@@ The Independent @@

Today I would like to talk about one of The most important topics which I think is busying our minds and touching our feelings .

Anyone when born found himself in The middle of a family full of interest full of care , love …Etc.

And that was the natural rule , the things goes well we raised well we go school , until we go university or in rightest at 18 years old , most rules of nations they give responsibility to persons who his age 18 and more .

And after Graduation they suppose to start think of next stage of their life .

Unfortunately our Traditions has various ways whether positive or negative habit ,generally any person who got job suppose to leave his family 's home to be independent .

to be honest , it's will be difficult on anyone to leave his home in this stage of age whether for him or for his family but in another hand it's will be some shame and embarrassing to continue depend on your family , even if you buy some things or doing anything you need some personality .

I know the economy situation effect on our social situation and that means there is some things force us to live with our family after this age , just I would say , if there are no reasons will prevent us to be independent , so why not ?

Unfortunately there is big problem happens realy at a lot of countries or at least at some families , their son who going to get marriage they planning to let him to live with them in same house ?!!!

In my opinion anyone who want to get marriage he could not control and Manages his new family if he was live with his earlier family after 25 age

I mean you should take responsibility early before get marriage at least for 2 years , even if you want keep single you have to get used to depend on your self , I mean build your new life .

And the ladies , what you think of you ? I know the world has various cultures , for me I don't prefer women 's independent , I mean it's difficult on single woman to leave her family 's home for get her own house , maybe she could travel alone or get job far from her family but I think there is someone responsible on her , I think I don't know !

Anyway , we agree or disagree The independent like intersection of the life , we have to cross it to get to another side and to continue to our destination .

Thank You For reading

My Best Regards .

I'm glad to see that you have gotten started blogging and think this one will get a conversation going because of the differences between cultures. I read it when you first wrote it, but couldn't comment at the time. I remember I wanted to tell you that we should say himself and not his self.
I will also comment that your view of independence and the need to move away from the parents is based on your culture. In traditional farming and herding societies it can be common for the children to stay with the family after marriage because the larger family is needed to do the farming work. Also, the "good" son or daughter will live with the parents and help them in their old age in many cultures.

So, what may bring shame in some cultures will bring praise in others because the world is different from place to place. That is one great thing about being part of an international online community, we get to learn about the cultures of our friends. If some people seem to disagree with you, I hope you will let them know that you are writing about independence from the view of a city dweller. Some of the Beduin herders live in extended family groups with their animals grazing on the same lands and you will see this in parts of your own country.
I hope you get lots of good comments and I hope you comment on many other people's blogs. Please keep writing and we will slowly help you correct your grammar so you can write with fewer mistakes. You can start by making shorter sentences so that your longest sentences are separated into several sentences instead of so many commas. Each sentence can contain a complete thought. That makes a blog easier to read.
Thanks for writing :)

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student9 December 19, 2014 13:22

moment!!

I made mistake
Anyone when born found his self
Anyone when born found himself
Thank Mr. Bob
student9 December 19, 2014 10:10

hello Gulzar Hussain
I respect your emotional and your culture , all of us find it difficult to leave parents , you can bring them to your new life , for me I think my new family deserve new life .
I glad to find more of good persons here to get benefit of their various cultures
Thank you Sir .
student9 December 19, 2014 10:00

Thanks Jerry Luo
your comment I will consider it as lesson , it's full of good senses
You reminded me of the first time when I went to high school it was far from my home .
I think it's will be necessary to get experience from the life , and that will not being close our family ,
maybe at 12 age difficult to leave home , I think at university proper time to take responsibility
I appreciate your personality , Thank You very much
My regards
student9 December 19, 2014 8:55

hello lady noaslpls
Thank you very much your comment
I respect your culture so much , You are a brave person and
and It was hard to be independent since 12 age .
I wish you more success.
Thank you
student9 December 19, 2014 8:44

hello everyone , sorry about delay
Thank you , Mr. Bob
Thank you , Gulzar Hussain
Thank you , Jerry Luo
Thank you , noaslpls(alérgica a los gatitos)
I going to respond to all of you
let's start with Mr.Bob
Thank you Mr. Bob for reading my topic and I glad too to read your comment ,
first of all thanks for your point about "himself" ,
Yes you right about traditional farming but that will be at specific situation and that poses less than 10% of population in any country , and helping parents in old age It's big reason to stay close than them , in my culture sometimes we bring them (parents in old age) to live with us , with this act we replace the shame with praise .
Thanks your useful comment
My regards
Gulzar Hussain December 19, 2014 6:36

I agree its depends on your culture that you live in but its for me its about my emotional attachment towards my parents i can,t imagine to leave them in their old age when they needs you.
Jerry Luo December 19, 2014 3:56

Yes, I absolutely agree with noaslpls's view, we need the families' love and whole protection when we are chirldren, but after growing up we gradually have our own thoughts of thinking and characters. Just like the young birds want to learn flying to outside, we also admire the outside world. For me as an instance, when I was 12 years old, I left home for the junior middle school in china, because of a long distance between home and school I had to stay at one of my relatives in the town. From then on I had to be independent, and did almost everything by myself such as cooking, washing clothes etc., sometimes I missed home very much, but the situation did not allow me to go home frequently, so I had to. Today I must thanks to the past days, after graduation I can adapt myself to the society quickly. On the other hand, although we can become more independent as you can, we still need the family of not only our parents but also your wifes or husbands and childrens, they are the meanings and values of our existance in this world. When we are hurt the family is the best healing place where is full of love, care and attention. So in my opinion we can not be completely independent in this sense.
noaslpls December 19, 2014 1:15

I think it's all depend on the culture that we live in. In my country, it's common for ladies to leave their families, working in big cities and stay on their own. It's also common for ladies to stay single. As for me, I've been on my own since I was 12 when I had to attend a boarding school in the city. So, I've been living as an independent lady my whole life.
Mr. Bob December 18, 2014 21:30

I'm glad to see that you have gotten started blogging and think this one will get a conversation going because of the differences between cultures. I read it when you first wrote it, but couldn't comment at the time. I remember I wanted to tell you that we should say himself and not his self.
I will also comment that your view of independence and the need to move away from the parents is based on your culture. In traditional farming and herding societies it can be common for the children to stay with the family after marriage because the larger family is needed to do the farming work. Also, the "good" son or daughter will live with the parents and help them in their old age in many cultures.

So, what may bring shame in some cultures will bring praise in others because the world is different from place to place. That is one great thing about being part of an international online community, we get to learn about the cultures of our friends. If some people seem to disagree with you, I hope you will let them know that you are writing about independence from the view of a city dweller. Some of the Beduin herders live in extended family groups with their animals grazing on the same lands and you will see this in parts of your own country.
I hope you get lots of good comments and I hope you comment on many other people's blogs. Please keep writing and we will slowly help you correct your grammar so you can write with fewer mistakes. You can start by making shorter sentences so that your longest sentences are separated into several sentences instead of so many commas. Each sentence can contain a complete thought. That makes a blog easier to read.
Thanks for writing :)
student9 December 18, 2014 20:52

Thank you Anna so much
I agree with you about something happens suddenly and that will change our life track to Unexpected , for example as I said economic situation , but although that there are some people they have opportunity to be independent and they even don't seek to take responsibility ,, those who I point to them .
Thank You "Anna" once again your comment

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