It isn’t a secret – most of megalopolis’ inhabitants (and also townspeople and countryfolk) feel
themselves solitary, lonely.
Even successful people, living in their great, enormous
houses or block of flats (apartment block), are leaving to their own resources (devices). And if they find an interlocutor or
soul friend, their communication (personal contact) isn’t lasting long. People continue
to look for contact with others, but they don’t find its…
We complain about loneliness, solitude, but we can’t get on with other people. Why? We endeavour to escape away from loneless in nightclubs,
the Internet, strange “get-togethers”, gatherings, parties, hangouts… But we
can't get away from it – every time, we, coming home, feel a great weight of
our solitude, a burden of loneliness, a heavy load to bear!
What is a reason of this feeling? I think, the reason is a sense of our peculiarity. Each of us differs from other people. We see and feel that. This filling was given to us by the
Nature. If we will compare one stone with others, we can’t see essential
distinctions – maybe, a form and size only. The plants of one kind have got noticeable
differences. The animals are possessed
of great peculiarities and characteristics – everyone can see that.
The peculiarities become apparent at the most from people. And what is more, every full-blown (advanced, developed) person aspires to accentuate his individuality in his
habits, taste, predilections, style, manner, life’s views and opinions. The
more of person’s intellectual development, the loneliness is deeper. This
differ separates, detaches him/her from society, so he/she finds like-minded
persons (persons holding the same views) once in a blue moon (very seldom).
Every person feels by nature, that he/she is the center of the Universe. Other people exist for fulfillment of his/ her wishes! So every person aspires to exploit others for
the own benefit of him/ her, and there is no necessity to do something for
others, to give something in return (in his/ her opinion). Often the person
does something for others by force! The person aspires to use others with a
great ruse, cunning, guile – in that way, that they can’t feel the
manipulations!
It is a persons’ nature!
It is a law, which lives in person’s heart! We can call this law like the Law of Universe. Nobody can avoid its influence.
This law isn’t good or bad, because this law is
a reality of the Nature.
The person has a right of choice - how does person uses this law? The first choice others for banal enjoyments, the second – for an authority,
power, the third – for a honor and glory.
The person, exploiting others for enjoyments, is out of loneliness, solitude. But when the person does some thing in return, he/ she become dependent on others, because he/ she try
to keep others. At that time the person feels connection, relations with other
people and get out of the loneliness, solitude!
Anonimous autor said: "People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges".
I wish you to build the bridges!
Happy New Year!
Happy New Year!
Happy New Year!
Comments
Thank you for your deep thought! Your opinion is very interesting for me and, I hope, for all readers of this blog! Yes, you are right! Sometimes we should be alone or stand a bad friend! :-) But it's better, if we are the good friends! :-)
Thanks again for your comment!
Inga,
I thank you for your greetings and wish the same to you!
Evidently, many people try to manipulate others. It may be quite harmless or injurious. So it's up to us to choose: to be alone or stand a bad friend!
Hello, dear Rain!
Thank you for your warm words about my blog! Thank you for your opinion about this important problem!
Yes, you are rigth: "It's vital to spend a few moments alone with your own self... that makes solitude a bliss fr such souls... " But, I think, it's is the happiness, if we can have an alternative! :-)
I hope, you will never be lonely! I wish you to have alternative!
Hello, Hardi!
You are erudite person! Your literature talent is evident for me and other members of My EC and Anime group! You can carry conviction! You can make a good quotetions, give examples and satisfactory arguments! Thank you for your attentions to my blog! I'm glag, that you are interested the problems of such kind - it's meaning, that you will never to be lonely! Knowledges in this sphere help you always!
Hello, dear Nida!
I'm glad, that you are agree! It's very pleasure for me - to have such clever interlocutor, like you!
I'm amazing your awareness in different intellectual spheres! I see, you are interested in psychology - like I am! :-) Thanks for your attentions for my blogs!
Hello, Judith!
I'm glad, that you like my blog! Yes, you are right - "people simply feel more comfortable to be alone". But this is right, when people have an alternative. I think, in the World there are many people, which have too much loneliness... I wrote about them! Thanks for attention to my blog!
Happy New Year!
Hello, Vega!
I'm glad, that you have interest for my opus! Thank you! New Year came! May it will happy for all of us! Thanks again!
Hello, Thuy Van!
Thank you for your attention for my blog and mathematic wishes with New Year! I hope, you will never be lonely! Happy New Year too!
I don't remember whose quotation this is, or where I have had read it. It was something like this. "You don't need to look inside from your neighbor's window to know, how he's doing. It's enough to see his smoke" It means, that when there is smoke coming from your neighbors chimney, then he's still fine. If there isn't smoke, then you have to go to check him out, he might need help, or have deceased already.
I think it's good. There's no need to get too near to others. It's annoying to be too close.
Maybe this is also how people is southern countries are considered more hot.. they are more more sociable, they need more human contact. While northerners are often referred as cold. In cold northern winter you won't go to visit your neighbors on rural area without a good reason through of deep snow so easily... (Here, in rural areas houses are usually about a kilometer apart from each others) So people have got used to be more individual and so since long ago... by thousands of years. Our ancestors a long long ago back here here in northern areas, also mostly made living by hunting.. I think. I suppose hunters had to get used by loneliness. But the winter wasn't so lonely to them. They spend a lot of time outside... forest etc.
Now people have much harder. They work in office.. although they can have social contacts. It's rather bothersome to them ..and the miss sunlight... Well something like that.
Well I think, that loneliness and difference in people is also where from the religion takes advantage. Religion is something that creates something common amongst of people....
Well I'm from a least religious country of the world so I actually don't know. But I still believe into spirits, or life force and such things. :P Thanks good for that. ;) Well for people from religious countries might be hard to believe it, but actually I'm clad and proud for this. I'm afraid of religion. It seems like some kind of craziness.. sorry.
Well, I like to be alone, but I don't like it also. There's something missing. I hope I find that missing part someday.
Yeah, Happy New to you too also. ^_^
Well, I do agree! However, there are different kinds of people. Extroverts do need people around them to not-to-be lonely. On the other hand Introverts need LONELINESS to not-to-be lonely. Loneliness is a matter of different opinions. Diversity is the beauty of nature, so you can't expect from all people to feel in the same way.
Selfish, pushy, stingy, mean and egomaniac people end up being lonely, I do agree completely. You'll gain only when you'll give; you'll keep people then, no doubt !
I love this quote, " People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges".
I know you're building bridges already, so I wish you to keep up the great work! ^_^
*_* Happy New Year to you too! *_*
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