1) Should a couple live together before married?2) Why should a couple live together before getting married?3) How do people accept this kind of practice?4) What is the advantages and disadvantages for living before married?
1- I think it's depend on our culture. somewhere it is generally acceptable and somewhere not. So acc. to my views on this matter couple should live together where it is acceptable. bt if think on other side ....everyone do that what he want. in which he feel comfort, happy so if there is no problem to live for a couple together.....so it's ok.
I don't agree with that opinion, after live together any couple justify to each other bt it can be possible by meet, talk, and shares thought. so there is no need to live together to know each other.
disadvantages are if the circumtances don't favour to any couple to live together then couple lost their respect......people see them with doubtfull and after lived together if they don't get married then people don't accept them.....so both get impact on their life.
i feel marriage has more value, than living together there is more to gain.
security in different aspects
living together has its own insecurities, should the partners get bored, it may be on and on process wiithout really settling down. and that too would be very stressful like a broken marriage, with no certificates especially to the woman,say for example she is pregnent , she has to take the full responsibility as a single parent.
These questions are very delicate one but there are lots of reason why some couple did that. Here's are some of the few answers to your questions.
1. Why not? If they already talk about that and agreed together then they can and who cares? That's their own view point and that's their lives. Well, some people don't accept that, but it depends how far do you go for it. Is it allowed by your culture? Or does your religion agreed in that circumstances? Couple live together before marriage for the reason that, they can evaluate themselves as they living together without the legal papers or marriage contract. In that case, if the time comes that they fail to love each other or realize that they are not meant for each other they can go in their separate ways. Divorce is a high-rate nowadays, and it became commercialize. So I think, that's a wise move for both of them. That's one of the few reasons...
2. I think this question is related to the question number one. In addition to that, some people are just afraid to commit to the highest level in terms of relationship. IF they are both satisfied and content with their situation then the case is close.
3. Every person has his/her perspective in life. Maybe for some it sucks, then maybe for some it's great. There's always pros and cons in every relationship. Both couple should accept the result of their actions. It simply does not work in one person, it should run with both couple. It became normal in this generation, but I don't know what 'normal' is to other people. Although each one of us is different, we can be one by communicating not just by listening, but listening with heart. Then, everybody will have an amicably reasoning or decision. People can accept this kind of practice because they have an open mind and can accept challenge by their own action. As long as both couple are matured enough and at the right age then I think they can make it. But they should remember the responsibilities on what they are going through.
4. It depends: Advantages are - No divorce, they can analyze and evaluate each other's attitude, personality and feelings to each other. They can develop a deep approach of affection when they are living together and can adjust themselves to the new set-up. You can discover each partner's flaws and tantrums and you can decide on whether you are ready to accept that and if you are ready to live with him/her for the rest of your life. There's always the front door if you feel that you want to walk away and realize that 'Oh, he's/her the one for me' or 'you are different from what I am expected.' Such as this incident can learn something and that you can discover more and more from a partner. Marriage is not as easy as pie. It's not like you can change your clothes if you don't feel comfortable anymore. No. It's a lot different. It takes some effort and understanding from both sides. Disadvantages - well, as a woman myself, lot of disadvantages for a woman, why? Because, in our society today, women is more subtle, more fragile compared to men, in such a way for example that like a tires, when you use it everyday, it will wear out, not good anymore, so you will change it for the new one. It may sound bias to many or discriminate to some but it's the reality. Although lots of women today are superior compared to men then I will not disagree to that. It is just my point of view as what I've seen and as what I believe. Another disadvantage is after how many years of living together and trying to have a perfect love affair but along the way, you both failed to succeed and it turns out that you fall out of love suddenly. So it so painful to accept the fact that you were not the same as before but you have to move and move forward. In every relationship, it's not a one way street, both should work hard and accept the pros and cons on how to handle the relationship from the beginning. You will love the person just because of his 'goodness' but because you can accept his 'on' and 'off' days being together.
