you well,
Nafis
Exactly. They forget easily what they said and since they are very dumb, they cannot understand that we realize their lie but we only do not tell them that we understood. But, as we have a proverb in Persian, Sun will not be hidden behind clouds all the time and one day, it will appear.
Thank you so much my dear mimi for reading the blog.
Take great care,
Nafis
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