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Saturday, most of Gulf’s companies are closed so there’s no multitude calls for today, and this made me so bored so I decided to surf the net and find something to read, I’ve been reading so many love stories lately and I was so fascinated by almost fairy tale stories, though I know in real life, those are close to impossible, I’m must be dreamy for that to exist. The kind of love where the guy will do anything for you, the promise that he will cross his heart and hope to die, the gentleman who will always protect you, the one who is willing to catch bullet for you, a super duper rich guy who sounds capable of buying his own country, very charming and extremely handsome…Hey! Risty, wake up! (Just to remind you, the beauty and the beast movie will soon hit the cinema, catch that!:D) Oh gosh, my mind is full of fogging image of a perfect guy.

Until I read some articles about women in different part of the world, I’m so sure almost all of you are familiar with battered wife or any stories or issues related to this, and I just found that there is a syndrome for this, according to 8th edition of Mosby’s medical Dictionary;

"A battered wife syndrome is defined as repeated episodes of physical assault on a woman by the person with whom she lives or with whom she has a relationship, often resulting in serious physical and psychological damage to the woman. . ."

As a result, the woman begin to change her way of thinking about herself and life leading to a state of learned helplessness- wherein she believes that no matter what she does, that battering will not stop. Women suffering this syndrome often believe that the abuse is her fault and that she deserves to be assaulted. This is so sad and very alarming!

The guy you thought that will protect you, care for you and love you no matter what will turn out to be the monster you never imagine!

I would like to share the story of a woman, (a true story), She is a teacher and a deputy head of a college. She has 3 children. She married an amateur boxer when they were students. Initially, she thought his controlling behavior was a sign of his love for her, she thought his possessiveness is sweet. (Oh!) The first time he hit her she was pregnant but very fortunate, she did not miscarry (urgh!). Well girls reading this, I know what you feel I have the same feeling while writing this. The husband, who was drunk when he struck her, claimed afterward he did not realize what he had done. He apologized when he was sober and said he did not mean to hurt her. (duh!). Unfortunately, this wasn’t the last time because for the first five years of her marriage she tried to get used to it as the guy’s alcoholism grew increasingly serious and he’s always aggressive when he drinks. Even there was no reason to beat her when the guy was drunk she will surely face torture. The reason why she ended up this abusive relationship was when her husband also beat their children and she was very afraid that he will end up killing all of them. So, she sought for help. (I know it’s bad but I sometimes wish to have a bad mouth! And if bad words are like pennies, this guy will earn a million from me. :D)

For this context, I can safely say that some guys will show their angel side, treat a woman like a princess, best foot forward, but once you have a piece of that woman, the vital part of her, which controls her whole being-the heart. Then what? Are you going to give her the promise of love that might be a gate of a living hell?

Final note, argh!...I got carried away, surely I can’t and I don’t like to generalize all men, but “some” are so filthy, that I just can’t help but share my opinion about it. I do believe a woman is not a piece of junk, she deserves respect, love, and honor like a man do. My dream of romance is crashing…oh, no, no, no….!

I will go back to work now…this is a lousy piece. I just want to write something, and as Sir Expector said, write whenever you feel like writing. :)