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Destiny? Does it even exist? I used to think destiny is an excuse for those who want to do nothing with their lives; lazy people who would blame the destiny for their failures. Now I know for sure that

destiny is like another type of energy! It knows exactly  why are you here and what is your mission on this planet. Destiny directs us and gives us hints. When we ignore those hints we stop listening to the voice inside us, we lose track of our being. We become something we are not. Being something that we are not will never make us happy. I suppose that is why there are so many unhappy people on this planet.

Ignore the signs through which the destiny  talks to you and you will never get the chance to control events and feelings that you encounter during your life. People say; we never have control over our lives, but I say it is not true. Having control over life doesn’t necessarily mean to be able to get whatever we want in a blink of an eye rather it is a long lasting contemplation, asking many questions and being in constant seeking for the answers. To believe that we never have control is a very easy task. It immediately sets you free from the need of choice making. It is never our fault that we are not happy and successful it was just that “life decided to go that way”. One can not gain control over life without making choices, creating  every single moment in life and bearing the responsibility of the choice that has been made. How do we control if we can’t even create?

There is this tendency that people show in which they believe that their lives is under control. Everything goes smoothly and all the important steps and decisions have been made for them by their parents or grandparents before even they were born. They do believe it is all right to allow family members or the society decide, advise and strongly recommend how to live, who to marry, where to work etc. However, one day when they wake up unhappy and frustrated they wonder why is their life so heavy?  I wonder if people will ever want to  change and take the responsibility. Not just talk about taking the life under their control but actually do it. Not just dream of being happy but actually be it.

Here is an example of a typical man in nowadays: He is hopeless in his tries to earn as much as possible and make everyone believe that he is the best; the one that always wins. I see many people live like this; in  constant fight. It must be so difficult to live that way. Everyday is a struggle . You don't see what a beautiful weather it is or what a beautiful park you are walking by on the way to the bus stop. Your head is filled with thoughts about how to earn more than your friend how to prove your parents and relatives that you are an amazing hard working man that has so many values (mostly big Wallet). Even more; you think how to pick up another project to make your  life even more intolerable!

This image makes me think that people hate themselves so much that they start creating more and more struggle to punish this useless being . Because the more you want to achieve the less you do achieve ! And you feel miserable. “No one will ever love me” you think “and why would anyone love such a loser”....

My conclusion is that many people do hate themselves.

And thus they will never maintain a relationship for if they hate themselves they hate everyone else . They are unable to love; they are constantly frustrated in their seeking  of a better life and better opportunities. Wanting to build a career isn't bad but one should clearly see what exactly he wants and just walk towards it rather than wanting more and more and forgetting the initial goal!

Life suggests us many different variants of creating a reality. We can't ever reach to complete happiness simply because we never stop wanting more and more!

And rarely do we want to be happy in simple things as in looking into our soul and finding the God (ourselves ) there... We often treat this idea as something of a utopian thinking. While happiness is in small things. Happiness is in living and being rather than wanting. I wish people could understand this and started seeing, feeling, believing in the signs that the destiny sends.