Interlude - the dictionary defined it as "anything that fills time between two events, as music between acts of a play"; and I add my own as "film trailers for coming-soon movies in a theater.Or, that unexpected event suddenly interrupted the normalcy of our daily living. This happens when for example you leave on an job assignment or career change. Or, maybe, a death in the family. This is tragic event that really interrupts one's home life. The members get into different feelings, moods and even perceptions changes. Lost of one's job is another interlude. An accident happens and interludes life changes for the victim and the family, even in the life of the suspect.In other words, there's always interruption in our daily living. We faced the dilemma with brave heart. When awakened, the normalcy of daily living returned. Normal life continues.I think I experienced interlude in my life for several times. Each journey to the stages of life, there always had an interlude. Example, in elementary school, my schooling interrupted whenever my mother gave birth to my sisters and brothers, and I became the helper at home. My schooling life returned to normal when I resumed my studies, but of course, with some changes because my classmates of previous year had gone one notch and me starting the grade where I left off.Or, my college years interrupted by working a job I don't like. But, had to because I have to earn an income to help put money in our family coffer. Then returned to the normalcy of college life when I re-enrolled. Always, I was behind whenever I stopped schooling. However, the new school year also offered new experiences and learning for me, and new friends. Perspective also changed. Where before I thought I want to have a boyfriend, finishing college became the goal.Marriage, family and homelife took over. Again, interlude and change happened several times. Quitting my job over choice to take care and raise my children, and doing housework than earning an income. Another interlude happened when children started to go to schools. My priority changed to that of seeing my children get to best school and get good Christian education. I enrolled them to a Catholic univeristy all their schooling lives, and finished with different degrees and academic and extra-curricular achievements."Empty ness" was one interlude that was heart rending for me. This was when each of my children decided to leave home and go on their own lives and careers. However, the primary reason was their desire to live near their workplaces. At that time, we live far from where they all work.That was an interlude that never returned the normalcy of my living because it was the beginning of living with my husband only (when he was still alive). I thought, it is inevitable. Children were aiming at their own lifestyles and careers. My late husband and I had a change in our lifestyle, too. Living together in an empty nest. Loneliness crept in.Long interlude happened and big change came in my life after my husband passed away. My life turned 360 degrees. With my children living their own lives in different cities, I was left alone. However, after the funeral, I already made a major decision in my life to live by myself, live independently, too. I learned so much from my own children about independent-living, and I want to live it, too. With my pension coming, I know I can live the life I want to become. That is, if I am certain as to what kind of life I want to become. However, this is another subject for a new blog here. Since then, I live independently.My life changed altogether as I entered my late adulthood. My perspective changed. I am now entering the "evening" of my life. I have to look after my old-age. What is important is that I maintain a young-mind. Dementia is a terrible illness. Coming from a clan of losing memory, my resolve to keep my brain young is important. Computer and internet are very helpful. With computer and internet, my mind is always busy and active.Lately, I am not doing what I normally do - write daily my personal journal and blogging here in EnglishClub. The sewing comes in between my reading, writing, sketching and house chores. I spent little time to check my e-mails or reply to. So, I missed some important feeds from EnglishClub, from Facebooks, and sites where I'm a member, too.Also, the errand I'm doing to correct a personal document also brought me to places that in turned fascinated me and spent time exploring. This is one interlude I always welcome to happen to me. I just love going places - just to walk, to look at the beautiful sceneries, or whatever caught my eyes, to stay longer and look.My dream to travel is yet to be fulfilled and lived. I want to live a life of travelling, writing, art, and speaking and tennis and jogging. To keep my brain young. To teach what I know and to learn what I don't is one way to keep my brain young. This an interlude welcomed for me. Or, a travelling lifestyle is a welcome experience at this age.What is important: after the interlude, we know we have to move on - either to the normalcy of our lives, or to changes presented to us.
Sorry for this late response to your comment. Thank you for reading my blog. I do hope I can get active again. At my age, I don't know why I still have so much to do. I thought I've retired from working but still I'm too occupied with so many things.
