Lately I have asked myself a question.. Is it worth to spend time with someone who keeps make You sad and not willing to change anything about it!? Who say that they love you but it remains only in words, no actions. Someone who have serious issues with drinking but they never want to admit their issue. There is nothing but excuses...
If You give them not just a chance but three, four and even five chances to change their life, hoping that they really will change. You put all Your trust in them but in the end you get nothing but pain and sorrows.
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That's an interesting post ! I agree with what Zahra wrote down here. There is no point to stay with a partner or a friend who keeps giving you sorrows and who doesn't try to change his/her bad habits. Of course, sometimes, if that person is your partner, it can be very difficult to leave him/her. My suggestion is to take a piece of paper and to divide it in two parts. In the first part you write the good things that person brings you and in the second part de negative things. Then you will easily see in which side the balance goes down.
Decision are not easy to take when we should leave someone but if we want to keep our own balance we have to do it. It will hurt for sometimes and we will need time to feel better and to forget but, if we stay things will be worse and will last putting our own psychology in danger.
Nobody has the right to put you down. Wishing you to be strong.
If it is just a friend and a partner, not a relative or family member, there is no doubt that you shouldn't continue with this situation. I do not say that you should be cruel and do not care. Of course not.
What I am saying is that you should first take care of yourself, then others. It doesn't mean that you should be selfish, not at all. You should be healthy and well in order to be able to take care of others, shouldn't you?
There is something you should always consider in treating people; whenever you see that your life is getting ruined; whenever you see that your true deeds and ethics are in danger; whenever you see that your soul is not safe, for sure, you need a change. Sometimes a friend is the start of your going in the wrong way; so you must put an end to this relationship if there is no hope, after trying, to make them understand that they are not going on the right path.
Please take care of yourself; you need to be healthy and well.
It is good to care for your friends, but be careful not to get stuck in a situation which ends up with ruining your own pure soul and life.
Have a nice time
:)