I always hear this sentence out from some girls mouth, looks like it is the only way for them to face their problem , mostly about 'love' matter. I wonder how can they just being silent all the time , how this can solve their problem? It sounds very selfish to me. Because every problem must have to be solved as soon as possible. We have to spill it out,becuse all the things that stuck in our heart and our brain can disturb our health. Stress , depression and more Vertigo is really hard to be cured. In other word we have to discuss it, must have a conversation.
Why must we suffer in one side? It's not fair. My parents always tell me to love yourself only after that you can love other. And then I asked them 'why is that necessary to do?' And they said ' with that you will afraid to hurt other, you will appreciate them more,you will do your best,give your best and get the best and you won't get hurt from other'.
I prefer to spill out all , at least must have a conversation ... must discuss it, not being silent. So we can know what is wrong , what and how must be solved. We can correct it together , at least our heart will not stuck. Even though the result not always good or as what we hope , but our mind and heart will lose its burden. After discuss with full of some loud voices, hard words, tears it is still give us such an easy feeling.
Trust me being silent is really bad thing to do. not only we can't solve the problem , the more we silent the more that matter can not be solved, and how can we pass every minute, hour and day easily? And the worst is we may be regret it one day, after a long time and that regret is the bad thing to have in our life. Regret is always comes late.
After long time here I come trying my best to improve my English, yes ... I am a learner and always . And I will be happy if there any correction from you , thank you :)
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By the way , I will appreciate having any corrections from you my friends ;)
Thank you, Noona. I appreciate the way your point of view :)
Honestly, I ever did it for an half of my life time, try to solve it by myself. Have the same thinking like yours,if I tell to the people who loves me they will get sad. But that time I forgot that there is a may be that they are stronger than us, they are more mature than us, they are more experience than us. Their experience and knowledge of life can be better than ours, so just from their words or an expedient of advice can help us to solve it. Here we can exchange our opinion with them after that we can study it again and then take all the good thing and leave all the bad thing.
Nothing to loose here,the people who care n loves us will become easy and happy knowing at least you still need them , trust them to help you solve your problem. They are happy because in your heart they still important for you and they can help you even though not as what you hope. We have more knowledge and become more mature. Our heart become easier. Our head become cool and when that happen we can make a decision, because we can think better than before.
And I never get bother about what other think about me, it's my life. I am the one who have to face and pass it. To me if we keep thinking what other think about us , our life is never easy, because we spend our spare time busy with thinking what will he/she/they think bout me if i do this, if i say this , if i happy , if i sad. Really that annoying. How bout think like this ... I must clear my problem, I must not hurting myself , I must love myself , I must get the answer of all the question that burden my brain and stuck my heart. I must not trap longer in this matter, it makes me clumsier, glum, sad, stress, depress and lot. It is better for us to be happy for the people who loves and care to us, and to be happy for our self than to have a fake smile or happy face for the people who hate us.
Sama sama Dewi, you are always welcome.
Thank you Dara Sir, Yasmin, Shaila and all for like and comment :)
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