When my children were 4 years and 2 years old each month I had 2 weeks off, didn't have to go to office except for delivering a report. During the weeks off I did the baby sitting of my children while my wife was doing the cooking, washing and house cleaning. I tried to shape my children by applying strict rules. I pinched their bellies whenever they made mistakes, and sometimes I hit their legs with belt if their misbehavior became intolerable.
I was quite satisfied with the way I raised my children. No one could interfere how I lead my family, even my parent in laws. I was pretty tough on that. Now I enjoy the results. Thank God, my children now become well behaved grown ups, whilst four of my neighbors' children died due to narcotic addiction.
Now comes my second life event, my daughter in law is expecting a new baby and she needs my wife and me to take care of the children. So we become baby sitters for them, haha. The elder, Kevin is 4 years, and his sister, Jihan is two years old. They are cute kids really but their behaviors are nerve racking.
One day Kevin asked me to play BenTen with him, I didn't know what it was, besides I didn't have a mood to play such a game anyway. So he played alone and I played cooking with Jihan, but after several minutes she got bored and took Kevin's toy gun and started shooting at me. Kevin was quite egoist, he didn't allow his sister to play the gun so he snatched it from her hands causing her to cry. I told Kevin to lend it to his sister since he didn't use it and he was playing the BenTen. But Kevin wouldn't listen to me so I took the remote control. He got mad and started throwing everything. I couldn't resist the urge of pinching him on the belly. I guessed I pinched pretty hard and her mother saw it. Kevin screamed out loud and her mother took him to her room. She was quite upset I supposed.
It is true that Kevin is her son, but he is also my grandson. Don't I also have a right to shape him?
Comments
So, you really pinched your children and hit them! Ohhh..... What a disappointment!
Actually, in my psycho teaser, you had already wrote that you were very tough and severe! hahahah...
You are a very good dad (and also a good grandpa) Zulkilfi! It made me happy that you helped your wife out with housework. :)
What a wonderful surprise I got after long time no see your comment Anele. Thanks a million for that!
You see, to me kids are amazing but if they had become spoilt it would be difficult to correct their behavior. That's why I'd rather tough at the beginning and made them sure they got the message, then they usually would think twice before making another mistake. What I mean by mistake is something like throwing things when they got upset, spitting on our face, kicking and so on. If they just don't want to eat or don't want to go to bed early, these things are okay to me. I could discipline my own children but not so with my grandchildren as only half of their blood is mine.
I hope you don't have problem raising your kids!
Thank you Hala for your encouraging comments!
You have the right too to raise up your grandsons ,but as you said :no one could interfere how you raised your children and how you lead your family,I think others think the same they don't want anyone to raise their kids even you :)
Thank you for sharing the nice blog!