Love is the greatest gift that we could share for one another - there are lots of kind of relationship but whatever relationship you have right now. Cherish and enjoy every moment with it because life is only one. There is no rewind.
Cohabitation. This topic is always hot. Whatever you do, you must take responsibility. Actually, we don't know what will happen in the future. So before making your own decision if you should or shouldn't cohabit, pls sit together and seriously think about the results. To me, we shouldn't cohabit.
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I don't agree with that opinion, after live together any couple justify to each other bt it can be possible by meet, talk, and shares thought. so there is no need to live together to know each other.
disadvantages are if the circumtances don't favour to any couple to live together then couple lost their respect......people see them with doubtfull and after lived together if they don't get married then people don't accept them.....so both get impact on their life.
security in different aspects
living together has its own insecurities, should the partners get bored, it may be on and on process wiithout really settling down. and that too would be very stressful like a broken marriage, with no certificates especially to the woman,say for example she is pregnent , she has to take the full responsibility as a single parent.
1. Why not? If they already talk about that and agreed together then they can and who cares? That's their own view point and that's their lives. Well, some people don't accept that, but it depends how far do you go for it. Is it allowed by your culture? Or does your religion agreed in that circumstances? Couple live together before marriage for the reason that, they can evaluate themselves as they living together without the legal papers or marriage contract. In that case, if the time comes that they fail to love each other or realize that they are not meant for each other they can go in their separate ways. Divorce is a high-rate nowadays, and it became commercialize. So I think, that's a wise move for both of them. That's one of the few reasons...
2. I think this question is related to the question number one. In addition to that, some people are just afraid to commit to the highest level in terms of relationship. IF they are both satisfied and content with their situation then the case is close.
3. Every person has his/her perspective in life. Maybe for some it sucks, then maybe for some it's great. There's always pros and cons in every relationship. Both couple should accept the result of their actions. It simply does not work in one person, it should run with both couple. It became normal in this generation, but I don't know what 'normal' is to other people. Although each one of us is different, we can be one by communicating not just by listening, but listening with heart. Then, everybody will have an amicably reasoning or decision. People can accept this kind of practice because they have an open mind and can accept challenge by their own action. As long as both couple are matured enough and at the right age then I think they can make it. But they should remember the responsibilities on what they are going through.
4. It depends: Advantages are - No divorce, they can analyze and evaluate each other's attitude, personality and feelings to each other. They can develop a deep approach of affection when they are living together and can adjust themselves to the new set-up. You can discover each partner's flaws and tantrums and you can decide on whether you are ready to accept that and if you are ready to live with him/her for the rest of your life. There's always the front door if you feel that you want to walk away and realize that 'Oh, he's/her the one for me' or 'you are different from what I am expected.' Such as this incident can learn something and that you can discover more and more from a partner. Marriage is not as easy as pie. It's not like you can change your clothes if you don't feel comfortable anymore. No. It's a lot different. It takes some effort and understanding from both sides. Disadvantages - well, as a woman myself, lot of disadvantages for a woman, why? Because, in our society today, women is more subtle, more fragile compared to men, in such a way for example that like a tires, when you use it everyday, it will wear out, not good anymore, so you will change it for the new one. It may sound bias to many or discriminate to some but it's the reality. Although lots of women today are superior compared to men then I will not disagree to that. It is just my point of view as what I've seen and as what I believe. Another disadvantage is after how many years of living together and trying to have a perfect love affair but along the way, you both failed to succeed and it turns out that you fall out of love suddenly. So it so painful to accept the fact that you were not the same as before but you have to move and move forward. In every relationship, it's not a one way street, both should work hard and accept the pros and cons on how to handle the relationship from the beginning. You will love the person just because of his 'goodness' but because you can accept his 'on' and 'off' days being together.
Love is the greatest gift that we could share for one another - there are lots of kind of relationship but whatever relationship you have right now. Cherish and enjoy every moment with it because life is only one. There is no rewind.