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One of the biggest challenges that we face in life is how we're dealing with people because if you use the wrong way of dealing with people  maybe you will suffer from that or lose a friendship or relationship with someone.

I'm such a sensitive person and always try to make people around me comfortable even if I'm not. When i was studying i had a friend who was an amazing person in many ways but she was selfish and so cold . I spent hard times with her I didn't want to lose her but at the same time she was a difficult person to be around . Whenever something bad happened between us I felt so bad and kept asking myself why did she do that,  what did I do wrong and if I were her I wouldn't do that . So I blamed myself and my friend at the same time.

One day while reading a book I found something very interesting . The writer said "don't expect people do what you want to do if you were in their place and try to accept people the way they are " I felt as like all my problems with that friend had been solved . I was completely wrong when I expected her dealing with me as the same way because she's just different . She has different personality , life and background besides that I was wrong when I tried to change her to be perfect to me because it's not my responsibility to change her character even if she's wrong . 

After that day I didn't get mad at her again and I just enjoyed her company . Since that day I always tried my best to accept people as they are and if I can't I just leave them while we're still friends . 

on other hand I started being myself more than before because I no longer feel I have to get accepted by people and I just remember something i read before "being kind for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle " 

In the end every person has a bad side and good side if you want to live with people happily just find the good side and ignore the bad side.