Sometimes we come across weird, chaotic thoughts that start occupying our brain. Sometimes we are stressed because of little issues that eventually don't matter so much but we consider them at that one particular moment the most important in the world. We ask ourself the questions such as: "Am I good enough? Do I look fine? Will others like this or that I have worked on?" We tend to doubt, which is natural but I would say we waste time on thinking about how others percieve us...
In fact, we care too much about own appearance. We want to look good, we want to impress others. The question is FOR WHOM are we doing this all? For the strangers on the streets that we pass by and who don't care about us? For the people in school or at work, who hardly remember what we were wearing the previous day? After all at home with our own family we don't care that much about it because we are simply ourself. What made me laugh was one post I have read recently: "Home is the only place we can look ugly because nobody cares there about it... "
We are dying to be loved, to be popular to be a good person. We want to be admired because it simply makes us feel good but isn't it a bit egoistic and selfish? It actually looks like we forgot to value our own abilities. We should do things we like and enjoy instead of doing them on purpose with the vision of being liked and praised. Feedback is of course nice thing but firstly we should be happy about our own effort and performance. The less we care about how others percieve us, the less vulnerable and more confident we will be.
So what's the message I wanted to share by writing this blog? You know, I just wanted to say that it isn't about being arrogant, it is just about appreciating own abilities, which should make us feel comfortable and which should vanish all these questions about how others see us. What matters is.. how much we value ourself and how much we appreciate doing things that makes us happy just for our own inner nice feeling and satisfaction...
So just take things easy and live your life for yourself, not for others...
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Woooow! I am speechless to see so many comments. All these thoughts came from my heart and it is nice to see so many of you see the things the same way :)
Thank youuuu for your time you invested in reading me and do believe I appreciate it :)
You could have started with... "wellcome to the incomprehensible woman's mind" lol... don't make me wrong but this reminded me of someone's 40's crisis I know :D
Joking aside, I agree with your moral's blog, in fact I could attend a party with a t shirt and trainers but... Roman!! wearing sandals with socks!!?? Oh my...it should be forbidden by law!! As for Hudel's pic... ufff, I'd better keep my comment ;D
Well, one should be confident and proud with her/his own skills whatever they are but that's something people use to learn with time. Experience is a plus.
Lol to hudel. i liked that sweater, where did you buy it hudel. :)))) Btw, about perception i agree with you luci. So, as i always say:" Be yourself" if you are yourself you dont care people.Because of the reasons that you mentioned in your blog people acts with two face.(even in virtual) As human we are immanent but we are run by transcendental rules such as ethics. But who regulated these rules, are they true?
Very nice blog Luci.
WHO cares, luci, thats why im a laid back dude,you know that im your admirer i like the way you write
I love the thoughts of this blog.
Recently, people are being influenced by social media such as Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram which could upload images and videos of our life style. We know what others do, buy, wear, and so on. It might lead vulnerable people to be insecure of themselves. So they want to follow what they see. They want to look beautiful, to be popular, to be loved by people which can be valued by the number of enthusiasts on their post. Rest of all, we just need to be ourselves as you mentioned above and be with people who can accept the way we are.
Important lesson of life that we must always repeat to ourselves for not to forget in our daily life because, unfortunately, we are doomed to be mammals ruled by a social hierarchy that need to feel the approval of their community. It's like living in a cage that we never can leave, even if the door is wide open...
Thanks for sharing Luci.
JUST BE YOURSELF!
For those who would like to delve into the meaning of "JUST BE YOURSELF", this blog defines it better than any dictionary.
...yet there are times when we try to change ourselves into someone we are not simply because we want to compromise with others for the sake of peace, love and healthy relationship. I think "selflessness" is the right term for this.
Nice post, always!
Hi,
After breaking our hearts for many times for the sake of others, we learn how to open the heart and see what we really are behind all boundries and this is being free from the chains tying us to the ground of prejudices.
Thank you..
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