The choice of birth is not at discretion. Generally speaking, when you are once born will lead the whole life there and there is no alternative place to shift to, but we the female class has an option after the first birth that we can move to the better environment after marriage that will be our second birth where our unpaid service is rewarded without demonstration and demand.
the woman serves the whole family and cleans house and after house chores, sits silent in the corner of house seeming like a leisure person free from all the responsibilities, whereas the whole house speaks the volume for the woman who injected all her energy in making it heaven. When she is asked to explain about her being free, she sits silent as no single word is required to explain all the activities. This silence speaks louder, but only a sensible person can perceive it
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I'm having really a hard time to understand at what you're aiming here. You know that different cultures than yours exist, right??
So please don't diminish women's needs, desires and choices to only one way to live.
Greetings!
Thank all for expressing your concern and sharing thought
.....................where our unpaid service is rewarded without demonstration and demand.
This is the prevailing truth, which we overlook most of the time.
I remember, once a neighbor visited our house with her young daughter. The young girl just after entering the house exclaimed, "Look mom, how clean the house is!" This was the un-demanded reward for my mother.
@Chairperson, I think you didn't get Rosemary's point regarding happiness is not associated with a husband or a man only. To my best understanding, the husband and wife both should seek happiness from their girl friends and boy friends and both should not be jealous with each other.
@Rosemary, right?
Resemary :) you extracted this idea of mine from cursory reading. Please read my blog carefully I said we can move to the batter environment after marriage. Because it's up to us wehre to move. I respect your opinion, but I experience different environmemt. My most relatives live in abroad western courntries where everyone does his work by himself. In such situation if you render a slight amount of service in home, it will be rewarded with love and compensation. I agree with you we should not tie our happiness with a husband only. We should be in touch with his family and sibilings and occassionally we should also keep in touch with our family too after marraige. It's just a break or recharge the feeling of love for him.
You have spoken exactly about women efforts to keep their houses clean and neat . Yes , women do a lot of things that must be not chalked out easily . It happened that I am enjoying my free moments now while reading your blog near the window :) . These moments which I spend mostly in reading and listening to music, worth a lot in my eyes . But I don't agree fully with you that marriage is considered like a second birth or a compensation for any girl . Because there are miserable and abusive relationship every where . Thus , we should learn to make ourselves happy and satisfied no matter with whom we are . We can control ourselves at the end and care for it more than the others . Any woman shouldn't tie her happiness with a husband or a man even if he is kind with her . This is destructive for both of them . Nice blog :)