Its 9 pm here in Australia. I am alone in the room and typing these things on my mobile while laying down on sofa in living room. Its dark here all around.
It has been ages since i left writing on diary but few things are getting complicated for me these days.
Its all about my friend " Adeas ". Adeas and i, are working in same company and same department with me. She is acting very strangely these days. I mean '' she was cheerful, happy and smiley just few weeks before. And now, the girl, who didn't care about fashion-trend, and always seen with light makeup with normal dress and pure smile on the face, in office, parties, ceremonies or functions. Now she has started putting heavy makeups, lipsticks, and fashion dress on ordinary working days.
Its all good for her and i am not jealous, but something is no right. When she smile, her eyes are not synchronized with her lips. The pile of files getting bigger on her table with passing time. I saw her few times sitting and staring on monitor, placing her hand on keyboard and doing nothing.
Her marriage has been for five years. She is going to be blessed with twin-baby very soon. Her 6th anniversary is coming. Everything looks perfect.
But there is something she is hiding from everyone. I already asked her if everything is alright?. I really want to help my friend. I am her best friend and she is my best friend too. But I dont know whats going on in her life.
[3-4 days later]
Ok.... So, when we were coming from work on a taxi, Adeas asked me a question today.
Adeas: A friend of mine, is married for few years now. And now she think that her husband is cheating on her. So, she asked me advice or suggestion regarding '' cheating of her husband'' but i am not very experienced person. My husband is not cheating on me. He is very loyal to me. I love him very much. So i am asking you, what your opinion or suggestion for her. What do you think what she should do?
I didnt say anything at that time in the taxi but now i know whats wrong in her life. And i really dont know the solution. I never thought of possibilities of this situation to come true in my life.
I spend a sleepless-night that night. Her question brought so many other questions for me.
Why her husband cheating on her? What was missing from his life that he felt to cheat on his wife?
What cheating really MEAN for a couple?
'' cheating '' Is enough to end a long and happy of relationship?
What are the reasons that has or have brought their relationship to this stage?
And so on...
I am very scared, very scared from the day when Adeas will talk with her husband about this. What and which kind of discussion would they will have. I am scared. I dont want to think about the end.
Namatullah.
Comments
Hi Nematullah,
I'm not experienced nor do I know a lot in this case. But, I would suggest....
If the husband promise not to cheat again and be loyal after being caught, then the wife should give a second change. But, if the husband cannot promise anything about that and still like visiting his second woman...and if the wife still want to keep her family united .....first, she should try to find ways to make her husband love her again over any woman. second, never give up![lol...I watched such story in a movie, real story]
If ever they don't find any love or any single thing to maintain, then....the last, very last decision.....they can decide to be separated...after bearing the child.
I agree with Mishaikh's comment.
Oh..... many times it happens around the globe, unfortunately! I, too,wonder why people act in this way, they may let their partners know about their lacking, shortcoming and about their expectations...but, instead of it they start maintaining another relation secretly. And, when after a certain period of time another partner knows about it, how painful it is for her/him! People should not do in this way...if he/she really dislikes his/her partner they can say...then may be there will be many ways to get rid of it/to solve the problem. Anyway, Misha has told the right thing she must talk with her husband to know the exact situation and reason and then she can take the right decision! I wish her good luck!
Your friend should talk to her husband directly instead of asking you or others. Of course you can morally help her and give her confidence. By talking with husband, will clear the matter either way.
Hi Nematullah......this is a sad blog indeed. I hope your friend is mistaken. The saddest part is this happens all the time with very little remorse in evidence......and it is not only men that do it.....women do it too. I don't know why people can't be true to one another.......and it gets worse as time moves on........one day I am thinking marriage will not even exist. I hope I am wrong......for a good marriage is worth it's weight in gold as far as I am concerned.......but I am old fashioned......and I guess I still keep visions of sugar plums in my head. I wish your friend all the luck in the world if this blog is a true one. Thank you for sharing.