Hello everyone,
love & marriage via the Net has always been the polemic of newspapers and other media.
According to google, Moroccans top the list of people who most frequently look up for romance, love and marriage via the Net.
Is it really love that leads people to look for it on the net? why looking for a soul mate that a person has never met or seen before and who is living so far
from him? if anyone can have more chances to meet his soul mate, maybe someone who is staying just meters from his house or staying in the same neighborhood, the same city or country, so why adventuring to meet someone thousand kilometers away that you only rely on what he said and there’s no way for you to check his profile.
what do you think about marriage via the net? had anyone or had one of your relatives got married in this way? can you please share your experience or experience of someone that you know and who got married via the Net?
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Nice topic Sweety!
About three decades ago before the age of the internet people communicated by letters. At that time the term pen-friends was quite popular. A neighbor of mine after finishing her study wrote a letter to an American young man wishing to be his pen-friend. The communication continued for several months and love developed ending with marriage. She now has a pair of children, a boy and a girl, already grown up and graduated from universities. The family visited Indonesia when the children were about four years old. The kids looked more American and not a slight Indonesian was seen on their complexions. They run a happy life in California.
Finding out what type of a person we are communicating with via internet must be a lot easier than through letters. With the internet we can hear the voice, see the body language, sense an air of hypocrisy and many other things that can help us judge the attitude of the person.
I used to say to my nephews and nieces: “Before you decide whom you are going to marry open your eyes wide, find out everything about him/her. But after the marriage you should close your eyes tight, don’t even try to test your spouse. If you find something you don’t like, just accept it and sacrifice your ego to change it.” I believe this is a good recipe for a happy marriage. So nothing to be scared finding your love through the internet as long as you have followed the right procedure.
Concerning marriage, it is another thing, it is a sacral event. It has to be witnessed by real people and carried out by legal authority.
well,, it is kind of strange and even crazy i think..but, it s all about heart,feeling and Love,of course-the most difficult thing to define.
Beside we never know how it feels,exactly, if we havent experienced it before.
and they must be mature enough to decide their live..:)
so.. it's OK
over all "someone love you in unique way" ;)
Since such cases are occurring therefore it must be given some serious attention. We cannot just brush it aside and close our eyes, human emotions are very powerful and make them do weird/silly/fantastic things. So, suspending our beliefs and accepting this virtual world as a global hub then anything is possible.
Recently in my home country Pakistan, a mute guy fell in love with a mute girl in Poland through internet chatting. They convinced each others families and got married.
Well, marriage is absolutely important regardless of the mode or the media attached. Two hearts getting together ,male and female , is what gives life the real meaning to lief and drive to drive forth. humans must advance in many fields and the emotional balance sought and achieved through being together can be further given a refinement( a polishing) with mental and intellectual improvement. This can come through books and sensible dialogues.
Honestly, I don't believe in such love stories. One cannot fall in love with another one through the net. It is an image they fall in love. Can you imagine love being without feelings? Can you fall in love with someone without touching? You may say they can see each other. But it is not enough to love deep inside heart. A love managed through the net..... well, it is rare to last forever.... probaby gonna end in divorce....
PS. When I say "you", it is not you. It is general. hehe...
Hello Sweety,
Well, I reject such marriage though I admit there are some successful ones.
The reasons of such explosive growth of such marriage,as I think, are:
- Fashion: girls or boys wants to imitate others. They want to be loved and have lovers. Unfortunately, they are surrounding by lots of friends who do the same. Therefore, they decide to live the same experience.
- Emotional vacuum: a girl are attracted by a boy because of his way in dealing with others or for his lovely soul. Then, such a boy overwhelms her by a fake love (usually it is fake). Actually, she is mostly deceived. She may pass through some problems in her life and she finds one who cares about her and listen to her. It's a vice versa for boys as well.
Well, we can find different opinions about that topic.
Nowadays internet is becoming something vital although it is virtual, but we can understand that the daily real life is so hard that people try to escape in the virtual parallel world. Interests are different: studies, researches, friendship, discovery, love...
Concerning marriage, i think, the way couples meet will not be a problem or a cause for divorce since we notice that divorces are increasing every year even for normal marriage out of internet.
People are attracted by friendship and even love with persons from other countries, and this is human nature seeking for something new and different especially women.
I personally think that marriage is like a game, you can win as you can fail, the way is not important if both man and woman are convinced about their choice.
Thank you dear, nice topic.
My stepson met his second wife on the internet, they have married, and seem to be very happy! She has a grown, married son and 2 grandchildren, my stepson has 3 children still in school. They all seem to get along quite well!
Relationship (whether romance or just plain friendship) seems to develop easier online where we are more able to overcome any barrier (be it cultural, language, status, personality, even distance).
That's exactly why! More often than not, it's our adventurous side that drives us to meet people over the internet...and in the process build a relationship with them.
Hi Sweety!
Well, that's really a nice topic! Personally, I don't find the idea of love or marriage via the not viable. My decision is because of an experiance one of my relatives went through. Long story short: he started with having daily chats with a girl from Romania. Their relationship lasted for 5 years. They visited each other's countries and met each other's families as well. They got engaged for a year and in the next they were married. However, this marriage didn't last more than a year, unfortunately, and got divorced. They claimed to love each other very much, but I don't know...Anyway, most people I know got married via the net ended up with divorce or unhappy marrige. Hope I didn't make you bored...Nice topic again. Thanks for sharing Sweety^_^