Simple: Yes or No?

Have you ever been in the same situation that you don’t have the heart to refuse people’s requirements even if you don’t want them? I bet many of you have faced this kind of troubles. For me, it will make me feel guilty to see the disappointed expressions on their faces.

So many times I have to persuade myself into positive thinking, comfort myself that making them happy is also a happiness for me. But sometimes it’s out of work and I feel unhappy. I asked myself, why don’t they ask your idea if you are willing or not? Maybe because we don’t tell them the truth to protect them from hurting, instead we choose to force ourselves. Doesn’t it bother you some times?

I also was troubled by this problem until one day some a nice guy taught me one thing. That is always ask your inner heart. Be honest and simple: Yes or No, let your heart leads you to where you want to go. Yes, it is fun and I tried. Yes, I finally realize it is as easy as he taught me.

I don’t mean you don’t help people, I just mean we cant please everyone, but first of all, we need to please ourselves. Now I admit, I am not Mr. Money, I surely cant make everyone like me and for me.

In a conclusion, we can help others to our best, but don’t force yourself to do something we cant or we are not willing to in inner heart. Be honest and ask yourself the simple question “Yes or no?” Sooner or later, people who love you love you and you are still yourself.

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⊱ Mickey ⊰ March 4, 2013 2:43

Hehehe, yes, growing, growing, growing~
⊱ Mickey ⊰ February 28, 2013 2:45

Thanks all the same, dear Faraz!
⊱ Mickey ⊰ February 28, 2013 2:44

Dear Captain, thanks for your nice comment! I regard it as an encouragement!
Shane February 28, 2013 2:00

Hello Mickey,

A very good post and well written :o)

Shane
⊱ Mickey ⊰ February 28, 2013 1:46

Thanks, dear sis pls!

Thanks, dear sis sofia!

Thanks, dear Fumi!
noaslpls February 27, 2013 6:22

"Yes, you are correct. However, I do believe that ...." or "I understand where you are coming from, but .... " That's a few ways of trying to say NO but in a polite way. It comes with experience I guess.

Thanks for sharing
⊱ Mickey ⊰ February 27, 2013 2:01

Uncle! Welcome back! You scared me, I thought you left here without saying a bye to me, I even wrote a poor poem for you, hhhhh [blushing]~

Yes, but for me, it is still a very tough and spiny problem, I have to learn it though. Anyway, I am growing inside and outside, some day I believe I will take myself out of this trouble! Do you also believe I can? hhhhh, hug!
⊱ Mickey ⊰ February 27, 2013 1:56

Faraz, it is so nice of you teaching me the polite way to say NO, I appreciate it very much. [But my simple brain has to take time to digest them]

Anyway, thanks a lot! Hug~ hehehe
⊱ Mickey ⊰ February 27, 2013 1:53

Thanks, dear heaven! You are right, "There must be some understanding from the other side too", but many times I cant overcome myself to say "no". Now it still has to take my time to learn it.

Bea, "saying NO is much harder to me than saying YES", I seldom say no, I am afraid of make ppl and myself embarrassed I think. We share the same trouble. But learning how to say No is also a part of our growing, we have to. Now I am learning it...

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