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Sometimes we come across weird, chaotic thoughts that start occupying our brain. Sometimes we are stressed because of little issues that eventually don't matter so much but we consider them at that one particular moment the most important in the world. We ask ourself the questions such as: "Am I good enough? Do I look fine? Will others like this or that I have worked on?" We tend to doubt, which is natural but I would say we waste time on thinking about how others percieve us...

In fact, we care too much about own appearance. We want to look good, we want to impress others. The question is FOR WHOM are we doing this all? For the strangers on the streets that we pass by and who don't care about us? For the people in school or at work, who hardly remember what we were wearing the previous day? After all at home with our own family we don't care that much about it because we are simply ourself. What made me laugh was one post I have read recently: "Home is the only place we can look ugly because nobody cares there about it... "

We are dying to be loved, to be popular to be a good person. We want to be admired because it simply makes us feel good but isn't it a bit egoistic and selfish? It actually looks like we forgot to value our own abilities. We should do things we like and enjoy instead of doing them on purpose with the vision of being liked and praised. Feedback is of course nice thing but firstly we should be happy about our own effort and performance. The less we care about how others percieve us, the less vulnerable and more confident we will be.

So what's the message I wanted to share by writing this blog? You know, I just wanted to say that it isn't about being arrogant, it is just about appreciating own abilities, which should make us feel comfortable and which should vanish all these questions about how others see us. What matters is.. how much we value ourself and how much we appreciate doing things that makes us happy just for our own inner nice feeling and satisfaction...

So just take things easy and live your life for yourself, not for others...