I do hope you've already conquered your loneliness due to your mother's demise. Her memory will remain for which you can always cherish. But, to move forward, you must. And, it's good that you find other things to do.
Interludes always happen in our lives. But, afterward, we go on to the normalcy of our living. Being absent in englishclub is an interlude for me, too. Hopefully, I can go back to the normal blogging here.
I do hope you're doing fine in your job. You're so young, and much will come and happen to your life. Interlude included.
I was amazed by your experiences and how you managed to overcome every interlude and change you had. I think this is one of the best blogs ever written here in MyEC. How come I overlooked this one?
I think, the interlude that I had when my mother passed away. Which is why until now, I can feel the emptiness and a lot of questions bugging on my head. But change helped me move on and discover new things, especially on things I thought I couldn't do.
I was inspired by this blog. And I'm grateful for that.
Thanks for posting this.... Take care and Goodluck on your adventures....
Thanks to all who commented on my blog Interlude and Changes. One way or the other, there were interludes in our lives. So, I would love to hear others' account of interludes in their lives, too.
Fe, you wrote a great reflexive piece. I love it. I have experienced so many interludes myselvf. Now, it is so important that I keep my mind afresh all the time. Alzheimer is just scared off by a fresh mind. Writing in English is one of the ways. Oh mine! what the final interlude is called? finalude, or ultimolude or whatever I do not want it to come up soon! Not that...
I read your blog about your experiences,it's a wonderful post.
I like the way you are thinking,positively and never giving up!
Admireable for me,dear Fe!
Wish all your dreams come true!
Thanks so much for the encouraging comments about the interludes and changes in my life. Surely, each experiences left valuable wisdom to guide me in this life. When we reach the late adult stage does not mean we are already fading. Any one can shine even at old age.
You're a brave lady indeed. And you're a living a very active life even at this old age. Reading and keeping yourself busy is of course a very good way or perhaps the only way to keep yourself protected from dementia, especially when this problem runs in your family.
Your blog (or more correct to say your life) would be a source of greet inspiration for many, I guess. And I wish that may your dreams (of traveling. learning, writing, art, tennis and jogging) be fulfilled.
Best wishes for your health and happiness............
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Hi! Robert,
Sorry for this late response to your comment. Thank you for reading my blog. I do hope I can get active again. At my age, I don't know why I still have so much to do. I thought I've retired from working but still I'm too occupied with so many things.
I do hope you've already conquered your loneliness due to your mother's demise. Her memory will remain for which you can always cherish. But, to move forward, you must. And, it's good that you find other things to do.
Interludes always happen in our lives. But, afterward, we go on to the normalcy of our living. Being absent in englishclub is an interlude for me, too. Hopefully, I can go back to the normal blogging here.
I do hope you're doing fine in your job. You're so young, and much will come and happen to your life. Interlude included.
Hello Fe,
I was amazed by your experiences and how you managed to overcome every interlude and change you had. I think this is one of the best blogs ever written here in MyEC. How come I overlooked this one?
I think, the interlude that I had when my mother passed away. Which is why until now, I can feel the emptiness and a lot of questions bugging on my head. But change helped me move on and discover new things, especially on things I thought I couldn't do.
I was inspired by this blog. And I'm grateful for that.
Thanks for posting this.... Take care and Goodluck on your adventures....
I like the way you are thinking,positively and never giving up!
Admireable for me,dear Fe!
Wish all your dreams come true!
Thanks so much for the encouraging comments about the interludes and changes in my life. Surely, each experiences left valuable wisdom to guide me in this life. When we reach the late adult stage does not mean we are already fading. Any one can shine even at old age.
Thanks a lot !!!!!!!!
You're a brave lady indeed. And you're a living a very active life even at this old age. Reading and keeping yourself busy is of course a very good way or perhaps the only way to keep yourself protected from dementia, especially when this problem runs in your family.
Your blog (or more correct to say your life) would be a source of greet inspiration for many, I guess. And I wish that may your dreams (of traveling. learning, writing, art, tennis and jogging) be fulfilled.
Best wishes for your health and happiness............