now I have been in a new company for a month. I am rookie here and have to learn many things. so I have a master , he is an important person in the company and very busy with his work. so we had little communication and talk. even though we are in the same office.he once said if I had any problem I can ask him. Maybe I am a little introversive or something else , I don't know , anyway, we do not talk often, sometime no a word in a day.I am very confused and annoyed with this . I do not know how to deal with the relationship between I and him. you know, he is my master and superior. I know I must do something to change this situation, but how to change it ? what can I do? I really have no idea about it . If someone know someting about this , please teach me how to do. I will appreciate it. Oh, he is a man , I am a woman, he is seven years older than me. I guess.
hello all
in my personal opinion , fisrt you should say hello , how are you ? and drawing smile in your face when you open your office and enters . second, you can take for example flowers and put it in your desk and it's maybe open converstation between you and your manager about flowers .
thired , it's ok to ask him to help you to understand new work , it's take to to open converstation with him and he will talk more beacuse l think he love his work toooo much
good luck
sanjay rji, you are so kind, now i am trying to do as these advice, and i really hope i could do well. I believe some day I will succeed. thanks for your supporting.
Hi Fengluan,
No probs.....at all.......
Just try to involve in work and try to get more n more knowledge about the work......
You will get queries to ask n will solve your problem.
Don't mind even to ask simple queries or feel bad to ask queries......
This will create your own image........
N talking with Boss-Male related to work will give chance to communicate and move ahead....
Take this as begin..........
I will wait for your respose as successfull.....
All the best....
Regard..
This hint is given by one of my good friend ..... Santosh Chavan
Good Luck
That is no so many different between a male and female superior I thought.
What do you want to talk actually, is it about the job? if so, go to him and ask him for his time. If he refused, ask what time exactly you can talk to him. Then if you want to talk another topic beside the job, to break the Ice. I think a little difficult to do that in working hour. As Expector said, you just can greet him, and smile to him. The awkwardness situation can not be handled in short time. Even a year it can not guarantee that the Ice will be break.
So, it seams to be another 'male superior and female subordinate' story. You can tell him how you feel about the situation unless he hates you. Please know effective communication is important for all of us to be successful. You need this job and don't want to lose it, so you must take action to deal with the awkward situation. Good luck!
first, thanks Tina, but I have a question, he is a man , actually a strictly man, sometimes if he is busy , if you talk to him, he just pretent to hear nothing, I can not stand this, so most of the time, i want to talk to him,but i am afraid that would happen.
Hi Fengluan, I had felt like this before. When I was a rookie I felt awkward to my superior. But she is always tell me, do not hesitate to ask her.
Then I ignore all of my feel about being awkward to her. And ask anything when I need her help. Because that is all depend on our attitude to our superior. If we don't ask anything, they would be so busy in their job and don't care about us. But if we ask something to them, they will be so welcome to help us. That's from me, hopefully it can help you a little bit.
Expector. Thanks for you advice, you know I really want to break the ice, but I just feel only say hello is not so useful , I guess is there anything i can do just give him a good impression or something like that?
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in my personal opinion , fisrt you should say hello , how are you ? and drawing smile in your face when you open your office and enters . second, you can take for example flowers and put it in your desk and it's maybe open converstation between you and your manager about flowers .
thired , it's ok to ask him to help you to understand new work , it's take to to open converstation with him and he will talk more beacuse l think he love his work toooo much
good luck
No probs.....at all.......
Just try to involve in work and try to get more n more knowledge about the work......
You will get queries to ask n will solve your problem.
Don't mind even to ask simple queries or feel bad to ask queries......
This will create your own image........
N talking with Boss-Male related to work will give chance to communicate and move ahead....
Take this as begin..........
I will wait for your respose as successfull.....
All the best....
Regard..
This hint is given by one of my good friend ..... Santosh Chavan
Good Luck
What do you want to talk actually, is it about the job? if so, go to him and ask him for his time. If he refused, ask what time exactly you can talk to him. Then if you want to talk another topic beside the job, to break the Ice. I think a little difficult to do that in working hour. As Expector said, you just can greet him, and smile to him. The awkwardness situation can not be handled in short time. Even a year it can not guarantee that the Ice will be break.
Then I ignore all of my feel about being awkward to her. And ask anything when I need her help. Because that is all depend on our attitude to our superior. If we don't ask anything, they would be so busy in their job and don't care about us. But if we ask something to them, they will be so welcome to help us. That's from me, hopefully it can help you a little bit.