I would like to introduce Miles to my EC friends. On April 12 he will be adopted by my son and wife so he will become their son legally. They are foster parents, which in our country means they are licensed to care for children-at-risk. Sometimes parents cannot take care of their children properly and foster parents take them into their homes and give them food, clothing, love and nurturing. Miles's parents were addicted to heroine and could no longer care for him. So after 8 months of caring for him my son and wife decided to adopt him. Usually foster children go back to their parents when the parents are rehabilitated. But this did not happen as the parents could not stop their use of heroine. The courts recently awarded my son and wife permanent custody of Miles. He is such a happy boy now and he loves his new parents as they love him.
Foster care does not always work well for children if they are passed from foster home to foster home because of behavior problems. Miles is one of the lucky ones, for sure, and so many foster parents are really good people. How does your country or culture handle children-at-risk? What do you think the pros and cons are for being a foster parent or for the children in their care? Would you want to do this kind of service or not? And what do you think about the benefits of adopting a child. What are the challenges?
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Thanks for your entry. Miles is doing very well with his new family. He is growing each day nurtured by the love we all have for him. His loves his baby sister very much and enjoys being in a happy family. He is doing well in his preschool and is very smart. He never asks aboout his original parents because he knows who loves him.
Happy to hear that your son has adopted Miles ...And such a pity that Miles' parents were so careless about him and his feelings ...as if they have preferred heroine to such a lovely boy ...Poor them !
May no parents do such cruelty to their children ...
Here ,there are some centers that take care of kids ...Orphanage ...But I don't know that much about the kids who have parents but their parents can not take care of them ,as the ones you mentioned here that were addicted !Maybe we have such kind of fostering too ...Some parents can not have their own kids ,so they go to one of such centers to foster kids ...it is also common here ...I know someone who has fostered a girl ,and she loves her as her own kid ...It is such a great idea to take care of kids who are left without parents or have careless parents or even poor parents who can not provide them with even food ...People can also foster a kid who lives in a poor family ...the kid lives with his own parents ,but supported by another one ...This is really a great humane doing ...
Nice topic ...and nice to know about lovely Miles ...Thanks for sharing with us ...
Have a nice time ...
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Thanks for your very important comments about this topic. The issue of young pregnant girls is very serious in all countries and cultures. In my local state of Colorado in the USA, there is a law that protects unwanted babies and their mothers. While it is sad for a mother to abandon her baby, they are allowed to bring their baby to a police station, a fire station or a hospital and the child will be cared for and put into the foster system. Hopefully they will become adopted. The mother is not punished or reported to authorities and hopefully does not make this mistake again. So this reduces the amount of babies that are born unwanted and outside of a birthing center or hospital and then allowed to die. But still we do hear of babies found in the trash. How sad.
Your cousin is a good person to care for the baby. I hope God blesses her life with this beautiful little baby girl. I wish her much happiness and success in caring for her.
It is the same in my country. Most abandoned kids or kids who no longer have parent will be sent to orphanage and has been taken care by our government & some private sector who are willing to donate money to helps these kids.
but the sad things are more and more young pregnant girl abandon their children by abortion and left the baby somewhere like sidewalk, disposal garbage tank and etc.. i am so angry when read it in the newspaper..
my neighbour used to jogging every morning but one day she found a plastic bag near the side walk near the road and with curiosity she opened it and found a dead baby.. its sad because some people who is desperate to abandoned and kill innocent children.
My cousin visited one of the family member in the hospital and when she came home.. she is with a healthy baby girl .. she is unwanted by her mother... doctor said she will be sent to orphanage .. so my cousin decided to take care of her and named her "maisara".. she is now 2 years old. She is beautiful little girl with full of smile.
i am so happy for miles and your son.. may your family in good health and full with happiness (^-^)
I was thinking about you just recently and here you are. You are quite correct. This act is a long time commitment on both sides. And as with raising any children adoption has its ups and downs. Miles does have a community of relatives and friends who are all committed to raising him to be a caring and cared for child. It is so nice how so many people have joined together to support my son and wife in this endeavor. We just had a combined celebration of his 4th birthday and adoption. It was so wonderful to see all the children and adults socializing and playing together. Miles really felt accepted by so many who love him.
You said so much in just a few words. There is an English word, pithy. It means to use just a few words to express a lot of meaning. How great foster parents are, indeed.
It is interesting how different countries handle this issue of abandoned children. Each country bases its solution for this problem on cultural and religious values. In our country many who truly follow the Christian faith believe God wants us to take in these children and treat them as our own to show God's love to them. In fact we are encouraged to do so. That was a lot of the motivation of my son and wife to be foster parents and then adoptive parents.
Whichever method is used, it is good to support children at risk since they are powerless to help themselves. I have a very good Muslim friend who was a student of mine who started a charity in her homeland of Pakistan. Some poor children were very much at risk. She provides a school for their education and also medical treatment where they would normally receive none. They would normally have to beg or work hard in the streets. She also did this because of her religious motives. I have financially supported that organization several times.
We both respect each other's faith. What we could do if we all put our differences aside and supported the children of the world.
Thanks for your comments. It is interesting how different countries handle children-at-risk. We really are bringing up our grandson as though he were our biological grandson. It makes no difference to us. I don't know that adoption is for everybody since blood (biological relationship) is very important. For us it is the love that is important. Miles will probably not see his mother or father until he is old enough to make that decision. But that is because they are addicted to heroine. Although the father apparently is in a program to become rehabilitated and we wish him the best. But it will be Miles's decision when to see his natural parents if they want to see him. And he is too young to make that decision yet.
Congratulation to your son and his new family member.
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